Post by margotmacomber on Mar 28, 2013 23:54:14 GMT -5
Oh no. What is going on in his head that he is ignoring his CMC to the point of police needing to be called? This is what I am most worried about. Most soldiers I know shit their pants if a 1st sgt or Cpt needs to be called about their behavior. And he just rolls with it? NO. My brain is not getting it.
Don't feel guilty, don't let him blame you. Do whatever the fuck you feel is necessary to protect yourself. Dude is unhinged. Keep in touch with his CoC for real. Don't let them blow you off (I don't know if they are or aren't I'm just saying).
Oh no. What is going on in his head that he is ignoring his CMC to the point of police needing to be called? This is what I am most worried about. Most soldiers I know shit their pants if a 1st sgt or Cpt needs to be called about their behavior. And he just rolls with it? NO. My brain is not getting it.
Don't feel guilty, don't let him blame you. Do whatever the fuck you feel is necessary to protect yourself. Dude is unhinged. Keep in touch with his CoC for real. Don't let them blow you off (I don't know if they are or aren't I'm just saying).
And this is what worries me for you @verycontrary, he is obviously at a point where he doesn't care what happens to him as long as he gets back at you in the process.
The fact that he is so unconcerned with how this is affecting his job/career and all is bad. Call his superior today and insist that something be done. He isn't rational right now and that is really dangerous for you since you're the focus of his anger at the moment.
Post by nightandday on Mar 29, 2013 7:46:26 GMT -5
I don't understand how the police would just let him stay in the house after the threats that he texted to you. He sounds unbalanced and unstable. It really worried me when you said he came back and acted like nothing happened. Please do all you can do to stay safe. Check back with his CMC and the police about removing him from your home.
Ditto KC. His command CAN force him to stay in the barracks with regular check-ins at the duty hut to make sure he's not leaving. Make some noise & get his ass nailed to the wall.
nursewife police says since we are both technically residents, neither of us is allowed to change the locks or force the other from the house without a legal order or separation agreement.
Can you get a restraining order? This is insanity. You have no kids, right?
nursewife police says since we are both technically residents, neither of us is allowed to change the locks or force the other from the house without a legal order or separation agreement.
fuck this, do it anyway when he is gone, and deal with the consequences later. he is dangerouis
LeggsBenedict -Yes, he was. He was staying with a friend all weekend. I was counting on him staying with his parents for the rest of the time, but apparently when he 'fessed up the full story of what happened to his dad FIL basically told him he was a shitbag for doing that to me and now he will not ask if he can stay there.
I was feeling guilty that he would be paying for the house but not be able to stay there. I wasn't going to try to force him to stay on the boat/barracks/whatever while he was acting like a reasonable, rational adult so I agreed he could stay in the extra room as long as he didn't act like a psycho.
Also, as someone who was engaged to a total shitbag a decade ago - I did all the "humane" things like not sell his stuff when he owed me a ton of money and not kick him out, etc. etc. etc. I can tell you from experience, guys like that DO NOT think like you and me. They are manipulators. Manipulators don't see that as nice, they see it as WEAKNESS. Do what you need to do, kick his ass out, let him fuck up his military career - whatever. None of that has anything to do w/ you. If he doesn't pay you anything ever (unlikely b/c they can garnish wages from whatever job he gets if he doesn't pay court ordered support...right?) you still get away ahead of the game. The cost of keeping him in your life over the promise of money is NOT WORTH IT. The sooner you move on, the closer you are to a better life.
nursewife police says since we are both technically residents, neither of us is allowed to change the locks or force the other from the house without a legal order or separation agreement.
fuck this, do it anyway when he is gone, and deal with the consequences later. he is dangerouis
This is probably not the best idea. Obviously little things are turning him psychotic, and locking him out of the house can really piss him off. This can easily escalate, and a locked door might not stop him.
The safest thing, in my opinion, is to just pack up your stuff and go. Go stay with someone else for a bit while you can figure things out. The house is not safe, and frankly, staying in it just isn't worth it.
Post by verycontrary247 on Mar 29, 2013 8:41:04 GMT -5
I haven't talked to CMC since the police showed up last night. I missed a call from him this morning and he said he was about to go into a meeting but will call back as soon as he's out.