Trivial Online Dating Dealbreakers

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So I realized that I have a bunch of trivial things if I come across in a profile that I will totally "next" someone for. What are yours? This brought to you by the guy I was emailing with who repeatedly mentioned cuddling with his "special someone" on a perfect Sunday and I no longer want to communicate with. Disclaimer: This is meant to be fun, not an argument over how "shallow" people are Here are mine:

• Mentions of cuddling
  
• Referring to self as a "nice" or "good guy"
  
• Mentions of sex in profile
  
• Video gamers
  
• Men with cats (especially if they have a photo of them)
  

[redredwine]

-Pictures in front of a mirror
-too many "self taken" photos (don't you have some with friends/family? If not, have your friends/family take some of you!)
-poor grammar
-so many other things but I can't think of them right now.

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Dec 6, 2012 18:01:53 GMT -5 @boing said:

Everything you said, to a T.
I tried to go out with a guy who had a cat last month. I couldn't handle it.

This made me LOL. I'll also add:

• My friends say I'm a real catch
  
• I'm a free spirit (I interpret this as "I don't want to get a real job")
  
• Pictures with girls who's faces are cropped out (ummm WTF? one guy I swear had his engagement photo up)
  

[reginaphalange72]

Bad spelling/grammar

Pictures of trucks or cars

Hunting pictures

Shirtless pictures

Sounding cocky or pissed at the world

Any mention of women being bitchy, manipulative, etc.

[redredwine]

Dec 6, 2012 18:15:35 GMT -5 mp said:

Shirtless photos when they don't make sense - particularly if they're all shirtless. (ie it makes sense if you're showing a photo of you and your friends on a boat. Not all shirtless photos in mirror.)

All photos showing other women. WTH?

Talking about their exes all over their profile.

Shorties. (This is online only, and now I am of course dating a short guy. LOL.)
Awful spelling/grammar.

Pictures of just their truck/car.

OMG-Dude and I were totally talking about this last night!! He's 5'6", so he totally feels like girls won't respond because of his height. (I'm 5'2"everyone is taller than me!)
He's like " Girls are such "heigh-ists!" and I wanted to be all "Um, so my internet friends have this argument all the TIME!"
But that would have been awkward.

[reginaphalange72]

Dec 6, 2012 18:25:56 GMT -5 redredwine said:

Dec 6, 2012 18:15:35 GMT -5 mp said:

Shirtless photos when they don't make sense - particularly if they're all shirtless. (ie it makes sense if you're showing a photo of you and your friends on a boat. Not all shirtless photos in mirror.)

All photos showing other women. WTH?

Talking about their exes all over their profile.

Shorties. (This is online only, and now I am of course dating a short guy. LOL.)
Awful spelling/grammar.

Pictures of just their truck/car.

OMG-Dude and I were totally talking about this last night!! He's 5'6", so he totally feels like girls won't respond because of his height. (I'm 5'2"everyone is taller than me!)
He's like " Girls are such "heigh-ists!" and I wanted to be all "Um, so my internet friends have this argument all the TIME!"
But that would have been awkward.

That's the beauty of being 5'0". Everybody is taller than me!

[baa1981]

If they have 69 or sexy or hot, etc in their username

If they have pics with their children or other children in them

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I have more (damn I'm picky)

-If they play guitar
-If they collect "vinyl"
-Any hint of a hipster vibe (and I do mean ANY)

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If the initial "About me" section is only a sentence or 2 long. Similarly, if someone only messages me with, "Hi, how are you?"

Along those lines, text speak in your profile or message. Take 2 seconds to write "people" instead of "ppl."

Anything that refers to hating cheaters or tired of playing games or wondering if honest women really exist. Baggage alert.

Smiling in none of your pictures.

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Dec 6, 2012 18:42:13 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Dec 6, 2012 18:35:18 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I have more (damn I'm picky)

-If they play guitar
-If they collect "vinyl"
-Any hint of a hipster vibe (and I do mean ANY)

You live in Portland... it's going to be hard.. hipsters are everywhere there

Hence my lack of dates:)

[rikkiandjulie]

I like the clean hipster, the in wear a cardigan and converse with need glasses to work. Not the i drink PBR, shop the thrift store, don't shower hipster. Maybe these are different?


Rikki-iPhone

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Dec 6, 2012 18:45:26 GMT -5 rikkiandjulie said:

I like the clean hipster, the in wear a cardigan and converse with need glasses to work. Not the i drink PBR, shop the thrift store, don't shower hipster. Maybe these are different?


Rikki-iPhone

I think the first one you describe is more geek chic (although the addition of skinny jeans would place them in the hipster category) , with the later being hipster, although they usually shower, that gets more into hippie territory:)

[rikkiandjulie]

Dec 6, 2012 18:47:59 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Dec 6, 2012 18:45:26 GMT -5 rikkiandjulie said:

I like the clean hipster, the in wear a cardigan and converse with need glasses to work. Not the i drink PBR, shop the thrift store, don't shower hipster. Maybe these are different?


Rikki-iPhone

I think the first one you describe is more geek chic (although the addition of skinny jeans would place them in the hipster category) , with the later being hipster, although they usually shower, that gets more into hippie territory:)

I love me some geek chic! Seriously, drool. Hipsters, meh. But in Denver the hippie/hipster lines cross. Oh well.


Rikki-iPhone

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Dec 6, 2012 18:50:29 GMT -5 rikkiandjulie said:

Dec 6, 2012 18:47:59 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I think the first one you describe is more geek chic (although the addition of skinny jeans would place them in the hipster category) , with the later being hipster, although they usually shower, that gets more into hippie territory:)

I love me some geek chic! Seriously, drool. Hipsters, meh. But in Denver the hippie/hipster lines cross. Oh well.


