So we all know that Halle Berry has loads of nannies, personal trainers, live in chefs, etc but is she too old? Just b/c science is letting her be a older mom, is that ok? She looks smokin' for 46, but by the time this baby is off to college, mom will be nearly 70. How do you guys feel about this?
I can't really say anything, I had J when I was 40, and DH is 47. I know we are older, and we thought long and hard about it. But we also got married late.
My dad was almost 43 when I was born. I think it's a personal choice, some people really want to be settled before bringing a baby into the mix. Some people just don't find that person until a little later. I personally would not get PG that late because of the higher risks of problems with older moms. But I don't judge someone on when they decide to have a child if they feel they are ready.
I didn't realize she was 46 until I read she was pregnant and it was mentioned. You know, I'm 38 and to me the number sounds old but I don't really feel any different than I did when I was 30. I think it's fine, but it's not for me. To each their own I guess.
I think it's a personal choice, some people really want to be settled before bringing a baby into the mix. Some people just don't find that person until a little later. I personally would not get PG that late because of the higher risks of problems with older moms. But I don't judge someone on when they decide to have a child if they feel they are ready.
I agree with all of this. Except my BIL is mid 50s (sis is 35) and they. Have a 8 mnth old. I judge him.
Yeah, I'm going to be 46 in 10 years - I certainly hope I am not a grandparent then! I don't know, I had my first right before I turned 30, and the vast majority of my friends had their first in their 30s or40s. Honestly 46 does not seem that old to me to be having a child. Demographics are skewing more and more towards people having kids when they are older. It doesn't phase me, nor do I think it is a bad thing. More power to her (but she does have terrible taste in men...)
My H is turning 47 next week and we want another. Yes, he will be an older dad, but that's becoming more and more common IMO. Personally, I do not think its too old.
DH had an older dad (he was 40) and he said from the beginning that he wanted to be a younger dad because he felt like his dad couldn't do a lot of stuff he wanted him to do. I guess I personally worry about having the energy to put up with a teenager and being alive for marriages and grand kids.
Ummm, Kai will be 10 when I'm 46. I have a hard time wrapping my mind around a 40-something grandma.
I think it would be hard in many ways, but I don't know why it would be "too old" to have a baby. I mean, I really don't know what criteria would make her too old.
Post by browneyedhunni85 on Apr 7, 2013 20:47:15 GMT -5
In my circle most people are grandparents in their late 40's. My parents were grandparents at 44 I believe. They were young. I know a lot of people wait until their 30's to marry and have children and it's the norm. I just wouldn't want it for me.
Who's a grandparent at 46 these days?! I think 46 is on the old side but just because its the woman who is that age, it's much riskier at that age, I'd imagine its also much harder just in a physical sense.
However really age is just a number too. I know plenty of young people who are in terrible shape and would struggle greatly with pregnancy. While Halle berry is not only in excellent physical shape but has the top medical care money can buy, if anybody can have a good pregnancy at 46 it's the mega rich. And who cares if your middle aged body is tired running around after the wee one? Just hire another nanny! Lol
My mom had my little sister at 45. Not planned! She was freaking out the whole pregnancy worrying. And yes, 45 is too old. But then my little sister wouldn't be her and they love her no less because they are "old". So I can't say any age is too old because babies are great, kids are great.
The thing that makes it more confusing is that a 46 year old father does not seem old at all.
I dunno, whenever I think about either of the parents being 70+ when the child graduates college I feel bad for the kid. Their parent/parents could get Alzheimer's or something and need to go in a home and that would be really hard to handle at 22 when you're trying to figure out your own life. If I were 46 and wanted more kids I would think about adopting an older child or becoming a foster parent.
In my circle most people are grandparents in their late 40's. My parents were grandparents at 44 I believe. They were young. I know a lot of people wait until their 30's to marry and have children and it's the norm. I just wouldn't want it for me.
Not to be persnickety buuuuuut you did say it was old, referring to someone other than you.
Post by rainbowchip on Apr 7, 2013 20:55:31 GMT -5
My parents were grandparents at 45 and 46. They got married at 22 and 23 and had my brother 6 months later (premature ) and my brother got married at 23 and had my niece just shy of 9 months later.
The thing that makes it more confusing is that a 46 year old father does not seem old at all.
I dunno, whenever I think about either of the parents being 70+ when the child graduates college I feel bad for the kid. Their parent/parents could get Alzheimer's or something and need to go in a home and that would be really hard to handle at 22 when you're trying to figure out your own life. If I were 46 and wanted more kids I would think about adopting an older child or becoming a foster parent.
Yes but people can die at any time of any condition. Cancer strikes often when people are young. All sorts of freak things can kill you off any time. You may be 95 and still going strong! I mean, who knows!
i just feel like if I were 45 and I really wanted a child and I could provide a great life to that child for however long I am healthy, if it is 20 years if it is 40 years... To just NOT have a child because I might die or be sick when they are in college, well that seems ludicrous to me!
It is too old for me also. I want to be looking forward to a kidless house, college visits and possible weddings, and traveling on my own and with my husband at that point, not getting knee deep in poopy diapers again.
Post by lauranicole91 on Apr 7, 2013 20:59:47 GMT -5
My mom was a grandma at 47. She'd have been even younger if my 5 year older brother had decided to do the marry and start a family early route like I did.