Fasthands, when you're around...

[coribelle26]

I want to hear about how your appointment went!  I'm all invested in your reproductive health now after our fortune cookie bonding last week, lol.

ETA: Okay if I could read, life would be easier.  I just saw that you did update.  I'm so sorry for your frustration and you can bet your ass I would find a new doctor, that kind of disorganization would make me insane.

[FastHands]

Awful, but not for any reproductive reasons. lol
pandce.proboards.com/thread/138474/appt-followup-vent-whine

[coribelle26]

I was just editing, my "scanning for information" skills are not good today.

New doctor time, for real. That is just ridiculous.

[FastHands]

The scheduler called me yesterday morning and said "so you're not coming in for the u/s?"
me: "Oh, I'm sorry, did you not get the voicemail? I left one to let you know that I wouldn't be coming in and that you didn't need to call back to reschedule because I'm finding another doctor."
her: No, we got the message.
Me: Ok.
-silence-
Me: Did you need something from me?
her: um.. -super long pause- You're not coming back to Dr. X?
Me: Nope.
-silence-

Eventually she asked me why and I gave her a shortened, less profanity-laced version of what I posted here. Then there was more silence. Then she says "Well can we call you?"

wtf? I felt like I was breaking up with someone! I told her we were pretty much done here and that I might call to have them fax my records elsewhere, but that was pretty much it.

Most awkward phonecall ever.

[coribelle26]

Oh and I don't think I would wait until you're due for an annual unless you absolutely have to for insurance reasons.

[coribelle26]

Okay my attempts to work and GBCN simultaneously are proving unsuccessful.

So it seems like there's just a culture of stupidity there, seriously. I have to wonder if they lose a lot of patients due to issues similar to what you experienced, and that's why they still called you. I have never had a doctor try to get me to come back, or even contact me at all, after I said that I was changing to someone else.

[FastHands]

No they are actually a great and well-respected group, and I do not at all live in a rural area or anything (meaning just that there are plenty of ob options). Like I mentioned, I know current and former patients who love the group and especially this doctor. It's completely possible that I just had really bad luck based on what I've heard from others. The women I know who use her are not the type to just put up with bad treatment/service, so I really don't think there's any "culture of stupidity" among the staff. Like, I almost feel bad that I had such a bizarrely awful experience because soooooooooooo many other people love her.

I do think the scheduler call was weird, but I think it's probably because people DON'T often say that they are changing doctors, and she was calling for feedback. Which I think does show they give a crap, otherwise they wouldn't have bothered.

[FastHands]

But, all that said, I just can't go back. So as for what I'm doing now, I have a couple of options that I'm kicking around... I can go to my PCP and see if they can do the blood work and a urology recommendation for DH... I can call my insurance to see if I can go right to RE (my ins doesn't require specialist referrals, but they may require a year before an RE is covered)... or I can go for an early annual with a new obgyn, which may still require insurance involvement since I just saw the obgyn last week.

[coribelle26]

Hmm, of those options I would see if the PCP could get at least a few tests rolling, and then maybe they could refer you to an RE to try to bypass the one year requirement? Even if your insurance doesn't need a referral, maybe you can justify an earlier RE consultation if your PCP "recommends" it.

There's so much to think about. I don't even have an official OBGYN yet, my PCP has always done my PAP and everything. My doctor's office will not combine a physical with a PAP and pelvic, so I have to decide which of those to do first when I have time, and a lot hinges on whether she can order blood work from one or the other, so I have to call and ask. I'm due for both anyway.

H goes to the doctor basically never, but his PCP is in the same practice so I'm hoping that streamlines the process to get an SA done for him.

I hope that, whatever you decide, it all works out and you get some answers soon! Or, screw the answers, and you get a BFP.