Maybe you're just not that into him (how cliche, I know) and are using the glass thing as an excuse to write him off?
See I was REALLY into him. And then after that comment am totally NOT into him.
I wouldn't let this stop you from seeing him again. I think he was likely joking, but even if he wasn't I don't really find it creepy. It's ok for a guy to like you, you know
Maybe you're just not that into him (how cliche, I know) and are using the glass thing as an excuse to write him off?
See I was REALLY into him. And then after that comment am totally NOT into him.
FFS, on my first date last night I made a joke about giving a rabbi a blowjob. Thank christ this dude has the same sense of humor I do and almost snorted beer through his nose he was laughing so hard.
FFS, on my first date last night I made a joke about giving a rabbi a blowjob. Thank christ this dude has the same sense of humor I do and almost snorted beer through his nose he was laughing so hard.
put.the.walls.down. and back away slowly!
rabbis need love too!
Dude converted to Judiasm awhile back but isn't super serious about it anymore. He said something about the religion and I was all "Sweet! That sounds awesome, I should convert too!" and he told me how the rabbi will reject you 3 times to test your dedication. My reply: "Well, did you offer the rabbi a blowjob? That would be my plan to get in the door on the first try!"
See I was REALLY into him. And then after that comment am totally NOT into him.
FFS, on my first date last night I made a joke about giving a rabbi a blowjob. Thank christ this dude has the same sense of humor I do and almost snorted beer through his nose he was laughing so hard.
put.the.walls.down. and back away slowly!
See I could see the humor in that for sure. I'm sure a lot of this is the fact that it came over text. I've had some creepers in my life so I'm just being extra careful.
Maybe you're just not that into him (how cliche, I know) and are using the glass thing as an excuse to write him off?
See I was REALLY into him. And then after that comment am totally NOT into him.
Honestly, I think is not worth even thinking twice about. Most likely, it was a joke. I'd laugh at it and hello, some bathroom friskiness is memento worthy IMO.
Also, I'm sorry but guys have a weird sense of humor and I have yet to be friends with a guy or date a guy who did not make some sort of remark that made me roll my eyes. Honestly, when it comes to joking, I don't really have that be a judge of character or take it seriously unless it's like all the time they are saying inappropriate or oddball things. But eh all guys are going to say stuff that we don't think is funny or that can totally be creepified if you want to do that. IDK sometimes I feel like this board wants guys to be creepy and have red flags. It's good to be cautious but it's also good to have fun and get to know people and not jump to conclusions.
FFS, on my first date last night I made a joke about giving a rabbi a blowjob. Thank christ this dude has the same sense of humor I do and almost snorted beer through his nose he was laughing so hard.
put.the.walls.down. and back away slowly!
See I could see the humor in that for sure. I'm sure a lot of this is the fact that it came over text. I've had some creepers in my life so I'm just being extra careful.
No, I get you but I am sure that a lot of guys would find my humor completely inappropriate. We also made jokes about child soldiers, sweat shop workers, race jokes (said dude is black. Geeka, cover your eyes, I know you can't handle this) and tons of other stuff.
Honestly, I think is not worth even thinking twice about. Most likely, it was a joke. I'd laugh at it and hello, some bathroom friskiness is memento worthy IMO.
Also, I'm sorry but guys have a weird sense of humor and I have yet to be friends with a guy or date a guy who did not make some sort of remark that made me roll my eyes. Honestly, when it comes to joking, I don't really have that be a judge of character or take it seriously unless it's like all the time they are saying inappropriate or oddball things. But eh all guys are going to say stuff that we don't think is funny or that can totally be creepified if you want to do that. IDK sometimes I feel like this board wants guys to be creepy and have red flags. It's good to be cautious but it's also good to have fun and get to know people and not jump to conclusions.
That makes sense. It's just one of those things that totally put me "off" you know? Especially after date 2. Also I'm really uncomfortable and turned off by men who overly express their like for me. This is in that category for me. So it's not necessarily the act or even the joke itself, but more so the expression of him liking me this early on that just seems uncomfortable.
You are digging him....which is freaking you out so you're going to see a red flag where there really is none. Chill out and have fun. Why wouldn't he like you this early on?
I still question whether or not you're really ready to date, PDX.
Honestly, I think is not worth even thinking twice about. Most likely, it was a joke. I'd laugh at it and hello, some bathroom friskiness is memento worthy IMO.
