Mr. Pom flew in the house in a rage. Now, mind you H is the nicest, easy going guy I know. Me, I am the giant asshole around here, but we agreed he would handle FIL and his drama.
H-"You cannot sit around outside our house in your f--cking underwear. We have to live here. We have neighbors, both sides have kids,we have an HOA, if there is a fine, you're paying it for not using you f-ing head". FIL--"I, I, I" he didn't have a comeback at first...but then. "I had my underwear on". Me- (cause I can only shutup so long) "I KNOW you saw kids out there. What were you thinking?" H- "That is not ACCEPTABLE. We are not hillbillies." "Also stay out of our damn bedroom, don't even think of going in there to snoop when you think "Mrs. Pom" isn't home. Our shit is none of you business" FIL- :::crickets::: H-"We invite you down here and you act f-ing crazy and ridiculous. I think it's best if we get your ticket changed and you just head back home. Since you can't be civilized, you're not welcome back."
Dinner was eaten in complete SILENCE. H talked to me of course, but FIL is like some pouty teenager. H has still not seen the disgusting guest bathroom. That should be fun for him.
I am about to call Delta with a sob story and ask about a change fee and what is available. My BF went home early from here 2 weeks ago when her luggage got stolen from out of our vehicle...I think that was $175-$200. Wish me luck.
@ Jenny...if I were my neighbors, I would have called the cops. I just don't know if they could really see that much since our property/lots are over a half acre. I didn't want to go out and draw attention to the whole thing. I didn't even know he didn't have his freakin pants on at first.
I am so beyond embarrassed. I really feel sorry for my husband. Thank God my family thinks he is awesome and love him very much. My dad passed away 25 years ago today and I would have given anything to have spent the day with him. What a waste.
Post by hellonurse on Jan 21, 2013 20:25:11 GMT -5
Wow, that sounds like an awkward conversation/dinner. Good for your H for taking care of this situation! And I agree about sending the Delta rep this picture.
These stories make me sad. Could he have dementia or some other medical problem or has he always been this way?
This. If he hasn't always been like this I would be really worried about Alzheimer's or other dementia. People can become very defensive and mean when trying to cover up memory loss. Severe depression can manifest in strange ways too. If this is a newer behavior for him, I would really push to get him evaluated.
I used to work with people who had Alzheimer's and dementia. It can start very early and people can cover it for years. We had residents who had it in their 40's and their families would always say "her behavior all made sense once we realized she had Alzheimer's all along." the poop smeared in the bathroom and undressing are classic behaviors. I'd urge you to get him to a doctor, if you haven't already.
We agree that it will be hard for us to know when there is dementia or Alzheimers. He has acted crazy/mean/spiteful/been a bully his entire life. According to H and other family members, his mother and most of his siblings exhibit (in the past and present) similar behavior. We spoke to his doctor in August. I flat out asked if he thought there was undiagnosed mental illness. His comment was that it could be something that has been there a long, long time but does not think it is dementia at this point.
He has alienated his friends by lying, he drove his wife away with bullying (they went to therapy for a bit, but the therapist thought it was a lost cause, from what we were told) and believe me, we do not enjoy this. If we could get him help, we would.