My husband's former co-worker (and now good friend) recently got engaged. I like my husband's friend, but the fiancee, while nice, is not really someone I'd voluntarily choose to befriend.
The couple seems to be making a big push to be our "couple friends." We went to dinner with them once, which was fine, but not particularly exciting or entertaining for me. But, again, we like the guy a lot, so I guess this is what we have to do to continue seeing him?
The guy gave us a ride to the airport -- super nice! And then he gave us a card that his fiancee hand-made. It is really...crafty. He had me open it in front of him, and I feigned delight to the best of my ability.
When we were waiting for our flight, my husband said, "She sure does have a lot of time on her hands." And then we both laughed. I was relieved he said that because...well, it's hard for me to plaster on a fake smile for stuff like this. She wished us fun and safe travels in the card. SO NICE. She also asked that we send her postcards.
I'm so annoyed by that request. I probably have no right to be. After all, he gave us a ride to the airport, and she fucking made a card from scratch with all sorts of knick-knacks and sticky things and pop-up shit and whatever on it.
I'm an asshole, right?
But, seriously, I have no desire to write a faux heartfelt note to her everywhere we go.
Post by PeonyParty on Feb 16, 2013 21:29:04 GMT -5
She seems nice enough from what you say. I do think it's weird that she asked you to send her a postcard, but maybe she just needed something to say to fill the space of the card? I don't know man!
If you're an asshole for feeling that way, then I guess I'm an asshole too. I would be polite with her, but I wouldn't encourage her by sending a bunch of postcards. One maybe, but that's it.
Overly needy people like that make me nervousE. lol
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Her H drove you to the airport, so send her a token postcard and be done with it. Don't ask him for any more favors, so you're not trapped by repaying them in kindness to his wife.
Yeah, I think I'm obligated to send one postcard.
Also, we didn't ask him for a ride. He offered out of the blue. Seriously. I mean, what do you say to that? My husband just said yes because he was completely caught off-guard.
Do you normally send postcards? If not, then DEFINITLEY not asshole. If you do, doesn't make you an asshole but it makes her less presumptuous.
I never send postcards!
Even if you did send postcards, this chick is presumptuous to think she would already be on your postcard list. Next thing you know, she'll want to be in your top ten speed dials!! Lol
Do you normally send postcards? If not, then DEFINITLEY not asshole. If you do, doesn't make you an asshole but it makes her less presumptuous.
I never send postcards!
Then I definitley wouldn't bother now. It's not that you need to be a jerk to her, but you also don't have to start doing things you don't normally do for her either. And while it's "just a postcard", if you send one, she WILL expect it every time you go somewhere.
Aw, I feel bad for her. It sounds like she's trying really hard to get her new H's friends to like her. I will be a voice of dissent and say I'd take pity on her and be sweet back. If you want to stay friends with the dude you probably don't have a choice anyway
Then I definitley wouldn't bother now. It's not that you need to be a jerk to her, but you also don't have to start doing things you don't normally do for her either. And while it's "just a postcard", if you send one, she WILL expect it every time you go somewhere.
I don't know--I think that if she asks for a postcard the next time you take a trip, you can give her a rueful smile and say "I'm sorry--I don't normally mail postcards. I just did it that one time because you and your FI were so nice to give us a ride to the airport", then leave it at that.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
I think people say, "Send me a postcard!" without wanting one actually mailed. It's sort of a colloquial saying to me more than a literal request (especially if she knew you were going to be on a boat for most of the trip).
I'd get her a postcard and/or some other small souvenirs to give her when you return.
She wrote, "I love postcards!" followed by her address in her crafty card.
I'm not a frequent recipient of handmade cards, but I'm pretty sure this was quite the serious request.
And no way am I hauling shit home for this girl. I rarely even buy stuff for my family and actual friends.
Aw, I feel bad for her. It sounds like she's trying really hard to get her new H's friends to like her. I will be a voice of dissent and say I'd take pity on her and be sweet back. If you want to stay friends with the dude you probably don't have a choice anyway
If you feel the need to do something because he gave you a ride, pick them up a small "token of apprecitation" from your trip. I realize that probably would cost more, but it makes more sense if you want to thank him than sending a postcard.