Also, I'm sorry but guys have a weird sense of humor and I have yet to be friends with a guy or date a guy who did not make some sort of remark that made me roll my eyes. Honestly, when it comes to joking, I don't really have that be a judge of character or take it seriously unless it's like all the time they are saying inappropriate or oddball things. But eh all guys are going to say stuff that we don't think is funny or that can totally be creepified if you want to do that. IDK sometimes I feel like this board wants guys to be creepy and have red flags. It's good to be cautious but it's also good to have fun and get to know people and not jump to conclusions.
That makes sense. It's just one of those things that totally put me "off" you know? Especially after date 2. Also I'm really uncomfortable and turned off by men who overly express their like for me. This is in that category for me. So it's not necessarily the act or even the joke itself, but more so the expression of him liking me this early on that just seems uncomfortable.
Soooo you would rather make out with a guy that is not into you as oppose to one that is???
Honestly, I think is not worth even thinking twice about. Most likely, it was a joke. I'd laugh at it and hello, some bathroom friskiness is memento worthy IMO.
Also, I'm sorry but guys have a weird sense of humor and I have yet to be friends with a guy or date a guy who did not make some sort of remark that made me roll my eyes. Honestly, when it comes to joking, I don't really have that be a judge of character or take it seriously unless it's like all the time they are saying inappropriate or oddball things. But eh all guys are going to say stuff that we don't think is funny or that can totally be creepified if you want to do that. IDK sometimes I feel like this board wants guys to be creepy and have red flags. It's good to be cautious but it's also good to have fun and get to know people and not jump to conclusions.
That makes sense. It's just one of those things that totally put me "off" you know? Especially after date 2. Also I'm really uncomfortable and turned off by men who overly express their like for me. This is in that category for me. So it's not necessarily the act or even the joke itself, but more so the expression of him liking me this early on that just seems uncomfortable.
Your date 2 was very hot and heavy though. So it's a different level than the average date 2!!
I still question whether or not you're really ready to date, PDX.
It's true and I've talked with my therapist about this. I've been single for 2.5 years. The thing is I've ALWAYS felt really, really uncomfortable if guys were nice and treated me well. Prior to my marriage, in high school and college. I'd just be like RUN!!!!
She thinks I really need "exposure" therapy and keep pushing past date 1,2 and three so I can get used to what it feels like to be treated well and be okay with it. Obviously not with any joe schmoo, and lead them on, but if I like someone, to not allow myself to run.
You are digging him....which is freaking you out so you're going to see a red flag where there really is none. Chill out and have fun. Why wouldn't he like you this early on?
I still question whether or not you're really ready to date, PDX.
Right, why is it ok for him to express his attraction to you with physical stuff after date #2 but not his words and actions?
You are digging him....which is freaking you out so you're going to see a red flag where there really is none. Chill out and have fun. Why wouldn't he like you this early on?
I still question whether or not you're really ready to date, PDX.
Right, why is it ok for him to express his attraction to you with physical stuff after date #2 but not his words and actions?
Because I don't equate sex with an expression of feelings.
Honestly, I think is not worth even thinking twice about. Most likely, it was a joke. I'd laugh at it and hello, some bathroom friskiness is memento worthy IMO.
Also, I'm sorry but guys have a weird sense of humor and I have yet to be friends with a guy or date a guy who did not make some sort of remark that made me roll my eyes. Honestly, when it comes to joking, I don't really have that be a judge of character or take it seriously unless it's like all the time they are saying inappropriate or oddball things. But eh all guys are going to say stuff that we don't think is funny or that can totally be creepified if you want to do that. IDK sometimes I feel like this board wants guys to be creepy and have red flags. It's good to be cautious but it's also good to have fun and get to know people and not jump to conclusions.
That makes sense. It's just one of those things that totally put me "off" you know? Especially after date 2. Also I'm really uncomfortable and turned off by men who overly express their like for me. This is in that category for me. So it's not necessarily the act or even the joke itself, but more so the expression of him liking me this early on that just seems uncomfortable.
I do get it PDX, there would be comments guys would say that I would take SUPER seriously until I got feedback from multiple people that I needed to chill and just take a comment/joke at face value and not jump to conclusions about what the joke meant.
And eagerness is good. You want a guy to be interested in you. I feel like the only time it is a "red flag" if when they are saying they love you or are making future plans. Otherwise, it's just excitement and they trying to communicate that.
Your date 2 was very hot and heavy though. So it's a different level than the average date 2!!
See this is part of it. I feel really bad about myself that I allowed myself to get that carried away.
He's still pursuing you and making plans, so don't feel that way. Every dating situation moves at its own speed. Slow it down with the physical stuff if that will make you feel more comfortable.
See this is part of it. I feel really bad about myself that I allowed myself to get that carried away.
He's still pursuing you and making plans, so don't feel that way. Every dating situation moves at its own speed. Slow it down with the physical stuff if that will make you feel more comfortable.
