This article annoys me.

[CheshireGrin]

I'm going to leave it here.

www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2013/04/i_married_young_what_are_the_rest_of_you_waiting_for.html 

[speckledfrog]

I stopped reading shortly after the title. I got married at 23, too. I'm smart enough to know that other people get married when they are ready, age be damned.

[MWOS]

she wins!


I don't even HAVE a husband

[verycontrary247]

Fuckoff lady! I got married young, see where that got me?

[CheshireGrin]

"Sometimes people delay marriage because they are searching for the perfect soul mate. But that view has it backward. Your spouse becomes your soul mate after you've made those vows to each other in front of God and the people who matter to you. You don’t marry someone because he’s your soul mate; he becomes your soul mate because you married him."

This is my favorite part. Stop waiting for the perfect person and JUST FUCKING MARRY SOMEONE ALREADY. It'll be great!

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

lulz that having two people in one household that are young, poor, and still trying to get their foothold in life is a great, healthy bonding experience and an excellent reason for marriage.

[CheshireGrin]

I almost feel like it has to be an April Fools joke, but it's STILL THERE.

[papie]

Apr 2, 2013 22:15:33 GMT -5 CheshireGrin said:

"Sometimes people delay marriage because they are searching for the perfect soul mate. But that view has it backward. Your spouse becomes your soul mate after you've made those vows to each other in front of God and the people who matter to you. You don’t marry someone because he’s your soul mate; he becomes your soul mate because you married him."

This is my favorite part. Stop waiting for the perfect person and JUST FUCKING MARRY SOMEONE ALREADY. It'll be great!

I think she spoke to my mom.

[fuckyourcouch]

i got married young and i want to punch her in the face.

[EmilieMadison]

I got married young -twice- and I want to shove a swizzle stick up her nose.

[gretchenindisguise]

I got married at 22! I should write her and ask what the fuck took her so long.

[Deleted]

I can't roll my eyes hard enough.

Ridiculous.

[EmilieMadison]

Apr 2, 2013 22:32:12 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

Apr 2, 2013 22:29:32 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

I got married at 22! I should write her and ask what the fuck took her so long.

CC me on that email. I got married at 20!

Pfff, I'd already been married two times at 23! You guys are soooo sloooooow.

[BlackCanary]

Yeah...I married young...that first marriage ended pretty quickly. And she killed me when she said that their single friends rely on their parents but not her and her husband! Even if their friends have jobs!

[gretchenindisguise]

Apr 2, 2013 22:37:32 GMT -5 EmilieMadison said:

Apr 2, 2013 22:32:12 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

CC me on that email. I got married at 20!

Pfff, I'd already been married two times at 23! You guys are soooo sloooooow.

Damn you!

[mudslide]

I didn't even finish the article. She was annoying. I married at 19, am still very happily married 7 years later. Getting married (young or period) is not for everyone. I feel like she's trying to prove something.

[winston]

Apr 3, 2013 1:46:48 GMT -5 mudslide said:

I didn't even finish the article. She was annoying. I married at 19, am still very happily married 7 years later. Getting married (young or period) is not for everyone. I feel like she's trying to prove something.

This is where I'm at. People who go around yelling that their way is best (when no one is even asking them) usually seem to need to justify their choices to themselves. I guess I just don't spend that much time worrying about when everyone else gets married.

[mushmouse]

Excited for her follow up "It's exhilarating to be divorced at 30".

[MrsStark]

H and I were both 24 and we both felt that was pretty young, but we were ready to get married. I definitely do not recommend that to most people.

And the cell phone, seriously? I was on my parents' cell plan til last year. My line was grandfathered in for $9 a month til then. No way I was getting that nice of a deal if H and I started our own plan!

The soul mate thing grinds my gears. Not just because I don't believe in soul mates, but because marrying someone that you don't know and love well enough to consider your soul mate is just a bad idea.

Ditto PPs saying she's trying to prove something.

