He does many foul things. I have had to throw out our guest bath shower curtain because he crapped on it. Just this morning, I was sweeping up toe nails and nut shells in front of the chair he uses in our living room. He has picked his nose at the table before and flicked it on the floor (previous visit). I have been posting about these horrific visits since my early days on The Nest. This morning, I just wiped up cereal, milk and some other sticky shit under the pub table in our kitchen. WTF..how can you make such a mess as a grown person. He has had on the same outfit everyday since he got here Friday.
What really pisses me off is that he comes down here and doesn't talk to us. As in, he gives one word answers when we try and talk to him and he takes no interest in his son. At all. I sort of want to get a conversation going with him about what he thinks these visits are about other than us waiting on him hand and foot while he sits around pouting because we don't pity him over his divorce.
I sort of want to get a conversation going with him about what he thinks these visits are about other than us waiting on him hand and foot while he sits around pouting because we don't pity him over his divorce.
I sort want you to too. This is probably your last chance to do it since he won't be returning to your house, there's no relationship to sour, so go for it. I'm super curious about what he'll have to say.
I sort of want to get a conversation going with him about what he thinks these visits are about other than us waiting on him hand and foot while he sits around pouting because we don't pity him over his divorce.
I sort want you to too. This is probably your last chance to do it since he won't be returning to your house, there's no relationship to sour, so go for it. I'm super curious about what he'll have to say.
This. My breaking point would have been long loooong ago.
I sort want you to too. This is probably your last chance to do it since he won't be returning to your house, there's no relationship to sour, so go for it. I'm super curious about what he'll have to say.
This. My breaking point would have been long loooong ago.
We just had a calm, collected chat. I didn't get started on anything petty (other than in a close neighborhood of houses like this, sitting in your underwear outside is not acceptable). I told him that time flies by and if he wants to have a relationship with H, now is the time. It went on from there, but I really doubt it made an impression. He is very selfish, if it's not about him, it is not worth discussing I guess.
Pom, good for you for not blowing your top so far. And I am happy that you are changing / have changed his flight - smart move.
I do think its worth getting him evaluated, but first get him home. And if you're in a different location, that's probably not easy to do. He does sound mentally ill (in addition to being just plain awful).
This. My breaking point would have been long loooong ago.
We just had a calm, collected chat. I didn't get started on anything petty (other than in a close neighborhood of houses like this, sitting in your underwear outside is not acceptable). I told him that time flies by and if he wants to have a relationship with H, now is the time. It went on from there, but I really doubt it made an impression. He is very selfish, if it's not about him, it is not worth discussing I guess.
I am in endless admiration of how well you've handled this. I would not have been nearly as polite to any of the parties involved. Bravo. And I'm glad you don't have to have him as a visitor in your home ever again.
and some people are just not good people. It doesn't mean he has a mental illness or dementia (although I agree that many of the things he's done are indicators if they are NEW behaviors) but if he's been like that his entire life I would not be worrying something is wrong. Some people are just ill mannered, selfish, and total slobs. I'm amazed he was able to find a second wife honestly!