I am not, and I do not regret that in the least. I feel like dating and playing around allowed me to learn a lot about myself and what I wanted and needed- both in the sack and in a partner.
My first... He's been in the local news a lot lately. I knew liked the whole "sex in public/try not to get caught" thing and I knew he was into porn. But he recently crossed the fun vs illegal line, 3 times. I don't regret that one one bit. Newp.
My second... We were engaged when I found out that he cheated on me. I ended it on the spot. He begged me to forgive him but I wouldn't have been able to trust him again. I don't regret dumping him. I can't be with a cheater.
I am, and I don't regret it. I know it makes me boring to some people... but I never feel like I've missed out. I'm incredibly happy and satisfied in my relationship and I think I'm exactly where I was supposed to be.
I'm still with my second. I don't regret it now, but there was a time when I did and wondered if there was something better out there sexually, even though sex with him had always been satisfying. Since my sex drive picked up I don't wonder anymore, because here's the mind-blowing sex I was wondering about previously.
I do think that it takes a little more effort to keep things exciting when you're 28 and have already been intimate for 12 years (judge away if you must). Honestly though, I don't regret not having more partners. We work really well together and I only had to worry about someone seeing me naked for the first time once!
Post by justduckydancer on Jan 23, 2013 22:45:33 GMT -5
I'm kinda where imoan is with this one. DH is my first, however there were/sometimes are times I wish I had experienced more but not for my benefit, for his. DH had been with quite a few people before me so I would sometimes worry that I wasn't measuring up to one of the other girls.
Since only two people besides me said they had regrets, I feel like I need to defend my position!
I have no regrets about marrying Mr. Smock or about our relationship or sex life. I just never went through any crazy phase in my younger years, and I sometimes feel like I missed out when I hear awesome stories from other people.
I don't think that having more experience would make my current relationship any different, in any way. Look, I just wish I hadn't been such a wet blanket!
Post by cuddlyevil on Jan 24, 2013 10:44:16 GMT -5
I am not, I do not regret it. I learned a lot about what I like and don't like from my previous partners. Some of them were good for me at the time, but I would have grown out of those relationships eventually.
Post by sillygoosegirl on Jan 24, 2013 12:13:54 GMT -5
I don't regret it. I'd always intended/expected to date more, but it certainly wasn't worth giving up DH to do it. If I'd known I was going to meet him my first semester of college, I might have been a little more wild in high school. I didn't make the choice to marry him instead if sticking with my prior plans lightly. I knew what I was giving up, and I knew it was what I wanted to do. And in hindsight, I still don't think I would have enjoyed my 20s as much any other way.
Post by wrathofkuus on Jan 24, 2013 14:52:11 GMT -5
I do feel a weird, I don't know, pressure to have been wild, to want to have been wild, and in my younger days, to be wild. It's less about what I want and more what it's implied that I should want, and it chafes just as much as the pressure to be chaste did. It feels like just another way of making my sexuality less mine.
Post by wrathofkuus on Jan 24, 2013 14:52:15 GMT -5
I do feel a weird, I don't know, pressure to have been wild, to want to have been wild, and in my younger days, to be wild. It's less about what I want and more what it's implied that I should want, and it chafes just as much as the pressure to be chaste did. It feels like just another way of making my sexuality less mine.
Post by wrathofkuus on Jan 24, 2013 14:52:19 GMT -5
I do feel a weird, I don't know, pressure to have been wild, to want to have been wild, and in my younger days, to be wild. It's less about what I want and more what it's implied that I should want, and it chafes just as much as the pressure to be chaste did. It feels like just another way of making my sexuality less mine.
Post by wrathofkuus on Jan 24, 2013 14:52:22 GMT -5
I do feel a weird, I don't know, pressure to have been wild, to want to have been wild, and in my younger days, to be wild. It's less about what I want and more what it's implied that I should want, and it chafes just as much as the pressure to be chaste did. It feels like just another way of making my sexuality less mine.