When did you tell people

[Deleted]

Family? Coworkers? Boss?

I waited until 12 weeks with my first, but I'd like to tell some people sooner this time. We have told my parents, my H's mom (his parents are divorced), and two of my colleagues who can cover my class when I run to the bathroom.

Would you feel comfortable telling people before you see the heartbeat? I don't see a doctor until 12/10 and I have no idea if they will do an ultrasound or not. New OB.

[urbancowgirl]

We are waiting until the first trimester is over. It's our first, so we're being cautious.

[sake]

I told my parents the day after I got a positive test. That was around 5 weeks. We told a few close friends who would know something was up when I wasn't drinking at dinner in the following weeks.
The rest of my family and friends found out around 12 or 13 weeks.
I told my boss late, around 23 weeks, because I was waiting to get my contract back for the school year before I told him, and I wasn't showing a ton yet.
I still haven't "officially" announced it to my co-workers. Some have asked, and I have told the truth, but I am a pretty private person at work, so I don't want to make a big deal about it.

[callie]

We're waiting until after the first trimester which will be around Christmas time so we're telling everyone then.

[Deleted]

We're waiting after the first trimester to tell anyone. I was a wreck after my miscarriage three months ago, and don't want to go through telling people about that again.

[iheartvino]

H told his parents, boss, a few friends, random people on the street, etc almost before the test was taken.

I'm waiting till after our first appt to tell my parents, probably around 12 weeks to tell my sisters and I'll tell my boss when I have my annual review, which will probably be in December. I would wait for my boss, but it just makes sense then, because we'll be talking about goals for 2013.

[winofairy]

We told my MIL right after the positive hpt. She was very supportive during all of our failed IF procedures. We told my parents after we saw a heartbeat. I told my work around 12-13 weeks. I didn't announce on facebook until 23 weeks. We suffered a loss last year and we wanted to be more cautious this time around.

[wkatie]

We told family at about 8 weeks and just started telling close friends after our 12 week u/s last week. I think we might wait to tell the world, i.e. FB, until we find out the sex - just announce that all at once.

ETA: told work today. After normal NT screening results yesterday. (Yay!)

[joolz]

For the first one, we told once the dr gave us the all clear after hearing the heartbeat, which was around 10 weeks.

For this one, it was a bit of a hot mess for a number of reasons. I was outed by a mean girl at work when I was 8 weeks which fucking sucked. I told the last of my family last night (I'm 14 weeks today) just because of vacations etc and the way timing worked out. I told my three best friends ages ago.

[alzi]

Best friend immediately.
Parents and ML at 6 weeks.
ILs at 8 weeks.
Work at 12 weeks.
The world, aka Facebook, at 14 weeks.

[RBL]

My mom - immediately
My sisters and brother - As we saw them between 6-10 weeks
MIL/FIL & SIL - About 12 weeks was when we finally got to visit with them. We would have told them sooner but wanted to do it in person and had a lot of time conflicts with them from about 6 weeks until we actually told them
Work - 13 Weeks

We haven't announced via facebook or anything. I am not sure I really want to.

[HoneySpider]

We told our parents and siblings really early, right before 5 weeks. One, I knew I wasn't going to be able to keep the secret but two, we were seeing some of my friends the next weekend and they were definitely going to figure out what was up when I wasn't drinking. So, we wanted to make sure close family knew first. Two friends of mine and one of DH's knows and that's it for now.

We'll tell everyone else once we get good results from the NT scan and the ultrasound. We plan on announcing it on our Christmas card that will go to family and close friends (we won't see any of them for the holidays to tell in person). As far as co-workers, casual friends, etc I think it will just be a play it by ear kind of thing.

[jssymom14]

Family at 6 weeks after positive bloodwork, co-workers at 10 weeks, facebook at 14 weeks

[mrssandro]

I have told all parents (5 for us) and a few very close friends. All are sworn to secrecy. I wanted to have their support if something happened. I will not out myself on FB till the end of my first tri and I have heard the heartbeat. If I out myself on FB I know I will have to tell my boss since I work for a small company and I am friends with people at work.

First pg: I had a missed MC at 11 wk .. (made it to 5 weeks no hb) so I am extremely cautious.

In addition to that I also had a SCH last time I was pg with DD that did not stop until 15 weeks. So bleeding/spotting from 8 wks to 15 wks. This was especially hard after a loss.

I am really hoping a non complicated pregnancy. Surely this can exist for me.

[countthestars]

Parents and siblings are the only ones who know so far.

[looseseal]

W/ my first we told immediate family at about 6 weeks, extended family at 10 weeks, and work at 15 weeks.

This time, we told immediate family and work at the same time, about 6 weeks because of my hyperemesis. I would have preferred to wait longer just because pregnancy seems sooo long, but we needed the support while I was in and out of the hospital. We told extended family at about 10 weeks.

[mandapanda18]

I'm just over 6 weeks, the only person that knows (outside of my Hubby of course) is my direct boss. I have already been so sick, that I couldn't come up with reasons why I was not at my desk. I am confident that she will not tell anyone until I say it is okay.

I have my dating ultrasound on Monday morning, hoping to hear the HB and have a little bit of relief (I have had some major cyst/endo issues, and two prior surgeries for it, so I'm paranoid). We will annouce on Christmas (12 weeks to the day) if everything goes well.

it will be a fun surprise since my hubby and I have been married for 6.5 years and no one thinks we will ever be having children. My MIL has even resorted to calling my pup her granddaughter.

[imoan]

Sister immediately.
Parents at 9 weeks.
Everyone else at 13 weeks.

[emisi]

Family around 8 weeks, one good friend that I needed to have cover for me right after, and the rest of my friends between 14 and 20 weeks. I told my boss around 9 weeks, although I haven't told most of my coworkers yet... but frankly, I'm pretty sure they all know. Small office, lots of gossip. I don't deny anything if anyone mentions it.

[VillainV]

We told our parents immediately. Also, due to the dangerous nature of my job, I had to tell my boss right away (it meant being pulled from my primary duties and placed on desk duty, so he had to be in the loop). Being put on desk duty obviously alerted the majority of my coworkers, so most of them know. And a lot of our good friends know.

We don't do a Facebook announcement for a while (maybe in January when I'm in my second trimester?).