confessions (flame free)

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Lately, I can't stop thinking about going back to school. If I had unlimited funds, i'd quit my job today and get a law degree. When I was a kid all I talked about was being a lawyer and I don't know what happened.

My 30th is coming up in about 6 weeks and I can't help but feel that I'm not living up to my full potential.

Don't leave me hanging. Someone else confess something. Go.

[picksthemusic]

I'm hating work right now. Like - HATE. All I want to do is stay home and play house and be with my baby.

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They offered him a promotion here and scrapped the whole plan of splitting up the team. We're staying.

I'm going to lunch with my mentor today just to shoot the shiz, I might tell her about this and see what she says.

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May 23, 2012 9:45:54 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

Also, law schools have night programs...which are mostly older students w/ careers who are returning to school. That's something else to consider...

Reeeally. I was not aware of this...

[FrozenSunshine]

I'm two days into being home and I realize why I left. I miss the hell out of my parents when I'm away, but the energy it takes for my brothers and their families is too much.

Also I feel like a captive animal and can't get away since I'm staying at my parents.

[jennlin]

Uwhusky can be our resident traffic lawyer instead

[jennlin]

I also have a "I'm not living up to my potential" confession-- I know I can do more, I'm perfectly capeable of earning just as much money as h, but I don't *want* to. I want to be at home with my baby, which brings in zero income to the household. It makes me feel really guilty.

[Kahala]

ive been spending a bunch of money shopping/not being frugal with my money the last six month and my justification is that its the last year before we start TTC and will need to watch money closely. Feeling guilty cause H is not a spender and Im having all the fun.

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May 23, 2012 9:45:02 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

May 23, 2012 9:41:48 GMT -5 @uwhuskygirl said:

They offered him a promotion here and scrapped the whole plan of splitting up the team. We're staying.

I'm going to lunch with my mentor today just to shoot the shiz, I might tell her about this and see what she says.

Yay!

It's a kinda sorta yay. He hates his new role because he doesn't get to do the stuff that he really likes and more and he has to manage more people, but yay we get to stay.

[jennlin]

May 23, 2012 10:13:45 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

May 23, 2012 9:54:12 GMT -5 jennlin said:

I also have a "I'm not living up to my potential" confession-- I know I can do more, I'm perfectly capeable of earning just as much money as h, but I don't *want* to. I want to be at home with my baby, which brings in zero income to the household. It makes me feel really guilty.

www.forbes.com/sites/jennagoudreau/2011/05/02/why-stay-at-home-moms-should-earn-a-115000-salary/

yeah, i've seen this before--the thing is..i'd be doing all these things *anyway*, on top of working 40hrs/wk. i feel like those numbers are just completely arbitrary.

the problem is, we have free family-daycare, so it's not like we'd be losing that money if i went back to work..i'd be going to not work, just to not work. there is *no* financial benefit/savings for me to be at home, since MIL does not work already, and is just dying to watch the baby.

[libbride]

I've been sick the past year and a half and lost a ton of weight. Now I've gained some back so I'm healthier, but some of my clothes no longer fit. I know my body is still adjusting, but all I want to do is go buy clothes.

I've spent so much on clothes the past year it isn't funny.

[picksthemusic]

May 23, 2012 10:20:23 GMT -5 jennlin said:

May 23, 2012 10:13:45 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

www.forbes.com/sites/jennagoudreau/2011/05/02/why-stay-at-home-moms-should-earn-a-115000-salary/

yeah, i've seen this before--the thing is..i'd be doing all these things *anyway*, on top of working 40hrs/wk. i feel like those numbers are just completely arbitrary.

the problem is, we have free family-daycare, so it's not like we'd be losing that money if i went back to work..i'd be going to not work, just to not work. there is *no* financial benefit/savings for me to be at home, since MIL does not work already, and is just dying to watch the baby.

That'd be our situation if my ILs lived close like yours. My MIL would watch our baby (which I'd happily let her do since I love her so much - it's FIL I can't stand most of the time), so we'd just be pocketing the extra money we'd save from not spending it on child care. Thing is, if I was a SAHM, we'd be losing my salary and we can't live on DH's salary alone, not with the current lifestyle we're used to. I do, however, use my company's child-care SA that gives us $300 a month back (which is nice). It's such a double-edged sword.

