Doc just called back, he did the blood test because of my kidneys last Tuesday. And while my kidney doc told me he's not worried about my kidneys and my ability to have a baby with these stupid kidneys, apparently the exact same levels do worry the ob/gyn.
Fuck.
He just called me and I want to cry. Really really cry.
The levels I have according to him do mean I already have a diminished kidney capacity, which means that instead of the local protocol of seeing a midwife for the first time by 10 weeks pregnant, he wants me to make an appointment as soon as the strip turns pink so they can start monitoring me constantly from day 1 (well okay, day 13, but whatevs).
It means that even if I don't need to go the RE route (we still have 3 cycles of trying before we're supposed to start that) it will definitely be the medical route, which isn't common here. (Doctors really are only involved in high risk pregnancies here - every 'normal/healthy'pregnancy basically starts with midwives at 10 weeks and often don't see a doctor during their entire pregnancy).
He also said that I need to get pregnant asap. Which also means that we'll now definitely be one and done. (I often thought that would probably end up being our choice, but to be forced into that, just isn't cool.)
I'm at the office right now, trying my effing hardest not to cry.
I know it'll change things as soon as that line is pink, but try not to let it put too much pressure on you. They didn't say it will affect getting pregnant, right? It just means you'll have a lot of doc appointments afterward. Don't even think about it until you need to, it'll just make you worry too much.
And even the "one and done" outlook...you don't need to think about that until you've welcomed your first bundle of joy. After that you may be happy to call it a day or maybe another doctor will tell you you're good to go for round two. Whichever it is, don't let that take away from where you are now.
It just scares me that he wants me to hurry up. And that I'll be considered high risk from day one. (On Tuesday he still said that he expected he'd need to check on me at 20 weeks and that'd hopefully /likely be it. 1 checkup at 20 weeks. That just feels very different from constant monitoring from as soon as it's pink.
Oh well, my next pee-stick-day is Christmas eve. I'm crossing my everything for a Christmas miracle!
Is there a reason you wouldn't go to the RE sooner? Like is it not covered if you don't try for a few months first? I guess I feel like if your doctor thinks there's an issue, why not bring out the big guns sooner rather than later? Like I just feel like the RE is so much better at understanding all the stuff that could be at play and coming up with a solution, even if it's not IUI or IVF.
Hugs, it's so hard. I hope it happens for you soon!
Post by Cheesecake on Nov 30, 2012 11:17:15 GMT -5
I've been there, she's the one who sent me to this doc and said to keep trying ourselves until March. I'll make my appointment with her in Feb and start all that crap in March. At the same time I'm not sure if going to the RE will be any use anymore. With these stats I'm no longer a candidate for any kind of hormone treatment. So even trigger shots and Clomid are out. Not sure what an RE can do in that case.
I'm so sorry! ((hugs)) On the positive side, I would imagine extra monitoring would mean a lot more ultrasounds to see your little future bean, right??
*hugs* Try to think of it as just that your baby will be super pampered from day, well, 13. Look at the bright side, that knowing what you now know, every precaution will be taken that you and the baby will be safe and healthy. It's so so much better to know this ahead of time than to be surprised with trouble later. Being proactive can be scary, but so critical too.
*hugs* Try to think of it as just that your baby will be super pampered from day, well, 13. Look at the bright side, that knowing what you now know, every precaution will be taken that you and the baby will be safe and healthy. It's so so much better to know this ahead of time than to be surprised with trouble later. Being proactive can be scary, but so critical too.
And you can have my baby dust for this cycle.
I couldn't agree more. It sounds like they aren't saying that they expect you to have any issues getting (or staying) pregnant, just that they will want to do extra monitoring just to make sure all is going well. I know this is u unusual for NL, but remember that every doc in the US is different to (and in every other country, for that matter). So if your particular doc wants to be extra cautious, then I don't think that's a bad thing at all. Better to be TOO careful, you know? And at least you know what you'll be dealing with.
I, also, have absolutely everything crossed for you:-)