**Weekly State of the Ute**

[glauren]

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey? Cycle 7, CD 6

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share? We've decided to BIO EOD this cycle to take the stress out of figuring when I O. So far, it's oddly liberating to not worry about CM or OPKs...but then again it's only CD 6!

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest. Oooo, good one! I'm going with my MIL. I'm convinced she plans Thanksgiving with the sole purpose of inconveniencing us. EVERY YEAR it's at a different time, and EVERY YEAR my mom (who hosts for 15+ people) is willing to time dinner to work with our schedule, but MIL (who hosts for 7 - immediate family only) always throws a wrench in our plans. This year she said "let me know what time works, I'm flexible!" So H asked if we could do 6pm instead of 5 - she said that was too late. WTMF.
I feel better now!!

[thoseareradishes]

Cycle 6, CD 21, 8DPO

Impatiently waiting. We had awesome timing, so I really really hope this is our month. I could theoretically test Thursday (10DPO) but I don't want to be sad for Thanksgiving.

My little sister craps on every single holiday, so now we leave her out, which makes me feel bad and makes me feel bad for my parents. But she is a horrible person. I'd rather not go into detail, but holidays without her are so much more peaceful.

[mswax]

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey? Cycle 2, 8DPO

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share? I'm feeling crampy, and had some red-tinged CM today, which probably means I'm out. I'll probably test tomorrow or Thursday anyway, but I've come to terms with not this cycle.

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest. My step-father is the most pathetic person in the world. After my mom passed away, all he does is sit in his house and think about all the things that are wrong with his life. I feel bad for him, but he does NOTHING to improve his life, so it's very frustrating.

[winecheery]

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey? CD17, 3dpo, cycle 4

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share? I want my spotting to go away...unless it is for good...I "met" my besties' 4 week old twins via facetime yesterday...squeeeeee (I got misty, to be sure)

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest. I cannot complain, I really cannot. I am very very lucky re: family/friends who aren't self-centered beezys. My only "bitch" since we have to, is that both my sisters (one especially) refuse to stick to a budget with gifts for our mother, and my MIL, bless her heart, doesn't believe us when we tell her to NOT buy certain things, and just give us gift cards or nothing because she rarely gets us something we need/want. Eeek that got long...

[awick14]

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey?

Cycle 2, CD5

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share?

I had a really bad weekend. (see my post frustrated...) I called DH last night and told him that we were out for this cycle, he always knows what to say to make me feel better. I felt fine after our phone call but now I'm feeling sad and frustrated again.

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest.

My family always does the holidays the same. Easter/thanksgiving dinner are always the Sunday night at 5. This meal includes all of my moms family. (25-30 people depending on who is in town)
MIL's dinner is always for just the immediate family. (9 people max) and she always leaves the date and time till like 2 days before the holiday and then she expects us to change our plans to work with her plans. DH gets very frustrated with his mom and has told her that we will always be going to dinner with my family as they have things planned out. We try to get a date out of her in advance and she always changes her mind. (This year she wasn't as bad but she only had one day to choose from as we had a wedding that weekend as well, lol)

[mandapanda18]

1. Yes, this is a day early. LOL, I hope I can still post over here... the other GP seems to just spend their time making fun of other posts... so I'm not nearly as comfortable asking questions over there!

2. This place is slow.

3. I figured tomorrow might be even more dead?

Hugs to all who need them (seems like a lot, thus odds are that we'll get a lot of BFPs right before Christmas/Hanukkah!) and congrats to sleepyheads!


4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey? 7 weeks pg today! (athough... my ticker has a mind of its own, so we will see what it says!)

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share? I got to see the baby's heartbeat yesterday

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest. Just one? lol, my sister invited everyone she knows to MY house for Thanksgiving...she posted it on Facebooks for crying out loud! Not only did I want to keep it a quiet affair (we have not told anyone yet and i don't want to enterain a bunch of people), but then I have to buy the food for 30 people, including my trashy step-sister, her 4 terror children and her current husband and one ex-husband! I think I may hide in the shop all day

[rosetyler]

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey?
CD18 - still waiting for a + OPK, but I think it's coming soon

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share?
Just really hoping this is the cycle. It's been so long, I don't know what our next step will be if this doesn't work. This will be our second medicated cycle after a loss, if it doesn't work, I feel like we either need to look at IUI or other options.

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest.
My MIL is already driving me crazy. She was over this weekend, and kept making comments like, "Keep the lights low in this room, then you won't be able to see all the cobwebs and dust on the chandelier!"

