I need to whine. Flame me if you must.

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Add yours if you want to below.

Remember a few weeks ago I posted this big long drama about Hondurican wanting to see his family on Christmas. H and I gave him a boatload of options and he still wasn't happy?

Well H and I felt bad and after we got our holiday schedule rearranged we realized he could be gone from the 19-23 if he wanted to see family. We gave him this option and he said, "It's still not ON Christmas. But can I use the time to find an apt. for college and visit some friends?"

H and I were all whatever. Doesn't matter to us how he uses his time off.

Then Hondurican says, "Can I have your car for the trip?"

I said "NO. It's the week before a holiday. We have 3 parties I need to shop for. I can't do that with Hs truck. You also know the rules. Local trips, within a couple of hours of here. All fine. No overnights. I'd be happy to take you to the bus shuttle station though. They do university drop offs right where you want to be. Said city also has good public transport. You'll be fine."

He says, "The bus costs $30.00. I don't have it."
I say, "Well you still have to put gas in my car and it's more than $30.00."

He walks away from me and 10 minutes later comes back and says, "Can I have the 23rd through the 26th off. I really want to see my family."

I say, "No. You get to see them this week for a week. You chose to take your other option and do something else with it. You have 3weeks between when you leave here in January and when school starts if you want to visit. Also, if you don't have the money for the bus trip or to put gas in my car, how are you going to get there?"

Him: "Oh. I miss the Mission. They give me everything I need."

Me: "Well this isn't the Mission. You have to figure it out. We've more than helped you."

Head. Desk. Wall. Sledgehammer. Repeat. 4xs over between yesterday and today.

[thewop]

He needs to STFU already and get over it.

[munkii]

Flame you? No. He's being a brat.

[mrs.jacinthe]

The kid seems to have a deep scratch in his record. He's skipping pretty badly here.

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Nov 30, 2012 10:22:18 GMT -5 thewop said:

He needs to STFU already and get over it.

Ya think! I love him to death actually but he's very good about pressing buttons to get what he wants. He told me straight up one day they pretty much taught him how to beg at the mission to get what he needs. Which makes me sad, he was even at the mission in the first place. He's not poor. His family is actually quite wealthy by Honduran standards. That's a story for another day though. Needless to say, I'm entirely turned off by the mission concept for awhile.

He asked my FIL when we were milking this morning if he'd pay for his plane ticket this week. FIlL said, "Only if you buy my ticket to Hawaii. Even Steven, huh?! How about it?"

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Nov 30, 2012 10:25:59 GMT -5 mrs.jacinthe said:

The kid seems to have a deep scratch in his record. He's skipping pretty badly here.

LOL. I love this. **Commits line to memory**

I know. He's just so damn persistent. Which apparently works where he comes from but the avg. American finds it annoying. We've been working on that. He's so nice and sweet but he comes off as very stubborn/persistent/strong willed and not in a good way.

[Deleted]

He sounds spoiled and in need of some time in the real world. What is this Mission that gives him whatever he needs?

[thewop]

I'd have lost my patience by now and said "You know, you talking about it and asking 100x is not working. It's actually starting to piss me off. Shut up and deal."

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Nov 30, 2012 10:29:38 GMT -5 downtonali said:

He sounds spoiled and in need of some time in the real world. What is this Mission that gives him whatever he needs?

The "Mission" is a church sponsored charitable organization in his country. It's where they can go for food, clothes, shelter, basic education, life skills job assitstance, child care etc. He got a lot of stuff out of them.

He comes from a 3rd world country where Missions are common. I know our church actually funds one in another Central American country. It's pretty common.

They're good organizations, it's just that the more I learn, the more I feel like he wasn't really "entitled" to be there.

[emoflamingo]

Nov 30, 2012 10:30:25 GMT -5 thewop said:

I'd have lost my patience by now and said "You know, you talking about it and asking 100x is not working. It's actually starting to piss me off. Shut up and deal."

YEP!

Of course, I do this with Monkey. "No, asking me again for the 20th time if you can have a cookie makes me want to eat all the cookies in front of you. Now clean your toys up like I asked you to an hour ago!"

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Nov 30, 2012 10:30:25 GMT -5 thewop said:

I'd have lost my patience by now and said "You know, you talking about it and asking 100x is not working. It's actually starting to piss me off. Shut up and deal."

I did tell him this morning, "Look I need you to back off. I need time to think. If I hear another word about it before you get back from this week's break..the answer to anything you ask until you leave will be NO."

He seemed to understand.

Gah! Even Rubes knows when to give up the tantrum.

[Susie]

Nov 30, 2012 10:25:59 GMT -5 mrs.jacinthe said:

The kid seems to have a deep scratch in his record. He's skipping pretty badly here.

lol, seriously.

[pumpkin]

You have the patience of a saint!

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Nov 30, 2012 11:18:14 GMT -5 pumpkin said:

You have the patience of a saint!

Nah! My fuse is pretty short most days actually.
However, I've learned with him that staying calm repeating myself and not letting him agitate me works best. He just likes to see how he can get a rise out of people, so if I don't fall for it, he moves on.