I am sorry you felt the need to perpetuate the sterotype of men being mysoginistic, insensitive, and dismissive of women and their FEELINGS. That makes me sad. Because I am ruled by my emotional vagina.
I love GQ hard. I even love Alan Rickman with that weird skullcap on his head and it makes me giggle at the end when his hair is all sticking out of it in spots.
This seems like a good place to announce that, while I do like Alan Rickman, I do not find him remotely attractive. I like Love, Actually, but his scenes have never jived for me.
This seems like a good place to announce that, while I do like Alan Rickman, I do not find him remotely attractive. I like Love, Actually, but his scenes have never jived for me.
I've been in a meeting all day, so I'm late to the game and this may have already been covered. I ddon't know, because I am too lazy to read a 7 page thread
oliver: Can you give an example of when advice given has been flat out wrong and what kind of advice a man would have given instead?
Basically any time someone makes a thread asking for advice about her man.
Especially the ones which are along the lines of 'H is doing this. What does it mean?'
I'm not here to explain you to yourselves. I'm not here to put you in your place.
I came here to explore to see if the company was worthwhile, and to offer a man's viewpoint when appropriate. You can thank your more vicious members for blowing things out of proportion.
Also - I question what your reaction would be if one of you tried to sign onto a forum which was predominantly male and got treated in this fashion. And you wonder why I'm unwilling to share my wife's identity.
I've been in a meeting all day, so I'm late to the game and this may have already been covered. I ddon't know, because I am too lazy to read a 7 page thread
oliver: Can you give an example of when advice given has been flat out wrong and what kind of advice a man would have given instead?
Basically any time someone makes a thread asking for advice about her man.
Especially the ones which are along the lines of 'H is doing this. What does it mean?'
Mmm, I rarely see posts here asking for people to decode behavior. That seems kind of like a stereotypical answer. I mean, if you have specific examples where responses to relationship problems have been way off base, I'd like to hear them.
As for the welcome you received, I think (and I emphasize think because I didn't read the entire post) the hatred was directed more toward Uppity Dude.
As a whole, I don't think anyone is opposed to guys on the board. I think we'd welcome the perspective. But, the whole "my wife is on here and she may or may not know" thing is understandably going to warrant some side eye.
Mmm, I rarely see posts here asking for people to decode behavior. That seems kind of like a stereotypical answer. I mean, if you have specific examples where responses to relationship problems have been way off base, I'd like to hear them.
As for the welcome you received, I think (and I emphasize think because I didn't read the entire post) the hatred was directed more toward Uppity Dude.
As a whole, I don't think anyone is opposed to guys on the board. I think we'd welcome the perspective. But, the whole "my wife is on here and she may or may not know" thing is understandably going to warrant some side eye.
Sure, and that's not the main reason I signed up.
Uppity Dude didn't show up until the welcome wagon had up and left. He brought back some flames, but wasn't here for the most of it.
I never said my wife 'may or may not know' that I was on here. I flat out said that I told her I was going to, and that she'd know it was me as soon as she read my posts.
First thing she said to me after she checked here this morning: 'I see you made an account'.
Yet you used the phrase "on the rag." Um, yeah. Because that's not a phrase that belittles women or the emotions they feel.
I intended to belittle 'letsgetweird'. I'd been listening to her heap abuse on me for several hours, and didn't feel like responding to her antagonism with politeness any longer.
I didn't realize my belittling one woman belittled all of you. Also - last I checked, 'on the rag' was slang for 'PMSing', as is 'riding the crimson wave'. Are all of those belittling terms?
Opening with "I'm going to piss most of you off" sorta, well, pissed us off. Not good board manners.
If you had come on here and made a post that went something like "Hey everyone, happened to find this board, seems pretty interesting. I realize it's a women's board but would you all mind if I posted too?" I doubt anyone would have been rude in the least. Or, at least a lot fewer people.
You gotta understand, every so often we get the random guy in here that thinks he's come to show us the light with a whole "Fear not, a man is here to guide you" attitude, so we tend to have our guard up.
Who was the last weirdo, btw? Weezy or something?
I started off by simply contributing. 'letsgetweird' instantly jumped down my throat. The second I confirmed to her that I was a guy, she said 'we don't want you here'.
My stating (many posts later) that I didn't want to reveal who my wife was because odds were that I was going to piss some of you off (and the proof is in the pudding there) isn't a statement that I'm going to go out of my way to do so - it's merely a recognition of reality.
So... I realize you're operating on incomplete information, but I'd like it if you wouldn't judge me based on said incomplete information.
Why? This isn't a women only board. This is a board for married life. This came out of the nest, which was a forum for people who'd tied the knot and were starting families. Last time I checked, men were very much involved.
I started off by simply contributing. 'letsgetweird' instantly jumped down my throat. The second I confirmed to her that I was a guy, she said 'we don't want you here'.
My stating (many posts later) that I didn't want to reveal who my wife was because odds were that I was going to piss some of you off (and the proof is in the pudding there) isn't a statement that I'm going to go out of my way to do so - it's merely a recognition of reality.
So... I realize you're operating on incomplete information, but I'd like it if you wouldn't judge me based on said incomplete information.
The fact that "oliver" articulates himself like a girl still makes me believe that he is a she. Looking at his past posts, he just comes across so...girlish. That and "he" is trying way to hard to be a dude.
Why? This isn't a women only board. This is a board for married life. This came out of the nest, which was a forum for people who'd tied the knot and were starting families. Last time I checked, men were very much involved.
We already have our token male. His name is Patrick. He writes a mean code. What do you do besides hang out on message boards where you aren't wanted?
The fact that you chose that particular means to "belittle 'letsgetweird'" rather than just "hey, why are you being so mean?" tells me all I need to know.
If a woman was being a bitch to me, my thought/question would be "What crawled up your ass and died?", not "are your woman hormones making you act this way?"
Which is basically what I said. You say 'what crawled up your ass and died', I say 'are you on your rag?'. Both are designed to offend the person you're saying them to.
And since you seem to be too dense to see how those phrases relate to belittling a woman, let me spell it out for you. You are implying that a woman's bad mood cannot be due to a shitty day at work, stress from tackling a large problem in life, or any other of a host of problems that people encounter every day. It must be because her girlie hormones are all jacked up and she must be irrational.
Actually, I essentially asked her if she was being a bitch because she was on her period, or if she was always this way. Nowhere in there does that imply that she *must* be on her period.
Why? This isn't a women only board. This is a board for married life. This came out of the nest, which was a forum for people who'd tied the knot and were starting families. Last time I checked, men were very much involved.
We already have our token male. His name is Patrick. He writes a mean code. What do you do besides hang out on message boards where you aren't wanted?
Patrick and I are in very similar professions, although I doubt he gets much time to code anymore. He probably spends more of his time in meetings than coding.
I don't code webpages, so I can't really show you any of my work.
Post by lovesherheels on Jan 25, 2013 22:14:02 GMT -5
I'm not sure if it's that it's getting late or that I've had a few margaritas but, as a lurker/newbie, I want to clarify that Oliver is not mine. None of you probably recognize my name, but I just want that out there.