[Deleted]

4. Cycle 3, CD 32, 9 DPO
5. Long cycles aren't any fun when you're TTC. I caved and tested today, but it was negative. I hate that day 32 is still too early to be testing.
6. My mom's cousin's wife is a total loon about the holidays, but I get to avoid her. I mean, she's a total loon anyway, but she likes to throw a big extended family party with a dirty santa exchange. Except her gifts are always Disney crap, and her house is overtaken by her hoard so she has to have it at somebody else's house. And then she invites about 10 people that aren't family, and doesn't really help with the food.

[blindyswife]

1) cycle#6, cd11.

2) I would love for this to be THE cycle, because my due date would basically be my birthday. Pretty pretty please, universe?

3) haha I don't want to bitch about a specific person, because I am far too identifiable on here. Who knows who could find me here and read it!

[Cheesecake]

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey?

5DPO and nervous to be hopeful. I really want to be positive and hopeful, but at the same time I'm so scared of jinxing it and getting disappointed again. At the same time I so, so , so hope it's positive this month, as that means I can shop for some baby things and maternity wear in the US where it's a million zillion times cheaper than here.

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share?

I really truly am starting to hate work and everything around it. Not just the job that I'm trying to get away from, but government in general. They. All. Suck! I just really want to scream about the bureaucracy.

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest.

I pick 2, technically, my dad and stepmom, I count them as a unit though. They're just being assholes and stupid!
It all started last year when my cousins (stepmom side) announced that our family reunion was going to be over Christmas (as it always used to be), I was totally stoked about this so responded that I hoped I could come.
My dad then tells me that my stepmom and he are really angry with me that I responded, because they were going to tell my cousins/my aunt that they couldn't make it because they were spending the holidays with us here (even though they had no intention to do that, they just didn't want to go to the reunion but wanted to go on a month long holiday on their own and wanted to use me as an excuse.
With us wanting to go (flying at Christmas is way cheaper for me than during summer andplusalso I PPH Christmas back in the US) they did decide to sign up to come as well.
My brother talked to my dad and stepmom last week for his birthday and asked if they were looking forward to the holidays and they actually said no.
I'm completely cool with them not wanting to go, but then just don't effing go. It's not mandatory and we'll likely have a better time without them being bah-humbugs!
(There's more, but this is enough for this specific bitchfest!)

[cincodemayo]

Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey? Cycle 5, Day 2. Yeah AF!

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share? I bought the stupid FF VIP membership for just this month. And, if this month is like last my FW is a good time with H's work schedule

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. Um, my mom drives me crazy. She is trying way too hard to be sweet and nice lately.

[awick14]

Nov 20, 2012 11:32:48 GMT -5 mandapanda18 said:

Just one? lol, my sister invited everyone she knows to MY house for Thanksgiving...she posted it on Facebooks for crying out loud! Not only did I want to keep it a quiet affair (we have not told anyone yet and i don't want to enterain a bunch of people), but then I have to buy the food for 30 people, including my trashy step-sister, her 4 terror children and her current husband and one ex-husband! I think I may hide in the shop all day

How many people did you invite over? I would just tell my sister that I could not accommodate that many people. (whether its money wise or space doesn't really matter.)

[magpie]

I'm so happy that this is a day early!

4. Cycle 2, Day 24.

5. I have no idea what's happening in my cycle though. As far as I can tell, there has been no recognizable pattern through temping, CM or OPKs. (my chart is confusing). Last cycle was 47 days long, who knows how long this one will be or when I'll o (if I even do o!). I'm trying to be zen about it though...if it happens, it happens.

6. Can I say my parents' dog? They might bring him when they come visit/stay with us this weekend and last time he visited, he pissed all over the house to try and claim territory from my dog, who did not pee in the house. He breaks the door open from the guest room too, so we can't lock him up (he isn't crate trained) to stop him from peeing everywhere. Needless to say, he will be spending a lot of time outside.

[G22]

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey? CD13

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share?in less than a month, I will have my braces off and will on a plane home to see family. I only see them maybe 2 times a year so I'm really excited.

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest.
I don't have anyone to vent about yet, because but maybe after I visit home I will...haha

[thoseareradishes]

Nov 20, 2012 14:02:49 GMT -5 magpie said:

I'm so happy that this is a day early!

4. Cycle 2, Day 24.

5. I have no idea what's happening in my cycle though. As far as I can tell, there has been no recognizable pattern through temping, CM or OPKs. (my chart is confusing). Last cycle was 47 days long, who knows how long this one will be or when I'll o (if I even do o!). I'm trying to be zen about it though...if it happens, it happens.