[georgeharrison]

On the same line - I've been feeling pretty guilty about being a SAHM/W lately. Tman is in school all day (except half day on Wed). I do keep the house clean, do all the errands, cook all the food, etc., but it's not an all day job. For a long time, I was doing projects around the house, but things are pretty much in good order now, and I've kind of run out. So, I spend close to half my day really doing nothing.

Tman's school doesn't have bus service or before/after school care, so it's really hard to find a job that works around his school schedule, but I think in the fall, I'm going to at least try to find a retail job. Bringing home minimum wage for a few hours a week is better than me just sitting at home doing nothing for those few hours, right?

James is really sweet and always says that our household runs well how things are. He hates doing housework or errands and likes that we don't have to spend our evenings or weekends worrying about anything like that. But, I still feel guilty like I'm not doing my part. Although I do have to say that since I've been home I have been able to lower some of our bills like cable, insurance, etc., and have put in all the effort on our soon happening refinance that will save us a couple hundred/month. So, I guess I am adding some $ value to our household, but still.

UW - I dream of returning to school as well. I don't know what I'd major in, or if I'd even have a real major, but I always loved college classes and would love to take a class here and there. James started taking some classes this quarter, and I'm really jealous, but he actually has a goal in mind. I think you should consider it. If you've always wanted to be a lawyer, see if you can make it work.

[amandasw]

for whatever reason I'm in a funk today. I can tell I'm in a funk, but don't know how to get out. arg.

[jennlin]

oh oh...another confession. i hate the term "flame free confessions"..bc nothing is truly flame free. if you tell me you kicked a homeless man because he was sleeping on the sidewalk, i will judge you....even if you tell me in the "flame free" thread.

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May 23, 2012 11:52:11 GMT -5 jennlin said:

oh oh...another confession. i hate the term "flame free confessions"..bc nothing is truly flame free. if you tell me you kicked a homeless man because he was sleeping on the sidewalk, i will judge you....even if you tell me in the "flame free" thread.

You can flame as much as you want in your head, but the thread itself will remain flame free.

So, yes, you're right it's never truly flame free.

[madDawg228]

May 23, 2012 12:17:32 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

This kid will really be named Thor.

imo, that is totally appropriate name for a Ballard Baby

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Ugh, for some reason, I just want to SPEND MONEY LIKE IT GROWS ON TREES right now!!

• I gave in and just spent $30 on 3 yards of fabric, something I never do for a plain cotton print, but I lusted after this fabric so long and went to buy it and they had sold out. And it's discontinued. And one person had 3 yards for sale on Etsy.
  
• I just found 2 fabrics on clearance at a store in Portland that I want for a project, mostly for a present for a friend who lives in India. So there's more shipping to pay...and the pattern to purchase, but at least I can hold off on that.
  
• Plus, there's a dress I've wanted since last fall I haven't bought yet from ModCloth and summer is coming up when I'd actually wear it. And if I'm buying that, I might as well buy the hook I like to save on shipping.
  
• AND....Nordie's Semi-Annual sale starts today. Which actually is perfect timing because I need new jeans and the brand I like has two cuts on sale, about $25-30 off each, so that's good. I have a $100 GC from my birthday still, and $10 Nordie bucks. But I also want these shoesshop.nordstrom.com/S/seychelles-mixed-emotions-pump/3278892?origin=category, even though I know rationally I would wear them really rarely. REALLY rarely. But they're sooooo cute!
  

And that's just my SHOPPING confession!!

I hate that my house is a mess. All. The. Time. Partly because we hardly have any bookshelves. Partly because I'm so tired after work that it's too much to keep up on. I can't get it all done on the weekends PLUS the house-projects PLUS any relaxing.

H is super-smart. I wish he could figure out how to apply himself better and figure out a REAL career he would enjoy and make more money at. I want to be a SAHM and go get a second edumacation to round out the skills for a job I ACTUALLY want.

