Breaking up with pre-school advice

[anna7602]

For a whole lot of reasons, we are switching DD's preschool. There are some things we weren't happy with that the school director is aware of and some things (like a nasty little kid who is nasty to everyone, not just DD) that are out of her control. Regardless, I think she'll probably be surprised to hear we're changing schools.

I think we will be changing asap, like next Monday or Tuesday. So, do I just write the director and plainly state Friday will be DD's last day or do I explain some of the reasons I think the current school is no longer a good fit for DD? I am torn between wanting to give her enough information to let her run a better school in the future and just wanting to be done with the place.

(There is no Thanksgiving here, so that wouldn't impact our timeline/communications at all.)

[CloudBee]

I think they would apprecite sincere feedback. I would write a note.

Good luck with the new school!

[nannersp]

I think you'd be fine either way, but if you're up for giving her reasons, I don't think it can hurt.

I assume there's no notice required for the old preschool? Our DD's requires 30 days.

[Deleted]

If you give reasons, make it clear that you don't really want to negotiate and it's for information purposes only.

My experience (mostly via other moms) is that places don't actually take feedback very well.

[slug*bug]

The only reason I'd mention anything beyond "we've found a better fit for DD" is 1) if the reason(s) you're switching is/are likely to be resolved and 2) if the issues are resolved, you'd consider reenrolling.

If neither of those are the case (and it doesn't sound like they are), I'd probably keep it non-specific, short and sweet.

[vanillacourage]

I would not go into details without being asked. If they ask you why, I'd keep it brief & factual.

[anna7602]

Nov 20, 2012 11:11:51 GMT -5 nannersp said:

I think you'd be fine either way, but if you're up for giving her reasons, I don't think it can hurt.

I assume there's no notice required for the old preschool? Our DD's requires 30 days.

We were originally supposed to move back to the US at the end of December anyway, so I doubt the director would do anything more than just keep the tuition we've already paid for the month of December if we switch DD out now. I am not planning on asking her for the money back.