"Date" update

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So we ended up having an awesome, awesome time. For anyone who knows my history here, I'm really not that interested in dating or relationships (perhaps a little cynical) and it takes A LOT for me to be remotely interested in him.

He's adorable and funny and as an added bonus is looking for a similar type of relationship as me, which is exclusively casual, seeing each other 2-3 a weeks. But he also craves his alone time. Ah-mah-zing.

We went out for dinner at a delicious place with southern tapas and then we were going to grab coffee, but found a dive karaoke bar and popped in instead.

The real drawback is that he's pretty fresh off his divorce. I feel like we could have a really good connection, but want him to work through that stuff more thoroughly first and not be the rebound chick. I'm planning to stay friends with him and then see how things progress in the coming months.

He's coming to my birthday part on Saturday which also involves karaoke and he promised to be my back up dancer. Hilarious.

[Lauren88]

I'm happy to hear it went well! Major bonus points that he likes to karaoke too!

[starryfish]

Glad to hear it went well! ;D

[dakotadangerdog]

Backup dancer?! He sounds like a fun guy

[doriswe]

I'm glad you had fun and he sounds like a hoot!!

[farfalla2011]

That is exciting!! Sounds like you've met a pretty great guy! Hope things continue to progress well

[Deleted]

Thanks ladies! I'm trying not to get too ahead of myself here. At the very least I was able to sustain a successful five hour hang out with the opposite sex. Which is actually really hard for me.

[bullygirl979]

Glad it went well!!

[starburst604]

Glad it went well! I'm wondering the same about the guy I went out with the other night. He's still technically married, not sure what the anticipated date of the divorce being final is but they've been living apart and coparenting for 2 years. He's dated previously but nothing serious. I hope there aren't some big huge issues he should be working through before getting involved again. He was pretty upfront about what led to the divorce and seems to own his part in it. I guess I'll just be cautious and try to get more information.

[compassrose]

May 11, 2012 11:23:41 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

The real drawback is that he's pretty fresh off his divorce. I feel like we could have a really good connection, but want him to work through that stuff more thoroughly first and not be the rebound chick. I'm planning to stay friends with him and then see how things progress in the coming months.

Sounds like a great date, and the above seems like a good plan. I'm wondering, though, is the bolded his plan or yours? Seems like if he's self-aware enough to be saying this and not looking for anything serious now, that's great. But you can't make someone figure out his shit, you know?

[riverpestie]

You should totally record him as your back up dancer!!

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May 11, 2012 13:51:51 GMT -5 compassrose said:

May 11, 2012 11:23:41 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

The real drawback is that he's pretty fresh off his divorce. I feel like we could have a really good connection, but want him to work through that stuff more thoroughly first and not be the rebound chick. I'm planning to stay friends with him and then see how things progress in the coming months.

Sounds like a great date, and the above seems like a good plan. I'm wondering, though, is the bolded his plan or yours? Seems like if he's self-aware enough to be saying this and not looking for anything serious now, that's great. But you can't make someone figure out his shit, you know?

Oh he definitely is. He's actually dealing really well, he made the decision to leave, but he says things like "I've realized it's important that I'm on my own right now and just get to know me again." I mean who knows if we will ever end up actually dating or not, but he seems to have a good shoulder on his head.