Aahh. I just dont get this. You guys are seriously making it sound like you care more about the alcohol than whoever you're celebrating. And that is the problem with alcohol. Nothing can ever be fun without it, and seeing people wasted out of their minds IS fun. Wow...I guess you'd all think I was boring, then. That doesn't sound like the LEAST bit fun to me. I'd rather have a conversation with someone who was going to remember it the next day!
Having alcohol doesn't have to mean being wasted out of their minds. It's no surprise that having a drunk or two will loosen people up to help along a good time. It doesn't mean that they are incapable of having fun without it, we'll I guess for some that may be true.
Aahh. I just dont get this. You guys are seriously making it sound like you care more about the alcohol than whoever you're celebrating. And that is the problem with alcohol. Nothing can ever be fun without it, and seeing people wasted out of their minds IS fun. Wow...I guess you'd all think I was boring, then. That doesn't sound like the LEAST bit fun to me. I'd rather have a conversation with someone who was going to remember it the next day!
Having alcohol doesn't have to mean being wasted out of their minds. It's no surprise that having a drunk or two will loosen people up to help along a good time. It doesn't mean that they are incapable of having fun without it, we'll I guess for some that may be true.
No. And I know plenty of people who can drink and not get wasted. I just haaate the fact that people think without alcohol, its boring/not fun/you want to go home. And some of you have said that in this thread. I think thats so sad, IMO. I would feel awful if I invited you to my wedding and you didn't even care to see the happy celebration of two people getting married, all because there was no drink in your hand. Maybe someone can explain it better, but that is all I see...
Most people don't NEED alcohol to have a good time. And most people can still drink and still remember what happened the night before. Drinking for most people doesn't automatically mean doing stupid things or blacking out and not remembering stuff. There is a social aspect to drinking that a lot of non-drinkers don't understand.
Aahh. I just dont get this. You guys are seriously making it sound like you care more about the alcohol than whoever you're celebrating. And that is the problem with alcohol. Nothing can ever be fun without it, and seeing people wasted out of their minds IS fun. Wow...I guess you'd all think I was boring, then. That doesn't sound like the LEAST bit fun to me. I'd rather have a conversation with someone who was going to remember it the next day!
And if you go to the same weddings with a lot of the same people, there is only so much you can sit around and talk about what you have been up to, and say "oh she looks so pretty today" before it gets really freaking boring.
I get that most people dont drink to get drunk, and its a social thing. But, and I admit, I probably dont get it because its not me and I dont drink. But like, my sister for example. She is someone who is a social drinker, doesnt get drunk, and enjoys whatever she's drinking. But she'll make it a point to say that, 'Oh, it was so fun! I had the best margarita!!.. " or whatever, and people are all, "oh thats so fun!!!" Ok. Well I just had the best raspberry lemonade, and I had a great time! But no one recognizes it, because there was no drinking involved. Thats my problem. Its irritating (only to me, I know, because I'm the non-drinker.)
I tried wearing mascara when I was a sophomore in HS and I looked so weird. I think part of that might have been that I was using my best friend's mascara and she wore super black mascara. Red heads probably should wear something more brown, right?
Yeah, for redheads, I like brown or brown-black. And make sure you get it all the way down to the bottoms of your lashes. Some people have trouble with that, and it looks really weird and fake on blonde lashes. Like you have floating eyelashes, lol.
I wear black, but I'm not the same kind of redhead.
I've recently swtiched from brown eyeshadow to purple. it's amazing how un purple it looks on my pink skin!
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Hey, I'm admitting I'm the minority! Obviously. And that is probably why this just does not make any sense to me. Just like my points dont make sense to people who enjoy drinking. I'll leave it alone now, lol
No. And I know plenty of people who can drink and not get wasted. I just haaate the fact that people think without alcohol, its boring/not fun/you want to go home. And some of you have said that in this thread. I think thats so sad, IMO. I would feel awful if I invited you to my wedding and you didn't even care to see the happy celebration of two people getting married, all because there was no drink in your hand. Maybe someone can explain it better, but that is all I see...
To most people, a wedding is a party in which you get dressed up and want to have a fun night out. Yes, we are happy to be celebrating you. However, you must realize that a fun night out for MOST people includes drinking. There are very few people who would like to don a dress and heels and get a sitter to go out for conversation.
I think the point @sprinkles is trying to make is that people on this thread have implied they need to drink to make a wedding a fun night out. That a wedding without alcohol is a waste of time. I'll be honest, I hope no one went home from my wedding saying, "Wow, that was so boring. I danced sober." I'm embarassed to think that some of my friends might trash me on a board because they were stuck drinking soda.
To most people, a wedding is a party in which you get dressed up and want to have a fun night out. Yes, we are happy to be celebrating you. However, you must realize that a fun night out for MOST people includes drinking. There are very few people who would like to don a dress and heels and get a sitter to go out for conversation.
I think the point @sprinkles is trying to make is that people on this thread have implied they need to drink to make a wedding a fun night out. That a wedding without alcohol is a waste of time. I'll be honest, I hope no one went home from my wedding saying, "Wow, that was so boring. I danced sober." I'm embarassed to think that some of my friends might trash me on a board because they were stuck drinking soda.
Yes, thank you. And I hope no one had that reaction to your wedding, katfco! I'm sure your wedding was so much fun, too!
