*UPDATE* I'm bussing across the country to see

[studytime45]

never met...

We met on OkCupid 2 years ago and had just moved to LA. I'm in Toronto. We've been talking on skype almost every day for 2 years and I'm finally going to meet him at his cottage in Michigan. I'm staying 4 days. Sex is optional and no pressure is felt. I'm leaving this Sunday...

What say ML? or


ETA: We've both been going on dates in our hometowns during this online "thing" we've been having.

May DD this later. Please don't quote.


UPDATE: I'm staying in a hotel. I called him and he's fine with it. I haven't left yet - I'm leaving tomorrow at 1am. I'm taking a bus because it gets within 40 minutes of his cottage. If i flew, I wouldn't be able to get that close. When I visit him in LA, he's paying for my flight. I've researched him, seen his California Bar license online. Seems legit. Thank you all for the support, I really had a gut feeling this was a bad idea, and you've all pushed me towards the light. If there are any other pressing questions, I can answer them now that I'm online .

Oh, and the hair thing was because I posted a picture of my hair and there were some ladies who asked if I dyed it and I said no. Apparently that's scandalous.

[lucky513]

2 years is a long time
Would you consider moving?

[softspot]

I could never do it but more power to you. If he starts talking about bath salts RUN!

[angelaa73]

And you dont dye your hair, right?

[lucky513]

He owns a cottage in MI but lives in LA?

[studytime45]

Jun 1, 2012 0:50:28 GMT -5 lucky513 said:

He owns a cottage in MI but lives in LA?

Yes because he's originally from Chicago (4 hours from the cottage) but moved to LA for a job after graduating from law school.

[angelaa73]

Somebody quote this nutjob quick!

[studytime45]

Jun 1, 2012 0:50:25 GMT -5 angelaa73 said:

And you dont dye your hair, right?

No I don't. I thought the stuff about that was a joke, but if you want to be bitchy about it, go ahead.

[lucky513]

What do you want to get out of this trip? A relationship?

[purrbox]

This sounds like a bad idea. I think, because this is your first time meeting this guy in person, that you two should stick to meeting up in public places (like coffee shops, movies, dinner... that kind of thing).

I think it's a super bad idea to meet up with this guy at a cottage!!! You may have an internet relationship with this dude, but you don't know him in real life.

[lucky513]

Is it LA as in Los Angeles or Louisiana?
Because if it's Los Angeles I can save you if he ends of being a creeper

[angelaa73]

Jun 1, 2012 0:53:25 GMT -5 studytime45 said:

Jun 1, 2012 0:50:25 GMT -5 angelaa73 said:

And you dont dye your hair, right?

No I don't. I thought the stuff about that was a joke, but if you want to be bitchy about it, go ahead.

Maybe we need a redken certified stylist to school us!

[softspot]

This probably doesn't matter, but is your bus trip long? I can't imagine being stuck on a bus "across the country".

[studytime45]

Jun 1, 2012 0:59:45 GMT -5 softspot said:

This probably doesn't matter, but is your bus trip long? I can't imagine being stuck on a bus "across the country".

It's 12 hours.

[studytime45]

Jun 1, 2012 0:59:34 GMT -5 lucky513 said:

Is it LA as in Los Angeles or Louisiana?
Because if it's Los Angeles I can save you if he ends of being a creeper

Sorry, I meant Los Angeles.

[dowagercountess]

This is not a good idea.

[softspot]

Jun 1, 2012 1:00:49 GMT -5 studytime45 said:

Jun 1, 2012 0:59:45 GMT -5 softspot said:

This probably doesn't matter, but is your bus trip long? I can't imagine being stuck on a bus "across the country".

It's 12 hours.

Holy shitballs. Do you hate planes or something? Do bus seats recline?

[lucky513]

Meet him in Los Angeles if you want to meet him, or he needs to come to you

[mudslide]

I don't think it's a good idea to stay with him.

[flex]

Jun 1, 2012 0:46:20 GMT -5 studytime45 said:

never met...

We met on OkCupid 2 years ago and had just moved to LA. I'm in Toronto. We've been talking on skype almost every day for 2 years and I'm finally going to meet him at his cottage in Michigan. I'm staying 4 days. Sex is optional and no pressure is felt. I'm leaving this Sunday...
What say ML? or


ETA: We've both been going on dates in our hometowns during this online "thing" we've been having.

May DD this later. Please don't quote.

Are you shitting me? Do you know how ridiculous this sounds??

[studytime45]

Jun 1, 2012 1:01:35 GMT -5 dowagercountess said:

This is not a good idea.

Honestly, should I cancel? I'm usually a logical, sane, rational person. I trust many of the opinions of the ladies on the board, and you're one of them. I'll lose $200 but I'm not hurting for cash. Advice please!

[purrbox]

Jun 1, 2012 1:03:21 GMT -5 lucky513 said:

Meet him in Los Angeles if you want to meet him, or he needs to come to you

I agree with this, and I also think you should have a friend with you when you guys first meet.

[mudslide]

Jun 1, 2012 1:04:09 GMT -5 studytime45 said:

Jun 1, 2012 1:01:35 GMT -5 dowagercountess said:

This is not a good idea.

Honestly, should I cancel? I'm usually a logical, sane, rational person. I trust many of the opinions of the ladies on the board, and you're one of them. I'll lose $200 but I'm not hurting for cash. Advice please!

Yes, cancel.

[softspot]

Are you FB friends? Does he seem normal?

I'm glad others chimed in that it may not be a good idea. I was thinking that but I'm generally a worst case scenario type person.

[angelaa73]

Yes you should cancel!
A) a bus? The hell?
B) he should fly to see you and stay in a hotel

[purrbox]

It sounds like even you are thinking this is a bad idea. Trust your gut.

[studytime45]

Jun 1, 2012 1:09:16 GMT -5 softspot said:

Are you FB friends? Does he seem normal?

I'm glad others chimed in that it may not be a good idea. I was thinking that but I'm generally a worst case scenario type person.

We are facebook friends. He appears as normal as can be.

[donutrod]

Jun 1, 2012 0:46:20 GMT -5 studytime45 said:

never met...

We met on OkCupid 2 years ago and had just moved to LA. I'm in Toronto. We've been talking on skype almost every day for 2 years and I'm finally going to meet him at his cottage in Michigan. I'm staying 4 days. Sex is optional and no pressure is felt. I'm leaving this Sunday...

What say ML? or


ETA: We've both been going on dates in our hometowns during this online "thing" we've been having.

May DD this later. Please don't quote.

DONE!

[dowagercountess]

I really want you not to stay with him.

[studytime45]

Jun 1, 2012 1:12:58 GMT -5 @donutrod said:

Jun 1, 2012 0:46:20 GMT -5 studytime45 said:

never met...

We met on OkCupid 2 years ago and had just moved to LA. I'm in Toronto. We've been talking on skype almost every day for 2 years and I'm finally going to meet him at his cottage in Michigan. I'm staying 4 days. Sex is optional and no pressure is felt. I'm leaving this Sunday...

What say ML? or


ETA: We've both been going on dates in our hometowns during this online "thing" we've been having.

May DD this later. Please don't quote.

DONE!

Haha SCREW YOU! Just kidding.