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I got invited to my friends court house wedding on June 15 yesterday. I have met his FI twice and while she is nice I really don't know her. He has been divorced less than a year and it was really messy. This will be his third marriage and I really hope he isn't rushing into it. He swore that he was never getting married again so I just hope he is making the right decision. She has 4 kids and he has none so it throws in a whole new aspect.

[llh0211]

May 23, 2012 13:08:26 GMT -5 @ksta said:

But I also want these shoesshop.nordstrom.com/S/seychelles-mixed-emotions-pump/3278892?origin=category, even though I know rationally I would wear them really rarely. REALLY rarely. But they're sooooo cute!

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Those are cute! I don't love the heel part, but I the rest is super adorable!

Today is my last day at work. I haven't done much of anything. I kind of feel guilty, but at the same time, I don't want to get too involved in something to just hand off.

I feel like I'm hoping for BFF & her BF to break up so she'll move back to WA as well. In all honesty, I don't know that they're right for each other, and have felt that way since before my decision to move. He's a good guy, and I do like him. I just don't know that he's right for her.

[amandasw]

[quote author=ksta board=seattle thread=8685 post=126078
[/li][li]Plus, there's a dress I've wanted since last fall I haven't bought yet from ModCloth and summer is coming up when I'd actually wear it. And if I'm buying that, I might as well buy the hook I like to save on shipping.

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which dress?!

[sarack]

every time i see my cousin and her baby, it makes me want to scream. first of all, she got knocked up while at jobcorps with a guy who got kicked out for a dirty ua. she lives at home with her dad, no job. they decided they didn't want to live there anymore so they moved in with his drug addict mom and wellfare-esq house. they found a fucking dog thati 'm sure they can't take care of.. it just makes me sick.. oh, also the government not only gives her money for food and spending, but now they're paying for her school. i'm ready for a baby, i'd love to go to school for free.. some one please give me free money. i know i've only been trying for 5 mo but it's sad that some one so close to me is living like this.. and i'm responsible. seriously, the place she is staying, i wouldn't let my child inside that house.

[niq]

May 23, 2012 9:45:54 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

Also, law schools have night programs...which are mostly older students w/ careers who are returning to school. That's something else to consider...

The UW has a night MBA program, I have a friend who works in Xbox who did it and loved it.

[niq]

I think registered sex offender databases are immoral, but when I went to go buy a house I checked out the address.

I can't decide if "Call me Maybe" is just too catchy to get out of my head or if I actually like it.

Apparently my sister now thinks that one of our cousins may not be a blood relative b/c he's nowhere near as much of a redneck as his brothers, sisters, or parents. And there's more than a zero chance that she's right (it's possible that aunt D had an affair early on in the marriage). I don't know what to think about this at all, or the fact that my sister spends any time thinking about this.

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SARACK It's so not fair how often people who WANT a baby, and are responsible, etc, have to wait, meanwhile these irresponsible people have them as easily as breathing.

amandasw - this one
www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/riviera-romance-dress

These are the two hooks i want
www.modcloth.com/shop/organize/welcome-roam-wall-hook
www.modcloth.com/shop/organize/got-it-on-lock-wall-hook

((Ok, I miss TN's ability to hyperlink text rather than having to post the whole image. Also, adding a PIP isn't as easy ))

[niq]

May 23, 2012 14:03:08 GMT -5 @ksta said:

((Ok, I miss TN's ability to hyperlink text rather than having to post the whole image. Also, adding a PIP isn't as easy ))

Pretty sure this still works ... what are you trying to do? Make a link like this? Or make a PIP clicky like the one below?



Or something else?

[niq]

May 23, 2012 12:20:43 GMT -5 madDawg228 said:

May 23, 2012 12:17:32 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

This kid will really be named Thor.

imo, that is totally appropriate name for a Ballard Baby

+1. It'd be great as a middle name -- it would be bada$$ to be "Jonathan Thor Lastname" at graduation or whatever.

[Deleted]

Niq - yes, like that! How do I do that? DO I just have to annoying memorize code? It didn't seem to give me fancy options like that when I go into "long reply" mode.

[Deleted]

If I had let R name E his name would have been Optimus Maximus.

[sarack]

niq- i love call me maybe!!!!!!