something isn't right.(UPDATE in OP)

[thoseareradishes]

Are you charting? You may have just ovulated later than usual. Stress can mess your cycle up.

[housegeek]

Stress could do it. I had a 38 day cycle this year because of stress.

[blindyswife]

Did you O later than normal? I think once you O, it's unlikely that your LP will be greater in length due to stress. But I could be wrong on that.

FX for ya!

[jewel]

I'm sorry....It's unlikely that you're pregnant if you're still getting negatives past 16dpo.

I think that stress, or just a wonky cycle, is probably most likely. I have 27 or 28 day cycles, like clockwork. A few months ago I had a 33 day cycle. I probably took 10 extra tests that month. I cursed my body for the cruel joke.

On the bright side, tell your husband that stress is very bad on your cycle so he must give you massages/chocolate/etc. regularly in order to calm things down. That's what I did, at least :-)

[awick14]

Not to stress you out but this sounds like me last year.

I went off BCP in may 2011. I had 28 day cycles like clock work until sept 2011, then nothing at CD65 a doctor (not my family as i was working out of town) did a blood test, (after ~10 BFN from POAS). Test still neg, did more blood work at ~CD80.

She kept saying I was stressed an that was it. I scheduled an appointment with my family doctor the next time I was home. (~CD90) He gave me a prescription for pills to take for 10 days. After you stop them I had 2 periods in January. Then nothing again in February. So he then put me back on BCP for 3 months to try and regulate me. After I went off the BCP in may of 2012 I have had 45-50 day cycles. They are slowly getting shorter each month.

We are now actively TTC as of this month as my doctor has some concerns about my cycle, but as long as I chart an keep track of everything he says that he will keep an eye on things as see how it goes.

I hope your situation turns out way better because its been a long year an a half to get to this point.

[FastHands]

I don't think you have anything to worry about at just 5 days late, especially if you aren't TTC yet. I've been off BCP for 6 months, with just a day or 2 variation in length, but this cycle was longer for who-knows-what reason. It was a 34 day cycle, but AF did finally come and I have no reason to believe that this is a sign of anything more serious than an odd cycle.

Try not to stress yourself out (easier said than done, I know!), and don't worry quite so early. Focus on dealing with your job stress, and hopefully AF will be here before you know it!

[sunflower22]

No need to panic! Happens to everyone at some point. One late cycle due to stress is no reason to quit your job. Unless you want to quit for other reasons too lol. Don't worry!

[Cheesecake]

Getting a period that late (not yet in your case) sucks major balls, but it can happen. Definitely go and ask your doctor. All kinds of things could postpone O and AF. Not just stress. Have you been sick, had a weird sleep rhythm, more or less to drink than normal.

Don't worry too much. I realize it sucks really bad and that you will worry, but the fluke completely weird and way late period unfortunately happens to everyone once in a while.

As an example. My cycle is almost like clockwork, basically 26 and a quarter days (I kid you not, every month my period starts about 6 hours later than the cycle before. About once every year it just comes in waaaayyyyy early or way late. It's like it's resetting itself to the moon or whatever. I've had it come in 10 days early, but also 10 days late. Sucky poo and very confusing, but after a few years of this happening, I know it just does and besides POAS I just ignore it. The next month my cycle will be clockwork again.

Hope AF comes soon, but don't let it stress you out too much (because that could only delay it more...)

Good luck!!

[FastHands]

omg I can't believe your cycle is literally like clockwork to the HOUR, NL. lol That's craziness!

[winecheery]

Just wanted to add that I'm sorry things are being screwy, and I hope this cycle resolves itself soon!

[winecheery]

I mean...ttc aside, if you have a job that repeatedly raises your blood pressure and heart rate and there's no calming you (like through meditation, yoga, etc) I'm not sure that any job is worth that. :-|

But, would you just be stressed out searching for a new job??? Or do you not have to work? If it's the latter, yeah, quit who cares?! Why stress for no reason?

But if a job search is going to be equal to the stress you're experiencing now, maybe you can talk to your superiors at work and try to find ways to cut back your stress levels. (I forget what you do)

[FastHands]

Yeah, I would get your stress under control regardless of TTC. Are you exercising? That could help with stress/bp/heart rate. Ditto PP's suggestions about yoga or meditation etc.

[jewel]

I'll echo the others....

It really depends on your job, and your need to work. Is your job really stressful for any particular reason? Is it just the nature of your job? Also, do you need to work?

If it is just normal job stress, I think you're better off learning to work through and manage the stress. A new job may be just as stressful, as is TTC and being a parent. Plenty of people still get pregnant while feeling stressed. I think your personal health and ability to manage the stress should be an important consideration though, not the TTC piece.

[sunflower22]

What a bitch. I cant stand people like that, they are usually the most insecure. Make sure to document everything.

[winecheery]

omg autumn that sounds awful! And ditto what sun said, get everything in writing!

Glad you're going to the top of the chain of command too.

[Deleted]

I wouldn't quit.

I'd tell her to shut her pie hole.

Seriously: people treat you how you let them treat you. If she's not your boss, and no one else is going to deal with it, deal with her as a bully and stand up for yourself. Just say "I won't be spoken to that way" and walk away.

[Deleted]

The solution isn't simple, necessarily, but if you're to the point where you're considering quitting, I highly advise trying just not giving a fuck.

It really helps. Don't yell back. Don't argue. Just stick to "I don't appreciate being spoken to like that" and a blank stare. It will piss her off and make her look crazy, which when you're in a I-don't-give-a-fuck frame of mind becomes amusing rather than stressful.

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Nov 14, 2012 13:15:41 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

Nov 14, 2012 13:08:34 GMT -5 swizzlestx said:

Then tell her you'll be happy to discuss this with her when she lowers her tone and walk off.

Why can't you tell your boss what's going on? Does she not believe you? Just say, "I'm really trying to work respectfully with CWer, but I don't appreciate her yelling at me. I'm happy to help her, but refuse to be spoken to that way."

If your boss is allowing her to act like that, then the situation isn't going to get resolved and you need to seriously look for another job.

My boss' reaction has been "well, we all know how CW is, but she is really good at her job so you need to find a way to work with her"

I was bullied at work a few years ago, and got this same reaction from my boss. Specifically, I was told I needed to have "thicker skin." It sucked. And I'm in the military (and was deployed at the time!) so quitting or asking to be reassigned to another unit wasn't an option for me. Fortunately I got reassigned after the deployment and hopefully won't ever have to put up with THAT asshat again.

Being bullied at work sucks big time. I'm sorry you're going through this.

[tarheels]

I hope it goes well with the president! Hopefully he values you as an employee and takes action!