I don't want to let my foster go but it might be t

[mollymoe]

I'm so sad. This is my first time fostering and I suck at it. My husband and I just decided we would keep our foster dog but then we got an app in for her yesterday. I spoke to the applicant and it sounds like a really good home for her. So I'm torn.

I'm tempted to ask the coordinator of the rescue if it's too late but I don't want to cause problems either.

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[mollymoe]

The subject got cut off. I wanted to say it might be too late.

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[momof2boys]

Think of it this way...that dog was saved and will go to a new home, which leaves a spot in your home for you to save another dog I read somewhere once, "for every dog adopted it saves two lives..the one of the adopted dog, and the one who got to take his place."
That said, it must be so hard but you are doing a great thing!

[patches31709]

Nov 17, 2012 20:40:42 GMT -5 momof2boys said:

Think of it this way...that dog was saved and will go to a new home, which leaves a spot in your home for you to save another dog I read somewhere once, "for every dog adopted it saves two lives..the one of the adopted dog, and the one who got to take his place."
That said, it must be so hard but you are doing a great thing!

I agree. I give you a lot of credit because I don't think I could do it, but just think that if this is the right home for this foster, then you can save another.

[mollymoe]

I'm starting to come around. I know it is probably best for my foster, Gabby. Based on the phone call with the applicant, it sounds like a good fit. Gabby could even go to work with the woman applying!

I'll give her my email and ask for lots of updates.

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Nov 17, 2012 21:47:12 GMT -5 patches31709 said:

Nov 17, 2012 20:40:42 GMT -5 momof2boys said:

Think of it this way...that dog was saved and will go to a new home, which leaves a spot in your home for you to save another dog I read somewhere once, "for every dog adopted it saves two lives..the one of the adopted dog, and the one who got to take his place."
That said, it must be so hard but you are doing a great thing!

I agree. I give you a lot of credit because I don't think I could do it, but just think that if this is the right home for this foster, then you can save another.

exactly this.

And that sounds awesome for the foster that she can go to work with her new mom!

[dexteroni]

I've never fostered, but I imagine that the first is probably the hardest. It will be so gratifying once you've found wonderful homes for multiple dogs. You're doing such a wonderful thing!

[hz80408]

We started fostering this year and it is HARD. We already have one dog, so it's a challenge integrating the two slowly (double walks the first week etc), but by far the hardest part is saying goodbye when they get adopted.

We've fostered 3 dogs and all three have developed so much during their time spent at our house and come out of their shell. We just adopted out our first female/puppy mill dog on Sunday. I bawled as soon as I shut the door. My husband cried. We sat on the floor and cried with our dog. It's hard. You grew attached, especially when you help them so much (compared to their previous life).

I'm getting teary-eyed just writing this post. Sometimes I wonder if we should have kept our first foster. But we had the opportunity to see him with his new family a few months after his adoption and it was awesome, both the family and dog were so incredibly happy.

The other 2 families we've adopted out and they've kept in touch and are so happy.

Like mom said, you're helping more than one life. You're impacting the life of your foster, their adoptive families and all the future dogs and families you can help. Our motto when we're down about saying bye is just a quick reminder "We're doing a good thing". The goal we're striving for is: okay, how many dogs can we help?

[mollymoe]

Thanks everyone for your responses. It does make me feel better to read other foster experiences. The goal was to help lots of dogs as great as Gabby and this way, the adopter and Gabby get to have that same relationship I got from adopting my own dog.

The adoption is still in process. The new mom won't be able to meet and probably take Gabby until next weekend which is bittersweet for me. I wanted to rip the band aid off but I am happy for the extra time.

[hz80408]

That stinks! Could you sign up to get a new foster as soon as Gabby leaves? We've found that it's easier for us to quickly take on a new foster when our last gets adopted.

Let me AW our newest foster picked last night:

[kellbell191]

It gets easier, I promise. We adopted out number 32 and number 33 earlier this year. I got my own cat from foster care. I am so indescribably grateful to her for choosing me to be his Mom. I see fostering as a way to save lives and to provide other people with a beloved pet, the way someone else did for me.

It helps that we still get updates from animals we adopted out four years ago and they are all happy and doing well.

[ralphlauren]

You are so awesome for fostering...

Think of the love you gave your foster and just think of how loved she will be with her new family too

[macmars45]

Nov 18, 2012 8:26:53 GMT -5 mollymoe said:

I'm starting to come around. I know it is probably best for my foster, Gabby. Based on the phone call with the applicant, it sounds like a good fit. Gabby could even go to work with the woman applying!

I'll give her my email and ask for lots of updates.

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When we adopted our cat almost 3 years ago now the woman who fostered her asked to be updated. I misplaced the email address, but found it last year. I emailed her right away. She still remember our kitty and was grateful for an update even 2 years later. It made me happy to know that the woman who fostered our kitty loved her as much as we do and was excited to hear how she was doing. :heart: