WWYD? Meeting for Dinner

[Pom]

My cousin is in town for work. We (both H & I) tentatively made plans to meet cousin for dinner. H has been in meetings today, have not talked to him, don't know if is an hour away, two hours away, or almost home but on the phone. When I call him, his phone goes to voicemail. No texts from him.

Cousin is at the pub which is still 30 minutes from our house. Should I just leave without H and bring something home for him? Option 2 is to wait, see if he calls and go together. Option 3 maybe that we let cousin have dinner by herself (on her company) and skip it. I feel like I will be an ass to someone here, but plans were tentative and when I don't hear from H.... WWYD?

ETA: We just had dinner w/cousin a couple of weeks ago and she is here every couple of months if that matters.

[countthestars]

I'd call cousin to see if she was starving or if she wanted me to come meet her. If she wants you to still come, I think I would leave H at home. But I'm starving right now so that might be my stomach talking

[casmgn]

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[Pom]

Nov 14, 2012 18:01:59 GMT -5 countthestars said:

I'd call cousin to see if she was starving or if she wanted me to come meet her. If she wants you to still come, I think I would leave H at home. But I'm starving right now so that might be my stomach talking

I am leaving. I really prefer H to be a buffer with cousin (we also went to HS together, LOL) but I really get tired of sitting around waiting on him. In his defense, he had big meetings and dragons to slay today. I really am an asshole in this situation any which way I cut it.

[aurora]

I don't think you're an asshole for going to a planned dinner with your cousin when you couldn't reach your husband. I don't think he's in the wrong either if it was just a terrible day at work, but sometimes these things happen.

[morningmania]

I would leave to meet cousin, and leave H a message or text or both that he can meet you there or you will bring him something home. To call you when he has a chance.

[dexteroni]

You're not an asshole. I would send DH a text, leave him a note at home in case his phone battery died or something, and go meet your cousin. If you don't hear from him during the meal, I would call his cell once more to see if he wants anything.