Nope, no kiddos for either of us. He was married before and she wasn't interested in having kids/was on a very specific career path so they actively avoided. And clearly it worked for the two of them. For the two of us? Not so much.
I'm sorry if that sounded intrusive. That wasn't my intent.
I truly am happy for you. I've followed a little of your backstory and you deserve to be happy. He sounds like a great guy. His reaction is really the best thing he could have said. I wish you both all the best and a happy and healthy 9 months.
Monty, baby, I love you! This guy had a very upstanding and classy response. Good person...which is very good dad material! You're gonna be great, no matter what! You have friends, family, yadda yadda, but mostly bc you have ME.
So does he have any kids? Not counting the one you're carrying.
Nope, no kiddos for either of us. He was married before and she wasn't interested in having kids/was on a very specific career path so they actively avoided. And clearly it worked for the two of them. For the two of us? Not so much.
Post by montereybride on Sept 15, 2014 14:51:05 GMT -5
Ok, to answer some questions.. I'm feeling really good. I did po-another-s this morning because, after all, I am a GBCNer and we're freaks like that. Still knocked up. Had my blood drawn this morning and begged the phlebotomist to put a rush on it. It will most likely be tomorrow before I hear from my ob.
My boobs are SORE! Last night he asked why they were so sore and I told him it's because I'm building a human. He just smiled and giggled. Swooooooooon.
Still have the stretching and pulling in my pelvic area. It doesn't hurt, it's just there and annoying.
The divorce is taking a little longer than it should as there is a home involved and he things he's not paying any spousal support and that I'm paying his attorney fees. He's nutters. But, you know what? I don't even care. I'm so happy right now. I am fully blissed out beyond belief. I am so in love with the boy. I looked at him with brand new eyes yesterday and realized that he is exactly who is meant for me.
Post by montereybride on Sept 15, 2014 14:25:56 GMT -5
Oh man, where do I start...
Sunday I went to Oktoberfest with his mom and one of her friends. He was there pouring beer. He offered me a free beer and I declined and he joked that I must have drank too much at Ren Faire on Saturday. I told him "No, I actually didn't drink yesterday either." He asked if I was ok and if something was wrong and I told him - brightly - that everything was fine. He looked at me like I had two heads. He came over to our table a little later and asked again if I wanted something and again I declined. He basically called bullshit on me not drinking anything at Oktoberfest because, really, who does that? Plus, he knows me.
I told him I was ok and he said "No, tell me. Something's going on. What's wrong." I asked him if he really wanted to know and he gave me that "DUH!!" look, so I pulled him close and whispered in his ear that I took a test on Friday morning and it came back positive and then I took another a couple hours later and that one also came back positive. I was on the verge of tears and he just smiled and asked if I was ok. He mouthed the words "you're freaking out" as I was telling him that I was freaking out. I asked him if he was ok and he smiled and said he was ok. He had to go back to work at that point so he kissed me and gave me a squeeze.
A little later we had a chance to talk and he asked me what I wanted to do. I told him I hadn't had a chance to fully process it yet but that I was strongly considering keeping the baby and that I didn't expect anything from him and that I didn't want him to feel trapped. He got a little injured and said that I didn't know him at all if that's really what I was thinking. I told him that I never expected to be in this position. He said that there are some things that can't be planned because if you try to plan for them, it'll never happen. He said he wanted me to make the decision that was going to make me happy and that he would support my decision. He told me he's not going to run and that he will be involved in everything.
I reminded him of a conversation we've been having over the last couple weeks about commitment and told him that I don't expect a commitment from him. He had told me that he loved me but that he couldn't 100% commit to me until I'm through everything with the divorce and the dust settles. I didn't begrudge him that and appreciated his honesty and understood that he needed to protect his heart. Last night he told me that those conversations don't exist anymore because everything has changed.
So, we're having a baby. Fuck. I need a ticker or something.
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TL/DR - Told the boy. He's 100% supportive of whatever decision I make and will be there for me and our child during and after. I'm really doing this. OMFG someone hold me.
Post by montereybride on Sept 13, 2014 22:18:38 GMT -5
In an effort to keep this all contained for those who care... I am still WTFing in a pretty big way.
Ren Faire was interesting today. I got several weird looks wrt not drinking and one of my besties, her BF gave me a lengthy raised eyebrow head tilted look.
I had my first ever tarot reading also and that was odd and illuminating. I confided in one of my best girlfriends - she's an L&D nurse - who knows the boy really well. She's sworn to secrecy but thinks that everything will work out and that he will be shocked but come around to being thrilled.
She was very worried that I got overheated today and went into full on nurse and mom mode. She reminded me of all the support I'll have if I go forward with having the baby.
I'm getting bloodwork on Monday morning and will hopefully have results the same day.
Post by montereybride on Sept 13, 2014 11:22:43 GMT -5
How far along were you when the bloat started?
Is this weird stretching and pulling sensation in my pelvic area normal? To be expected? It doesn't hurt it just feels weird and a little uncomfortable.
Post by montereybride on Sept 12, 2014 13:09:20 GMT -5
And seriously, thank you to each and every one of you for the hugs and support. I have no idea what I want to do if I am. Or how the boy is going to react. I have to tell him, right? I mean, how the fuck does this work?
Post by montereybride on Sept 12, 2014 13:07:15 GMT -5
My OB doesn't do blood draws in the office but I am scheduled for Sept. 24 for an U/S. I laid out my story and begged for blood work orders to make 100% sure. The PA has to check with my OB but said getting the orders shouldn't be a problem.