Yea maybe that's all I need to do. I think I just feel like awww third date is coming and I don't want to sleep with you (because I'm totally not ready) and then I feel like I totally led him on. I guess maybe I'm really uncomfortable that all his compliments are about my looks or hooking up with me. Nothing about me being funny or fun to hang out with or smart or interesting.
lol personally I don't think that's creepy, it sounds like something I would do. Not because like I'd want a memento of the person, but that'd be way out of character for me and I think it'd be funny to have a memento from that time I boned a guy in the bathroom of a resort.
LOL-we would get along. First time I meet DDD-I must steel something as a memento. I've totally done stuff like this before and not in a "i'm stalking you" way, but in a "that was a fun night, I want to remember it," way.
I think it's kinda funny...I wouldn't be put off by it. It doesn't give me a creepy vibe. If he said, I took your used napkin or i stole your lipstick to remind me of you...I'd run..fast!!!! Go out again.
He's still pursuing you and making plans, so don't feel that way. Every dating situation moves at its own speed. Slow it down with the physical stuff if that will make you feel more comfortable.
Yea maybe that's all I need to do. I think I just feel like awww third date is coming and I don't want to sleep with you (because I'm totally not ready) and then I feel like I totally led him on. I guess maybe I'm really uncomfortable that all his compliments are about my looks or hooking up with me. Nothing about me being funny or fun to hang out with or smart or interesting.
Ahhh, I get that! I wouldn't like that either. Try to make your next date more "innocent" - either a sober date like a movie, bowling etc. vs something like him coming over to watch a movie. See how he responds to that and if he still seems so gung-ho.
Because I don't equate sex with an expression of feelings.
Well, you should. At least, you should expect a guy who is attracted to you sexually to also be attracted to the rest of you.
Yeah, this has me all ^o)
Him wanting to do you in a bathroom-A-OK, him wanting to remember a memorable night = stalker? Because sex is not about emotions? So, you would rather him JUST want to fuck you with no feelings? Is this real life?
Honestly, I think is not worth even thinking twice about. Most likely, it was a joke. I'd laugh at it and hello, some bathroom friskiness is memento worthy IMO.
Also, I'm sorry but guys have a weird sense of humor and I have yet to be friends with a guy or date a guy who did not make some sort of remark that made me roll my eyes. Honestly, when it comes to joking, I don't really have that be a judge of character or take it seriously unless it's like all the time they are saying inappropriate or oddball things. But eh all guys are going to say stuff that we don't think is funny or that can totally be creepified if you want to do that. IDK sometimes I feel like this board wants guys to be creepy and have red flags. It's good to be cautious but it's also good to have fun and get to know people and not jump to conclusions.
That makes sense. It's just one of those things that totally put me "off" you know? Especially after date 2. Also I'm really uncomfortable and turned off by men who overly express their like for me. This is in that category for me. So it's not necessarily the act or even the joke itself, but more so the expression of him liking me this early on that just seems uncomfortable.
OMG ME TOO!!I've realized I think I just need to be friends with guys first and then date after a bit, cuz if I meet a guy and he acts like he likes me too much too soon it freaks me the fuck out.
I still question whether or not you're really ready to date, PDX.
It's true and I've talked with my therapist about this. I've been single for 2.5 years. The thing is I've ALWAYS felt really, really uncomfortable if guys were nice and treated me well. Prior to my marriage, in high school and college. I'd just be like RUN!!!!
She thinks I really need "exposure" therapy and keep pushing past date 1,2 and three so I can get used to what it feels like to be treated well and be okay with it. Obviously not with any joe schmoo, and lead them on, but if I like someone, to not allow myself to run.
While I can't disagree with your therapist on your need to push past these feelings of uncomfortableness, I have a lot of issue with this thinking. You ARE leading this dude on....he obviously likes you and the minute one little thing pops up, you're on here looking for us to pat you on the head and tell you that you're right in wanting to dump the dude. It's not fair to him (or other dudes).
He's still pursuing you and making plans, so don't feel that way. Every dating situation moves at its own speed. Slow it down with the physical stuff if that will make you feel more comfortable.
Yea maybe that's all I need to do. I think I just feel like awww third date is coming and I don't want to sleep with you (because I'm totally not ready) and then I feel like I totally led him on. I guess maybe I'm really uncomfortable that all his compliments are about my looks or hooking up with me. Nothing about me being funny or fun to hang out with or smart or interesting.
Eh...i really really think you are just looking for things wrong here. Trying to come up with excuses to not see him again.
He complimented you, enjoy it! Once you get to know each other more, he will probably compliment you more about other areas, just give it time.