Its like having an evening wedding at dinner time but not having dinner. And saying, "well, you should have just wanted to celebrate with us instead of eating."
Post by TrudyCampbell on May 16, 2013 15:01:44 GMT -5
The wedding I'm going to in a few weeks is probably costing me $2000 or more. Between the bridesmaid dress, the tux rental, the car rental, the hotel, the dog sitter, the gift we gave them... I don't even want to add it up. It's also me and my H's first weekend alone without Violet. If I got there and someone told me there was no alcohol, I would SOB.
Post by dixeedeluxe on May 16, 2013 15:06:33 GMT -5
I don't have any friends (or especially family) that would have an alcohol free wedding. It just wouldn't happen. I guess it's just not the culture I'm in, eh?
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I think the point @sprinkles is trying to make is that people on this thread have implied they need to drink to make a wedding a fun night out. That a wedding without alcohol is a waste of time. I'll be honest, I hope no one went home from my wedding saying, "Wow, that was so boring. I danced sober." I'm embarassed to think that some of my friends might trash me on a board because they were stuck drinking soda.
I understand the point she is trying to make and I truly hope no one felt that way about your wedding but it doesn't make what I said any less true. If one of my friends had an alcohol free wedding, I would give them shit for it. I wouldn't name names on some message board though.
I would! Stacy and Mark! Damn you and your dry wedding!
I think the point @sprinkles is trying to make is that people on this thread have implied they need to drink to make a wedding a fun night out. That a wedding without alcohol is a waste of time. I'll be honest, I hope no one went home from my wedding saying, "Wow, that was so boring. I danced sober." I'm embarassed to think that some of my friends might trash me on a board because they were stuck drinking soda.
I understand the point she is trying to make and I truly hope no one felt that way about your wedding but it doesn't make what I said any less true. If one of my friends had an alcohol free wedding, I would give them shit for it. I wouldn't name names on some message board though.
But doesn't that seem disrespectful? I have plenty of friends who drink. And they would obviously know my stance on it. If I said I was having a dry wedding and they gave me crap for it, I'd be so upset! They know how I feel, and they can't deal with it for one night? See, I would feel bad, since they are supposed to be my friend. (If they were joking, it'd be fine. But I guess I dont know if you would be joking or truly upset over the non-alcohol. If you would be, forget this. :-) )
I understand the point she is trying to make and I truly hope no one felt that way about your wedding but it doesn't make what I said any less true. If one of my friends had an alcohol free wedding, I would give them shit for it. I wouldn't name names on some message board though.
I would! Stacy and Mark! Damn you and your dry wedding!
I think the point @sprinkles is trying to make is that people on this thread have implied they need to drink to make a wedding a fun night out. That a wedding without alcohol is a waste of time. I'll be honest, I hope no one went home from my wedding saying, "Wow, that was so boring. I danced sober." I'm embarassed to think that some of my friends might trash me on a board because they were stuck drinking soda.
I understand the point she is trying to make and I truly hope no one felt that way about your wedding but it doesn't make what I said any less true. If one of my friends had an alcohol free wedding, I would give them shit for it. I wouldn't name names on some message board though.
I think a lot of it goes to what people are used to. I've been to both dry and "wet" weddings and I've had fun at both and judged a couple of both. One of the dry ones I went to was really boring and I'll be honest, the 40-minute slide show of the couple during the ceremony made me wish I had a drink, or at least a valium so I could nap. Another wedding I went to had the alcohol flowing so freely, half the bridal party was well on their way of being drunk before the toasts. The bride's cousin was so drunk she kept making loud comments during the toast, and a few people were so drunk by the end they were literally unable to keep their heads up.
I guess the point I'm trying to make is that I think it's the people that make a wedding fun or bad, not necessarily the alcohol (or lack thereof).
But a wedding must have music and dancing to have a hope of being fun.
Im going to a wedding in July... my best guy friend ever... and they are vegetarian and having a vegetarian fare. Im upset that I have to travel 4 hours, spend $500 for a hotel and then not eat meat?
Im going to drink my sorrows away that night. No offence to you vegetarians!
But doesn't that seem disrespectful? I have plenty of friends who drink. And they would obviously know my stance on it. If I said I was having a dry wedding and they gave me crap for it, I'd be so upset! They know how I feel, and they can't deal with it for one night? See, I would feel bad, since they are supposed to be my friend. (If they were joking, it'd be fine. But I guess I dont know if you would be joking or truly upset over the non-alcohol. If you would be, forget this. :-) )
It isn't about 'dealing with it for one night' as if people are off drinking every single night and going to your wedding means they have to remain sober. It is about going out and being around a large group of people in a social setting, which does not happen that often. It is exactly these types of social situations that people want a drink or two in order to relax and have more interesting conversation. For instance, I would probably never speak to your cousin Sally but after a drink, I would be far more relaxed about having never met her and have a 20 minute conversation with her in which we laugh the whole time. That is much much less likely to happen without some alcohol. What is likely to happen is people standing around listening to chicken dance wishing time away. It isn't personal, it just is.
Okay, I can understand this now. I get that. I'm not sure how I'd be after drinking (probably passed out cold after half a glass) but I'm sure I'd be more open, too!
I wish I had a dry wedding. Actually. I wish I didn't have a "real wedding" and just got married in the beach, dh and myself with a photographer, a pretty dress and cake. The rest I wish never happened.