May I ask, does he have some sort of emotional issue he is not dealing with? You said things were going well and then he was back to his usual behavior. Or is he just not involved at home?
May I ask, does he have some sort of emotional issue he is not dealing with? You said things were going well and then he was back to his usual behavior. Or is he just not involved at home?
Again, I am so sorry.
I honestly think he does. He will obsess over something forever and nobody can reason with him.
At this point, he just won't drop an issue with us that I thought we were past. It's really something stupid, and initially I understood how he could be upset, but he can't see past his own anger to listen to me (or probably anyone).
He's involved, but he works a part time job (teacher) and runs a business. it in my face every chance he gets that he works SO hard for me. He's busy a lot, even when he's home.
Then maybe this will be a wake up call and he'll get help. If so then there's no law saying you can't reconcile if he gets healthy. if not then you and the kids are definitely better off away from that.
May I ask, does he have some sort of emotional issue he is not dealing with? You said things were going well and then he was back to his usual behavior. Or is he just not involved at home?
Again, I am so sorry.
I honestly think he does. He will obsess over something forever and nobody can reason with him.
At this point, he just won't drop an issue with us that I thought we were past. It's really something stupid, and initially I understood how he could be upset, but he can't see past his own anger to listen to me (or probably anyone).
He's involved, but he works a part time job (teacher) and runs a business. He throws it in my face every chance he gets that he works SO hard for me. He's busy a lot, even when he's home.
ugh. I think if it is a joint decision for you to be home with the kids, that is a real dick move to throw it in your face. I get financial stress and H can tend to keep things in and then blow up, but it seems like it is more than that for you two.
I am in agreement with you, there is no way a relationship will be able to last if both people are not willing and able to take accountability for their behavior AND when things have been apologized for and worked out, they need to move on.
I agree that you should speak to an attorney ASAP, just to cover your bases. I would hate for him to start acting really vindictive with you, especially if he is already blaming you for everything.
I'm so sorry. You're not stealing money if you use your joint accounts to pay for stuff you and the kids need. That's your money too. I've seen friends to through this and generally the partner who makes the money ends up paying the bills until an settlement is worked out.
i was 30 when my divorce was finalized. the teen was 5 at the time, and she adjusted with no problems. i made just enough to pay the bills and keep us from going hungry, and it was hard - but it was worth it. it truly was the beginning of the best part of my life.
i know it's tough right now, but you are strong and you'll get through this. plus, you have a whole board of people who love you and want you to be happy!