Text break up

[kaneen]

Well ladies, this is a new one for me. So I've been dating a guy for about 3 months now. We met on match and basically clicked right away and started spending a pretty good bit of time together - on average 4 nights a week.

We went to the beach together this weekend. The trip was his idea. We had a great time, or so I thought.

We got back on Monday and I could tell something was off from Monday night until Wednesday. I talked to him briefly Wed night at which time he said he was pulling up to his place and would call me back in a second. One hour later I still hadn't heard from him so I called him but didn't leave a message. I waited about 30 minutes and when I didn't hear back from him I sent a text that said, "Gimme a call...we should talk". I was basically going to bring up his sudden iciness. I got a text back about an hour later that said this, "Your right. Ever since the trip I have been struggling with "us". I just don't think we are compatible. I don't want to continue to date. I'm sorry!"

Yes, the mispelling of "Your" was his.

Seriously, what kind of adult does this???

[starryfish]

Ugh, sorry that sucks.

Well at least you know and can move the FUCK on! (Sorry I just wanted to say fuck)

[Deleted]

OMG! That sucks. I'm really sorry. But glad you didn't waste anymore time with this douche canoe.

[kaneen]

My neighbors keep calling him a douche canoe too...love it!

Oh, and the kicker. The text break up was Wednesday night. He's back on Match ALREADY. Fuck face.

[bullygirl979]

I think it is pretty fucking obvious that he can't handle a relationship.

I know it sucks but you dodged a bullet, IMHO!

[missbetty1]

I'm not ready to curse yet although I need to get it out of my system LOL but yeah F*CK HIM! See this is one of the reason why I just want go hide under a rock and never date again!

[riverpestie]

That's chicken shit.

[kellbell191]

A fucking loser, that's who does that.

And now you know why he's still single. On to better guys!

[dakotadangerdog]

May 11, 2012 11:49:34 GMT -5 kellbell191 said:

A fucking loser, that's who does that.

And now you know why he's still single. On to better guys!

when I click the thumbs up it gives me a cry face, WHAT THE FUCK?

but thumps up to this.

[Lauren88]

What a fucking pussy! The fact that he couldn't even give you the curtsy to break up with you with a phone call speaks volumes! Was it a bad weekend trip? Do you know what led to him saying this?
Count your lucky stars he ended things, what a douchebag!!

[ravenb1111]

Wouldn't it be awesome if you could write a review on match? I'm sorry.. Guys can be such dick douches ( from fwb movie) like hey bud you asked me to the beach. Be glad you got rid of him..

[kaneen]

I really thought the beach trip was awesome. He seemed totally normal and into me the whole time. The sex didn't lack or anything and he was just as affectionate as he'd always been.

I really do wish I could write a reivew on Match or something. Well, I say that but I never actually would do it. That would just make me look foolish but damn how I'd like to!

[ravenb1111]

I'd write a review like don't date.. He's scared of 'us'.. Because last time I checked the whole point of dating sites or dating in general is to find an 'us' but what do I know.. Just be happy it's 3 months not 3 years with a baby on the way and he's all like yea I just don't know about a family.. I swear these boys now a days are pansies lol

[Lauren88]

May 11, 2012 12:03:35 GMT -5 kaneen said:

I really thought the beach trip was awesome. He seemed totally normal and into me the whole time. The sex didn't lack or anything and he was just as affectionate as he'd always been.

I really do wish I could write a reivew on Match or something. Well, I say that but I never actually would do it. That would just make me look foolish but damn how I'd like to!

This makes me wonder if he had such a great time with you that it scared him so he dumped you to avoid your relationship advancing. Which if that was the reason, he obviously has some major issues that you don't want to be a part of.

[bullygirl979]

May 11, 2012 12:29:43 GMT -5 Lauren88 said:

May 11, 2012 12:03:35 GMT -5 kaneen said:

I really thought the beach trip was awesome. He seemed totally normal and into me the whole time. The sex didn't lack or anything and he was just as affectionate as he'd always been.

I really do wish I could write a reivew on Match or something. Well, I say that but I never actually would do it. That would just make me look foolish but damn how I'd like to!

This makes me wonder if he had such a great time with you that it scared him so he dumped you to avoid your relationship advancing. Which if that was the reason, he obviously has some major issues that you don't want to be a part of.

Totally my thoughts.

[callunafirefly]

May 11, 2012 12:40:25 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

May 11, 2012 12:29:43 GMT -5 Lauren88 said:

This makes me wonder if he had such a great time with you that it scared him so he dumped you to avoid your relationship advancing. Which if that was the reason, he obviously has some major issues that you don't want to be a part of.

Totally my thoughts.

Agree - I was also "dumped" by text by someone who had this same fear. We were together 6 months. Eventually will did talk through things...I guess that was my "closure"

[Deleted]

What an asshole!

[blackkitty]

what a dick

[compassrose]

This makes me think of the SATC where Carrie gets dumped on a post-it. Total douche move. I'm sorry : (

[starburst604]

That is really, really, shitty. I'm sorry. I'm sure you aren't the first person he's done this to.

[BlueBayou]

Immature Dickwad he is. You can find better

[charitylynne79]

Dickwad asswipe asshole loser whatever you wanna call it - you can do better. Hello over a text? That's pathetic.

[wrathofkuus]

He did owe you a better breakup than that, but I can sympathize with going on a trip with someone you'd previously been crazy about, and realizing that you'd gotten your fill for a whole lifetime of that person in that one large dose.

[hainesherway]

I'm sorry, that was really shitty of him! You deserve better!

[BookLover]

That is a true douchebag. You dodged a bullet, sorry it had to happen that way though.

[kaneen]

Thanks all. Your responses helped!

And Kuus, trust me, I get what you are saying but we'd spent 4 days in a row together (overnights!) previously so it's not like this was a sudden difference. I guess the whole thing was so shocking b/c I had no clue that anything had changed until we got back.

Anywho, onward and upward!

[achase123]

After three months a text message break-up...wow!!! Next!