Why are men so stubborn/stupid

[Deleted]

and I mean this in the nicest way...

DH has a mole that looks like it is growing. It is on his head.

I made him an appt with the dermatologist. He is claiming he can't miss work for the next 4 weeks to go to the derm.

[heightsyankee]

No kidding, MrD.

As a mother of 2 boys, I think they're just wired that way. It's amazing how much I see my sons exhibit behaviors that have always annoyed me in men.

[Deleted]

I want to call his boss and "tell on him"...

DH says he could do Monday so I call back to the dermatologist and the scheduler says the next available appt is October if he can't do Friday.

[Deleted]

We are just like that. No one knows why. I find myself resisting such things, then when I think about it, I have no reason to do so at all. Its very odd.

[wawa]

reason #28697 I think I'm secretly a man.

A really cute man with nice boobs.

Besides my yearly gyn, I have never gone to the doctor in a timely fashion without being nagged. Most things get better on their own dammit! Also...half the time when I go to the doctor they don't help anyway.

[redheadbaker]

I'm confused. Why does he have to miss four weeks of work for a mole? I've had three removed and I only ever missed half a day for each one.

[meshaliuknits]

May 23, 2012 11:29:39 GMT -5 wawa said:

reason #28697 I think I'm secretly a man.

A really cute man with nice boobs.

This, but swap out boobs for butt. See the # thread for further proof.

[druidp]

You need to acquaint him with the Izzy-cancer portions of Grey's, STAT.

[marie427]

I don't think this is restricted to men. Lots of men and women put off going to the doctor.

[earlgreyhot]

I'm fall into the "put it off" category with regards to regular illness, but I don't mess around with anything potentially cancerous.

DH definitely shuns it though. He's got high blood pressure and didn't find a new doctor when his meds ran out. They had some screening at work and the lady almost sent him to the hospital on a stretcher it was do high. He's fine, had a script now and monitoring, but damn.

[Deleted]

Here is my deep thought after thinking about this. I think its to do with vulnerability. Men hate to feel vulnerable - and women do too, I am sure - but a woman seems more open to feeling that way and then seeking comfort from their partner, whereas a man feels that way and pushes against the feeling, rather than dealing with it or thinking his partner will help. I dont think it is something we consciously consider, more a base reaction.

Just a guess based on my own feelings about it.

[2vermont]

I love that we have a few men on this board to enlighten us. :-)

[msmerymac]

May 23, 2012 11:29:39 GMT -5 wawa said:

reason #28697 I think I'm secretly a man.

A really cute man with nice boobs.

Besides my yearly gyn, I have never gone to the doctor in a timely fashion without being nagged. Most things get better on their own dammit! Also...half the time when I go to the doctor they don't help anyway.

I'm the same way. And I probably only do my yearly gyn because I need my BC prescription refilled.

I had one hell of an ear infection in college and I didn't want to go to the on-campus health center, 1/4 mile from my dorm. Because I'd had walking pneumonia 6 weeks earlier and didn't want to seem weak.

[wawa]

May 23, 2012 17:21:56 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

May 23, 2012 11:29:39 GMT -5 wawa said:

reason #28697 I think I'm secretly a man.

A really cute man with nice boobs.

Besides my yearly gyn, I have never gone to the doctor in a timely fashion without being nagged. Most things get better on their own dammit! Also...half the time when I go to the doctor they don't help anyway.

I'm the same way. And I probably only do my yearly gyn because I need my BC prescription refilled.

I had one hell of an ear infection in college and I didn't want to go to the on-campus health center, 1/4 mile from my dorm. Because I'd had walking pneumonia 6 weeks earlier and didn't want to seem weak.

I had an awful cold (or mono? pneumonia? the plague? ) freshman year that caused me to do nothing but lay in my bed and eat saltines mushed into a bit of water and hack up a lung for 3 weeks. I lost 15 lbs. My roommates thought I was dying. I finally cracked at week 2 and went to campus health and they sent me home with a bag of cough drops and some OTC cough meds.

I have not been to the doctor for a cold type sickness since. If "I can't breath without coughing, my throat feels like it's in pieces and I haven't had enough energy to eat real food in 2 weeks" just gets cough drops then what is the point of a doctor's visit? I got better eventually.

[statlerwaldorf]

My mom is the same way. She had skin cancer on her forehead, but kept putting off getting it checked out. By the time she finally went to the doctor, it had spread and she had to have a good chunk of her forehead removed. She's lucky it didn't spread further. Now she has another mole her family doctor told her to go get checked out, but she still hasn't made the appointment. Wtf.