6. Can I say my parents' dog? They might bring him when they come visit/stay with us this weekend and last time he visited, he pissed all over the house to try and claim territory from my dog, who did not pee in the house. He breaks the door open from the guest room too, so we can't lock him up (he isn't crate trained) to stop him from peeing everywhere. Needless to say, he will be spending a lot of time outside.

I think there is a good possibility you ovulated on CD23. You could wait it out and see what your temps do in the next few days, or you could cheat and put in dummy temps, just to see if you get crosshairs.

[littlemisschatty]

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey?

CD 8 - should be O'ing this weekend.

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share?

I'm getting bored of this whole TTC thing, I just want it to happen already!


6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest.

MIL : I am hosting Thanksgiving and of COURSE we need two different kinds of potatoes (sweet potatoes and white mashed potatoes). What are you crazy? It's my favorite holiday, and I'll serve ALL the carbs I want!!!!!!!

[blindyswife]

Nov 20, 2012 16:30:57 GMT -5 littlemisschatty said:

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest.

MIL : I am hosting Thanksgiving and of COURSE we need two different kinds of potatoes (sweet potatoes and white mashed potatoes). What are you crazy? It's my favorite holiday, and I'll serve ALL the carbs I want!!!!!!!

What? Does she not think you need both? Um. She's crazy. We always have mashed potatoes AND sweet potatoes. And because carbs are the best part, we also have dinner rolls, stuffing and cornbread. :-D

[magpie]

Nov 20, 2012 15:54:33 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

I think there is a good possibility you ovulated on CD23. You could wait it out and see what your temps do in the next few days, or you could cheat and put in dummy temps, just to see if you get crosshairs.

Thanks radishes. I'll will definitely pay attention to temps in the next few days.

[littlemisschatty]

Nov 20, 2012 17:41:36 GMT -5 blindyswife said:

Nov 20, 2012 16:30:57 GMT -5 littlemisschatty said:

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest.

MIL : I am hosting Thanksgiving and of COURSE we need two different kinds of potatoes (sweet potatoes and white mashed potatoes). What are you crazy? It's my favorite holiday, and I'll serve ALL the carbs I want!!!!!!!

What? Does she not think you need both? Um. She's crazy. We always have mashed potatoes AND sweet potatoes. And because carbs are the best part, we also have dinner rolls, stuffing and cornbread. :-D

Exactly!!!!! She's like, oh don't go crazy. Um no, it's going to be a carb feast. Deal with it!

I am glad you understand me!

[KaraOrNot]

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey? Month 15, CD2.

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share? Even though I intellectually know that we have like a 0% chance of getting pg on our own and we only had sex once during my FW, CD 1 still fucking sucks. I was doing better emotionally for a few weeks, but I am back to being angry and depressed. Yay!

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest. My brother. He works 3rd shift retail and initally thought that he would have to go in to work early. So we were going to eat lunch w/ my brother and mom and than go to H's for a later dinner. His schedule suddenly changed and now both meals are at the same time. I would normally just say sorry, we already have plans w/ H's family, but my mom still has a hard time w/ the holidays (my dad died a few years ago and was diagnosed w/ cancer around Thanksgiving) and it will only be her and my brother if we don't go. Ugh.

[winecheery]

Nov 20, 2012 19:41:09 GMT -5 KaraOrNot said:

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey? Month 15, CD2.

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share? Even though I intellectually know that we have like a 0% chance of getting pg on our own and we only had sex once during my FW, CD 1 still fucking sucks. I was doing better emotionally for a few weeks, but I am back to being angry and depressed. Yay!

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest. My brother. He works 3rd shift retail and initally thought that he would have to go in to work early. So we were going to eat lunch w/ my brother and mom and than go to H's for a later dinner. His schedule suddenly changed and now both meals are at the same time. I would normally just say sorry, we already have plans w/ H's family, but my mom still has a hard time w/ the holidays (my dad died a few years ago and was diagnosed w/ cancer around Thanksgiving) and it will only be her and my brother if we don't go. Ugh.

I think you deserve a hug kara ({) (}) this all sounds really hard. I'm sorry.

[KaraOrNot]

Nov 20, 2012 20:41:07 GMT -5 winecheery said:

Nov 20, 2012 19:41:09 GMT -5 KaraOrNot said:

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey? Month 15, CD2.

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share? Even though I intellectually know that we have like a 0% chance of getting pg on our own and we only had sex once during my FW, CD 1 still fucking sucks. I was doing better emotionally for a few weeks, but I am back to being angry and depressed. Yay!

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest. My brother. He works 3rd shift retail and initally thought that he would have to go in to work early. So we were going to eat lunch w/ my brother and mom and than go to H's for a later dinner. His schedule suddenly changed and now both meals are at the same time. I would normally just say sorry, we already have plans w/ H's family, but my mom still has a hard time w/ the holidays (my dad died a few years ago and was diagnosed w/ cancer around Thanksgiving) and it will only be her and my brother if we don't go. Ugh.