[mudslide]

Apr 3, 2013 7:10:44 GMT -5 winston said:

Apr 3, 2013 1:46:48 GMT -5 mudslide said:

I didn't even finish the article. She was annoying. I married at 19, am still very happily married 7 years later. Getting married (young or period) is not for everyone. I feel like she's trying to prove something.

This is where I'm at. People who go around yelling that their way is best (when no one is even asking them) usually seem to need to justify their choices to themselves. I guess I just don't spend that much time worrying about when everyone else gets married.

I totally agree. This is what I trying to say, but I couldn't put it into words.

[Jalapeñomel]

I hate that people are trying to live life instead of getting married young and having babies. Our priorities are really messed up nowadays.

[Deleted]

I was first married in my mid 20s. Abort abort abort! I was not ready for that adventure and was not able to wisely choose the right spouse.

Now I'm looking to get married again in my early 30s and am SO relieved. OMG, so much easier now. Sure, you learn your lesson the first time around, but holy hell I am glad this relationship isn't shrouded in dread and isn't-that-what-we-do-next? feelings.

[Bernadine]

I married young and instead of becoming my soulmate, my spouse became an alcoholic, so....... Lol.

[smock]

Here's what I've never understood about this sort of article. H and I started dating when we were young, both in college. We had a cell phone plan, lived together, the netflix account, man the whole nine yards, but we waited until we were both over 25 to get married.

Before we were married, we still supported each other financially, moved across the country together, and dealt with new jobs. We stepped up our level of commitment to each other slowly over the years. So according to this article, our lives would have been way different if we got married a few years earlier? In my thinking, we made sure our adult lives and views were compatible and that we were ready to make a life-long commitment before we signed the paperwork, and I can't imagine why that's a bad thing.

[walterismydog]

Apr 2, 2013 22:15:33 GMT -5 CheshireGrin said:

"Sometimes people delay marriage because they are searching for the perfect soul mate. But that view has it backward. Your spouse becomes your soul mate after you've made those vows to each other in front of God and the people who matter to you. You don’t marry someone because he’s your soul mate; he becomes your soul mate because you married him."

This is my favorite part. Stop waiting for the perfect person and JUST FUCKING MARRY SOMEONE ALREADY. It'll be great!

I married what I thought was my "soul mate" at 22. I divorced at 25. This bitch needs to get in touch with reality and stop viewing the world as a black and white place. SHADES OF GRAY.

[mrsgoontz]

I couldn't even finish reading that article; my eyes were rolling too hard. She seems like a dumb twat.

[sparkythelawyer]

Ya know? My boyfriend from 19-26 was not a bad dude. But I STILL thank the 8#, 6oz baby Jesus that I did not marry him. We are both with people much better suited for ourselves. There is a wisdom in waiting until you are ready for things, and this girl will realize it in about ten years. And it will be too late then. What a fuckwit.

[soleil]

I read this article the other day and it cracked me up.  I got married young (22, DH was 26--married for 3 years now).

I would not recommend it.  I mean, I'm happy and love my life, but I did miss out on that freedom/flexibility that comes with graduating college single and just experimenting--moving around, accepting a job wherever, trying out some different career paths, living completely on my own outside of the college bubble.

I think there's a lot to be said for those things and how they shape you and help you mature.  I was fortunate in that I was pretty independent through college, as well as having studied abroad and done a ton of traveling on my own.

It's been nice growing and learning with my husband, but we both had/have to sacrifice a lot and I think we could have stood to have dated for a lot while longer before marriage like my sister and her husband (they were together all through college + 4 additional  years after graduating before finally getting married).

[leeann]

She comes off as an entitled, judgey twit. "My H passed the bar, this should have warranted a lavish vacation." Says who?

[Deleted]

fuck choosing a husband, even. let's return to arranged marriage! at 22. hell, at 18. you can learn to love your husband as a freshman in college.