Can you say anything?

[hensmum]

I'm curious - Can you say just about anything to your partner?

Elaborations on each option:

"Yep. If I think it, I can say it." - You don't really have to worry about offending your partner or being misunderstood. You feel totally comfortable talking about most things. No filter.

"No way. My partner is sensitive, etc." - You often watch what you say or how you say it, not wanting to be misunderstood, cause offense, hurt feelings, or an argument.

"Somewhat. We just watch how we say it " - You can talk about any topic with your partner, or whatever is on your mind - but you might just choose your words carefully and not just let it all fly. There is some filter.

[ct]

No filter was a marriage requirement. For better or for worse

[quinny]

No filter 90% of the time

[2brides]

Big filter. L is super duper sensitive.

[kershnic]

Weelll... there's no topic I'd say we *can't* discuss. But there is a fine art to approaching some things.

[kershnic]

But what are we talking about here.... criticizing someone's parenting? Telling your wife she gained weight? Politics? Sex? Some of those are easier than others!

[rikkiandjulie]

J was pretty sensitive so it was a balance of I need to say this in the least hurtful way


Rikki-iPhone

[hensmum]

kershnic - I mean, in general. Including hard topics - but maybe not the hardest of the hard

[ct]

guess I'm the bitch of the group. lucky Andrea, lol!

[kershnic]

calling my wife sensative might be on the list of things to approach delicately. Maybe. Just sayin'.

[hensmum]

kershnic - Ha. Same here.

ct - nah, you were just smart enough to have it on your must-list

[2brides]

Nov 13, 2012 14:35:43 GMT -5 kershnic said:

calling my wife sensative might be on the list of things to approach delicately. Maybe. Just sayin'.

Yup. Double Yup. Triple Yup.

[ct]

Nov 13, 2012 14:54:13 GMT -5 2brides said:

Nov 13, 2012 14:35:43 GMT -5 kershnic said:

calling my wife sensative might be on the list of things to approach delicately. Maybe. Just sayin'.

Yup. Double Yup. Triple Yup.

really? this is like a glimpse into a whole new world for me! I'm so intrigued.

[rikkiandjulie]

No you aren't a bitch CT. I just learned over time that Julie can't handle EVERYthing that comes out of my mouth, I really have no filter.


Rikki-iPhone

[ElsaVonM]

I'm careful not to hurt her feelings, of course. But she is my safe zone and I'm hers, for sure.

[joyseattle]

I voted "Yep. If I think it, I can say it," with the caveat that I try (and have been trying moreso this past year) to be extra conscious/intentional about what/how I say things, both in general and to C specifically. Elsa's responses are scaring me as that was along the lines of what I was going to say.

[kershnic]

Nov 13, 2012 15:22:52 GMT -5 ct said:

Nov 13, 2012 14:54:13 GMT -5 2brides said:

Yup. Double Yup. Triple Yup.

really? this is like a glimpse into a whole new world for me! I'm so intrigued.

Haha. It's funny because sometimes when you talk about you and A I find myself feeling like we're very similar...but then there's things like this where it's so very obvious we're not.