I think you deserve a hug kara this all sounds really hard. I'm sorry.

Aww, thanks!

[awick14]

Nov 20, 2012 20:41:07 GMT -5 winecheery said:

Nov 20, 2012 19:41:09 GMT -5 KaraOrNot said:

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey? Month 15, CD2.

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share? Even though I intellectually know that we have like a 0% chance of getting pg on our own and we only had sex once during my FW, CD 1 still fucking sucks. I was doing better emotionally for a few weeks, but I am back to being angry and depressed. Yay!

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest. My brother. He works 3rd shift retail and initally thought that he would have to go in to work early. So we were going to eat lunch w/ my brother and mom and than go to H's for a later dinner. His schedule suddenly changed and now both meals are at the same time. I would normally just say sorry, we already have plans w/ H's family, but my mom still has a hard time w/ the holidays (my dad died a few years ago and was diagnosed w/ cancer around Thanksgiving) and it will only be her and my brother if we don't go. Ugh.

I think you deserve a hug kara this all sounds really hard. I'm sorry.

I agree! ((Hugs))

[jewel]

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey? TTC over a year. CD 14, waiting on O.

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share? We've had plenty of well timed sex this cycle, but it's bugging me that I don't have confirmed O yet. I usually only get one day of + OPKs, and so far I've had 3 days of + in a row, but no temp rise. Come on! Oh, AND I currently have pneumonia, which just makes it that much more fun

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest. My husband's family, any of them. I have a big family, and we have everyone over for Thanksgiving (over 20 people). I do a Turkey and a few other big things, and everyone else brings a side to contribute. I make a list and plan in advance, to make sure that everyone doesn't plan to bring the same thing. Well, my ILs never want to commit to what they're bringing. They say they'll just bring whatever is left over, but then they'll call the day before Thanksgiving and tell us they bought 10 lbs of potatoes and rolls, etc., all of which we've already told them are accounted for. If you want to CHOOSE what you bring, you have to choose ahead of time, dammit. And it happens like this every.single.year, without fail.

[mandapanda18]

Nov 20, 2012 12:57:45 GMT -5 awick14 said:

Nov 20, 2012 11:32:48 GMT -5 mandapanda18 said:

Just one? lol, my sister invited everyone she knows to MY house for Thanksgiving...she posted it on Facebooks for crying out loud! Not only did I want to keep it a quiet affair (we have not told anyone yet and i don't want to enterain a bunch of people), but then I have to buy the food for 30 people, including my trashy step-sister, her 4 terror children and her current husband and one ex-husband! I think I may hide in the shop all day

About 30 will be there... mind you, I have a smaller home (only about 1400 sqft), but I wanted to have my sister here, mainly because I wanted to see her kids for the holiday (my nephew birthday is Friday) but she always seems to hold crap over my head... so I spent about $300 on food for tomorrow

How many people did you invite over? I would just tell my sister that I could not accommodate that many people. (whether its money wise or space doesn't really matter.)

[mssue]

4. Where are you in your cycle or TTC journey? Cycle 2, CD 14

5. Any news/AWs/vents to share? I'm going to try my hardest not to pinpoint symptoms during this next 2WW! POAS early seems to put me in check lol.

6. Bitch about one person re: the holidays. You must pick someone and get it off your chest.
I honestly have nothing to bitch about for the holidays because I don't have any family on the west coast. I mean, I guess I could bitch about the fact that I have to work again on Thanksgiving, but luckily I had an early Thanksgiving last night.

[bunchkie]

1) Cycle 4, day13

2) Green light day for us. ;D Hopefully this is the month. Time to get busy!!

3) Only complaint is that every other year we go to my MIL's house and they serve turkey loaf/ breast stuff. I'm spoiled and used to a gourmet yummy turkey right out of the oven.

At least we have started the tradition of drinking with Thanksgiving. Must have a glass of wine with my food!

[thoseareradishes]

Nov 21, 2012 13:32:05 GMT -5 bunchkie said:

1) Cycle 4, day13

2) Green light day for us. ;D Hopefully this is the month. Time to get busy!!

3) Only complaint is that every other year we go to my MIL's house and they serve turkey loaf/ breast stuff. I'm spoiled and used to a gourmet yummy turkey right out of the oven.

At least we have started the tradition of drinking with Thanksgiving. Must have a glass of wine with my food!

My mom used to buy what we dubbed "turkey in a box". We didn't have it at Thanksgiving thankfully. Hope you have fun anyway!!