A lot of it is petty but consistent - not returning ckothes after visits, not sticking to sleep schedules, exposing them to badly behaved children, extremely poor nutrition, etc.
I have to have multiple conversations about stupid shit like combing hair. I get that he isn't a girl w hair. But it seems extrenely simple to me that if you are caring for someone w hair.. you brush it. And if it is in their eyes.. you put it in a ponytail w the bands I have provided.
He got a new GF w two kids and introduced the kids to them a WEEK later. For reference I was w BF for months w extensive conversations about hiw he would be in their lives forever even if it didn't work out.. they would still be friends.
We agreed on a visitation schedule he wanted months and months ago in mediation and followed it w no problems until a week after obtaining the new GF. Then he wanted to change it to something that is definitely not best for the kids, wouldn't work for me, makes no sense, and doesn't even work for HIS schedule.. but works better for his new GF.
When we split he wouldn't take anything tied to a loan payment. He took the car that was paid off. He then refused to pay insurance on it. I had to use the kids savings to pay the back insirance and then took back the car since I was paying and my name was also on it. This week he starts demanding the car back. I have offered to let gim have or sell the van.
He continues to make ridiculous accusations and keeps playing the victim because he has no clue about anything financial. He says I took all the assets.. but we will be lucky to break even sellig the van and house. I offered both to him and he doesn't want it because he "can't afford the payments". He has no bills and a full time job. I am on SS disability with two kids and every bill and payment we had together.
He was pointing out things he has noticed I have gotten since the split as evidence that I have more money than him. I pointed out that people giving me gifts dies not negate his responsibility to help take care if his children financially.. you know.. like child support and such.
All around ridiculous. Add in insults and accusations and faulty logic and it makes me vomit.
Post by prettyflygirl on Dec 5, 2012 11:42:37 GMT -5
Gah! That makes me so angry! My XH behaved pretty similarly when we split, I can't even imagine what it would have been like to have kids. Or have to talk to him now. I'm so sorry, Ala. If you need to vent, or need a shoulder, or need someone to awkwardly try to comfort you, or just make bad jokes, I am here for you any time.
Post by alabasterangel on Dec 5, 2012 12:37:44 GMT -5
And this week he had the kids at the GFs house for the entire 48 hr visit. He effectively had no alone time with his kids.
And he told me he is going out of state next month long enough he will miss half of one visit and then the next four visits. Traveling w the GF takes priority.