STBXH

[alabasterangel]

He makes me sick.

I had rather extensive communication w him this week. Yesterday it made me puke twice. Now I am breaking out.. I haven't done that in a long time.

I loathe that I have to have him in my life at all.

People really should not breed in captivity.

[charitylynne79]

Hang in there.

[Deleted]

Gah, sorry Ala.

[darkling_glory]

Ugh! So sorry.

[theatre4life]

**hugs**

[sitnspin]

What's going on?

[pilife]

[honeydew1894]

:-( I am sorry.

[prettyflygirl]

((hug)) I'm so sorry you're dealing with that.

[latte]

That sounds pretty awful. Hopefully it won't always be this hard.

[Deleted]

::hugs::

[louietunes]

Ugh, I'm so sorry, hon. At least you're getting out of town this weekend. I hope it helps you de-stress.

[alabasterangel]

Dec 5, 2012 9:45:18 GMT -5 sitnspin said:

What's going on?

A lot of it is petty but consistent - not returning ckothes after visits, not sticking to sleep schedules, exposing them to badly behaved children, extremely poor nutrition, etc.

I have to have multiple conversations about stupid shit like combing hair. I get that he isn't a girl w hair. But it seems extrenely simple to me that if you are caring for someone w hair.. you brush it. And if it is in their eyes.. you put it in a ponytail w the bands I have provided.

He got a new GF w two kids and introduced the kids to them a WEEK later. For reference I was w BF for months w extensive conversations about hiw he would be in their lives forever even if it didn't work out.. they would still be friends.

We agreed on a visitation schedule he wanted months and months ago in mediation and followed it w no problems until a week after obtaining the new GF. Then he wanted to change it to something that is definitely not best for the kids, wouldn't work for me, makes no sense, and doesn't even work for HIS schedule.. but works better for his new GF.

When we split he wouldn't take anything tied to a loan payment. He took the car that was paid off. He then refused to pay insurance on it. I had to use the kids savings to pay the back insirance and then took back the car since I was paying and my name was also on it. This week he starts demanding the car back. I have offered to let gim have or sell the van.

He continues to make ridiculous accusations and keeps playing the victim because he has no clue about anything financial. He says I took all the assets.. but we will be lucky to break even sellig the van and house. I offered both to him and he doesn't want it because he "can't afford the payments". He has no bills and a full time job. I am on SS disability with two kids and every bill and payment we had together.

He was pointing out things he has noticed I have gotten since the split as evidence that I have more money than him. I pointed out that people giving me gifts dies not negate his responsibility to help take care if his children financially.. you know.. like child support and such.

All around ridiculous. Add in insults and accusations and faulty logic and it makes me vomit.

[prettyflygirl]

Gah! That makes me so angry! My XH behaved pretty similarly when we split, I can't even imagine what it would have been like to have kids. Or have to talk to him now. I'm so sorry, Ala. If you need to vent, or need a shoulder, or need someone to awkwardly try to comfort you, or just make bad jokes, I am here for you any time.

[sapphire bou]

I'm sorry you have to put up with all that, Ala. ((hugs))

[alabasterangel]

And our lawyers suck ass. His won't file papers by deadlines and mine won't show up for hearings.

I got a call yesterday that if I can't get STBXH to agree on all property and tax issues we have to go to trial. As if either of us can afford that.

[darkling_glory]

BLURGH!

I hope that the house stuff goes smoothly for you. I bet once you're out of there some of this nonsense behavior of his will stop.

If you need anything, please let us know. We're all here to help!

[boofly]

I'm sorry Ala. It really sucks he's being such a jerk about everything.

[alabasterangel]

And this week he had the kids at the GFs house for the entire 48 hr visit. He effectively had no alone time with his kids.

And he told me he is going out of state next month long enough he will miss half of one visit and then the next four visits. Traveling w the GF takes priority.

[pilife]

:-|

[highfive]

I know I'm new but I just wanted to say I am truly sorry you are having to go through that. I hope things start to turn around for the better for you!

[louietunes]

I have a few other ex-wives in the same situation who will go in on a skilled hit man with you.

[ridethelightning]

I'm so sorry. You know this, but document every single thing.

[duff]

Oh god, Ala I'm so sorry. There aren't words strong enough to describe him.

Hang in there, hopefully it'll all be over soon.

[sapphire bou]

Dec 5, 2012 12:53:48 GMT -5 ridethelightning said:

I'm so sorry. You know this, but document every single thing.

:Y:

[conradtn]

write it all down! Which I'm sure you are.

[OrangePixyStix]

Ugh, sorry you are having to go through all of this. And that he's being an asshat about everything.

**hugs**

[sitnspin]

My gosh, I am so sorry he is being so difficult. Jerry is a law guardian for our county and we hear stories like this all the time.

The trouble makers are usually the grandmom's or the girlfriends/new wives.

Luckily, things usually get worked out over time.

((hugs))

[honeydew1894]

Dec 5, 2012 12:53:48 GMT -5 ridethelightning said:

I'm so sorry. You know this, but document every single thing.

This and a HUG!

[alabasterangel]

Dec 5, 2012 13:34:32 GMT -5 sitnspin said:

My gosh, I am so sorry he is being so difficult. Jerry is a law guardian for our county and we hear stories like this all the time.

The trouble makers are usually the grandmom's or the girlfriends/new wives.

Luckily, things usually get worked out over time.

((hugs))

His mom is intimidated by me and knows better than to interefere when my kids are involved. The new GF hasn't yet had the pleasure of my wrath.