How do u NOT invite younger sibs to a bday party

[Jermys]

Like how would you word the invite? And honestly, it's not the babies it's the kids too young to ride the ponies, but big enough to reeeeally want to.

[Deleted]

I don't know if that's possible.

[Doc_Lobster]

Wait, if you send an invite to one specific kid the parents just bring all the kids? Mine never did that.

[Deleted]

I don't think there is a way to do that without being rude.

[frlcb]

This is why I hate evite, you can't do it on there, and paper invites can get pricey. We are having this problem for ds's birthday next month

[dcannie]

can you just address the invite to the kid you want there? i don't know how kid b-days work. do the parents just assume all kids are welcome even if the invite is addressed to one kid?

[lucky513]

you cant do that

[hisno1girl]

WHAT.

First you have to invite all of the classmates and now you have to invite all of the siblings?

What fresh hell is this??

I was invited to parties that my sister wasn't invited to. ALL THE TIME. My older SS was invited to parties that his younger brother was invited to.

OMG I am so glad I don't have to deal with this sort of bullshit.

[ralphlauren]

You cannot do that.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

Jan 8, 2013 21:01:59 GMT -5 frlcb said:

This is why I hate evite, you can't do it on there, and paper invites can get pricey. We are having this problem for ds's birthday next month

Wait. What? Paper invites can get pricey? You mean that 15 for $5 from Target? Or do you have special ones made up because that is stupid. These are kids' parties. You don't have to get super special invites. No.One.Cares.

[papie]

I just put the name of the invited kid. I don't know, in our daycare/friends circle, it is always assumed that only one child is invited unless otherwise specified.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

And Jermys, just put something like, "Due to restrictions beyond our control, we can only allow xyz kids to ride the ponies."

[Deleted]

No, you don't have to invite siblings.

But in my expierence, the parents bring them. And even drop them sibs off. Saw this happen last weekend.

[papie]

Jan 8, 2013 21:05:30 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

Jan 8, 2013 21:01:59 GMT -5 frlcb said:

This is why I hate evite, you can't do it on there, and paper invites can get pricey. We are having this problem for ds's birthday next month

Wait. What? Paper invites can get pricey? You mean that 15 for $5 from Target? Or do you have special ones made up because that is stupid. These are kids' parties. You don't have to get super special invites. No.One.Cares.

I get mine 10 for $1 at the dollar store, lol

[papie]

Jan 8, 2013 21:07:08 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

No, you don't have to invite siblings.

But in my expierence, the parents bring them. And even drop them sibs off. Saw this happen last weekend.

What? I've never seen anything like that.

[lucky513]

my sister always had to tag along with me
Im older by two years

[Doc_Lobster]

Jan 8, 2013 21:07:08 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

No, you don't have to invite siblings.

But in my expierence, the parents bring them. And even drop them sibs off. Saw this happen last weekend.

What the helling hell is this nonsense?

[EmilieMadison]

What is this "You can't do that" fuckery?
HOLY SHIT, yes you can and should tell parents which kid is invited and which kid isnt.

At the bottom of the invite you say, "Invitees only, please. Unfortunately, we cannot accommodate siblings." or something to that effect.

[Jermys]

Jan 8, 2013 21:02:27 GMT -5 hisno1girl said:

WHAT.

First you have to invite all of the classmates and now you have to invite all of the siblings?

What fresh hell is this??

I was invited to parties that my sister wasn't invited to. ALL THE TIME. My older SS was invited to parties that his younger brother was invited to.

OMG I am so glad I don't have to deal with this sort of bullshit.

I don't remember ever having this issue as a kid either. If my brother EVER went to a friend's birthday party, it was because that person was our cousin, and he really just went to play with our boy cousin and eat cake when the party was over. The whole birthday party thing has gotten kind of obscene. H and I were talking last night about how when we were kids, we had a party at our house with like a handful of friends, and cake and ice cream and some party games IF YOU WERE LUCKY.

Everyone we know invites a shitton of people, and it's at a bouncy place or something like that, and you feed everyone a real meal, plus cake and ice cream, and the favors are insane. Our house is tiny, and our kids have late winter/early spring birthdays, so it's not like we could rent a pavilion at the park.

I was hoping to cut out some of the siblings so we could invite Edith's classmates - I already cut the guest list in half by cutting out friends that aren't our besties, but I'm only down to ten kids

[Deleted]

I don't think anyone is hiring a babysitter to bring a four year old to a birthday party. I suppose they could leave the rest of them with their husband but idk, I've not seen that happen. I've not seen a birthday party for five year olds where siblings weren't permitted.

[eb777888]

We sent the invites to S's class and had an amazing turnout. Like 6 or seven kids came and not one of them brought the siblings. I think the best thing to do is to address the invite to the kid.

[Deleted]

My little sister is 9, and at her birthday party a dad dropped off the invited child, and the sister and then left. My mom and I were floored.

At a birthday party for a 4 year old the mom brought all 3 of her kids.

At my 13th birthday, my friend came and brought her sister- to my sleepover.

I have seen it happen more than once. Am I really the only one?

[speckledfrog]

Are the kids you inviting close in age? Could you use the western theme and throw in some sort of "We're rounding up all the 4-6 year olds for a rootin' tootin' time at Edith's party"

[papie]

Jan 8, 2013 21:15:21 GMT -5 @habbsies said:

I don't think anyone is hiring a babysitter to bring a four year old to a birthday party. I suppose they could leave the rest of them with their husband but idk, I've not seen that happen. I've not seen a birthday party for five year olds where siblings weren't permitted.

Maybe it is regional or something. Here, when they are younger, one parent will come with the invited kid. As they get slightly older (for DD1's class it was 5) the parents will just drop off the invited kid and pick them up later. The only times we all went as a family or I brought both girls was when it was specified on the invite.

[Jermys]

We don't have friends with more than two kids (which is weird now that I think of it), so it would be like Mom comes with invited kid, Dad stays home with unwanted sibling (lol)

[Jermys]

Except the babies could come because they wouldn't be an issue.

[EmilieMadison]

Jan 8, 2013 21:15:21 GMT -5 @habbsies said:

I don't think anyone is hiring a babysitter to bring a four year old to a birthday party. I suppose they could leave the rest of them with their husband but idk, I've not seen that happen. I've not seen a birthday party for five year olds where siblings weren't permitted.

Are you on crack? Really, this is a serious question.

[Deleted]

But what if dad works Saturday?

Would the mom then be required to get a babysitter?

5 and under I think is where it's understandable.

Understandable - not acceptable, but still.

[Jermys]

Jan 8, 2013 21:16:46 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Are the kids you inviting close in age? Could you use the western theme and throw in some sort of "We're rounding up all the 4-6 year olds for a rootin' tootin' time at Edith's party"

I like this!!

Maybe I'll add the "Due to restrictions, children under four can't attend." or something like that.

[eb777888]

Jan 8, 2013 21:01:59 GMT -5 frlcb said:

This is why I hate evite, you can't do it on there, and paper invites can get pricey. We are having this problem for ds's birthday next month

Just a tip, upload a cute pic of your kid to picmonkey.com, use the text box and even add some cute freebies and have them printed 4x6 at like, nine cents a piece. I sprang for the 5x7 for $.39.