Rikki-iPhone

Oh yes they can here in Portland too for sure. I can totally get down with geek chic, you sort of have to in Portland. I also just had a terrifying moment where I realize I was wearing a flannel, skinny jeans, moccasins and glasses. OMG! Am i dressing like a hipster?

[rikkiandjulie]

No. Hipsters would wear that outfit with some ugly thrift store boots, a hat, AND a scarf. They'd also have a rabbit foot keychain hanging off somewhere.

I used to live in Beaverton, and the hipsters still trickled out away from Powells books.


Rikki-iPhone

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Dec 6, 2012 18:53:58 GMT -5 rikkiandjulie said:

No. Hipsters would wear that outfit with some ugly thrift store boots, a hat, AND a scarf. They'd also have a rabbit foot keychain hanging off somewhere.

I used to live in Beaverton, and the hipsters still trickled out away from Powells books.


Rikki-iPhone

hahahahaha. phew!

[rikkiandjulie]

I don't understand this though, how do hipsters have nice cameras, bikes, live in the trendiest parts of town, most likely an artsy college degree but NO job. SMH. I don't understand!


Rikki-iPhone

[achase123]

Similar to you, pdx

-mentions NSAS

-no profile pic or no MAIN profile pic

-listed as "separated" meaning still legally married

-bathroom pics with no shirt
-smoker or "trying to quite"

-any terms of endearment in beginning emails "hey hun, hey beautiful, etc"

-tons of typos

-employment looks questionnable or they refer to themselves as "gardeners". Pot growing is popular in my area.

[starryfish]

-shirtless pics
-pics of car/truck/motorcycle
-pics of kids
-lots of tattoos
-doesn't have at least a bachelors degree
-above 6' (I'm 5'10", and have found most who list 6' are really my height)
-bare minimum profile
-older than 35 (I'm 27)

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-Shirtless and/or muscle pics
-low salary or sketchy job description
-vague profiles
--mention of sex in profile
--poor spelling/grammar
--hipster or thug vibe

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Dec 6, 2012 19:28:06 GMT -5 starryfish said:

-shirtless pics
-pics of car/truck/motorcycle
-pics of kids
-lots of tattoos
-doesn't have at least a bachelors degree
-above 6' (I'm 5'10", and have found most who list 6' are really my height)
-bare minimum profile
-older than 35 (I'm 27)

I have found this too. I am only 5'6" but several guys i've met who list themselves somewhere between 5'8" and 5'10" are actually an inch or two shorter when I meet them in person. I now adjust my expectations accordingly.

[prettyinpearls]

I married a guy with a cat. They're not all weirdos, I promise

He's more of a dog guy, but since he was single and gone for 24+ hours at a time for work, a cat was the next best thing. Now my male cat is his cat's boyfriend ...for reals.

[marigoldgirl]

I was turned off by all the men with their motorcycles. At my age 46 it seemed like every man had a Harley.

[winecat]

Dec 6, 2012 18:50:29 GMT -5 rikkiandjulie said:

Dec 6, 2012 18:47:59 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I think the first one you describe is more geek chic (although the addition of skinny jeans would place them in the hipster category) , with the later being hipster, although they usually shower, that gets more into hippie territory:)

I love me some geek chic! Seriously, drool. Hipsters, meh. But in Denver the hippie/hipster lines cross. Oh well.


Rikki-iPhone

Totally. I had two customers tell me they are reformed hipster because they "shower more now."

[winecat]

So all the cat loving guys are mine! ALL mine!

[rikkiandjulie]

Dec 6, 2012 22:28:35 GMT -5 winecat said:

Dec 6, 2012 18:50:29 GMT -5 rikkiandjulie said:

I love me some geek chic! Seriously, drool. Hipsters, meh. But in Denver the hippie/hipster lines cross. Oh well.


Rikki-iPhone

Totally. I had two customers tell me they are reformed hipster because they "shower more now."

Ha! I'm also not really into the "I wear Burton and Hurley so I'm an awesome snowboarder look". Seriously, if you are over 30, you need to wear real clothes during the day, not skater clothes. Cringe.


Rikki-iPhone

[gozf]

Cats are awesome. Men with cats are awesome.

The end.


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[glitzyglow]

-Anyone who says they are looking for a "drama-free" woman.

-Anyone who rants about how they are about to give up.

-No clear picture of one's face.

-Anyone who is a self-proclaimed "country boy."

-Anyone who owns/wears/flies a Southern Cross flag.

-Anyone who is "addicted to the gym."

-Displays a photo of himself shirtless.

-Anyone who is still "separated." I know some states have long waiting periods, but my state isn't one of them. It's 30 days here.

[roselis]

Dec 6, 2012 20:57:40 GMT -5 marigoldgirl said:

I was turned off by all the men with their motorcycles. At my age 46 it seemed like every man had a Harley.

And I love motorcycles.

Mine -
Guys who insult women in their profile
Have pictures of their kids in their profile
No pictures in their profile
Who doesn't have a college degree
Who says they are currently job hunting

[starburst604]

Dec 7, 2012 0:00:37 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Any man in NJ who describes himself by his ethnicity--"100% pure Italian!!"
Really means, "cook for me because I'm a guido who thinks he had a big dick!"

And the rest of the aforementioned

This is rampant around here too, such a turnoff! And I love cats, and would find it endearing if a man had one.