AND I seriously admire your parenting style and will discipline the same way. You rock! (Btw, how is Adam doing? Did you get to talk to his teachers yet? I hope he can move up or find a way to control himself!) Ok... done being creepy.
Thanks, Sprinkles, that means a lot to me. (heart) I consider DH and I to be excellent parents, it is such hard work but it does pay off. I am 100% against spanking, and I feel like what we are doing is more effective than a physical punishment.
So Adam actually had a really good day yesterday, woo hoo. His teacher smiled when she gave me the short verbal report of his day, and said that he was MUCH less silly. He had a great night last night, and was great this monring. He really is such an adorable sweet little guy, his downfall really is just being too silly. We gave him back juice (he gets a morning cup each day), and as a bonus for the great report he had ice cream last night (we rotate our rewards, it's not always food).
We began a reward chart called "Adam's being less silly rewards chart", haha. He got one x for yesterday and he knows that when he gets 4 more Xs, that he will earn a movie night at home with us. Maybe Peter Pan? We use the word "earn" a lot in our home, it makes him appreciate things more I think.
The teacher meeting will be next week, I'll let you ladies know. You are not creepy at all.
ruby412- You had the goal idea right? Adam's current goal is to be less silly, so far so good.
So glad to hear Adam is doing well and working towards earning his rewards! Music, you really are doing a great job and your commitment to working with Adam to find a solution is truly awesome!
I don't really like fruit. I mean, I do in pies. But not so much on its own. We don't buy much fruit at all. Which I guess is good since it is so damn expensive.
The pie hatred gives me the sads since I'm about to make a southern peach cobbler this afternoon. Oh well. More for me and Yoda.
I really don't have an UO. Each time I think I have one, I then realize it's more of a confession and I have to save it for an extra day, and then I forget it. Boo!
I want a piece.. I have tried to make peach cobbler, but mine pales in comparison to the one h's aunt makes.
**they clasped hands and prancercised into the sunset**
::sings to laurack:: It's just my three second rooooOOOoooll
No way! I like to stare at probies for much more than three seconds. Its cool though because its from far away/binoculars so you don't have to feel that "awkwardness" you know? I'm considerate like that
I don't really like fruit. I mean, I do in pies. But not so much on its own. We don't buy much fruit at all. Which I guess is good since it is so damn expensive.
Maybe I have an UO? I totally don't understand adults getting themselves everything they want all the time. The thread about what's your "splurge" and some people said "everything" has been bothering me for weeks (or at least since it happened -- I can't remember exactly when). I feel like prioritizing and consciously making choices about your spending is part of being a grown up.
I don't really like fruit. I mean, I do in pies. But not so much on its own. We don't buy much fruit at all. Which I guess is good since it is so damn expensive.
I really only like strawberries and raspberries.
But but.......blueberries!?!?!?!?!? Mango!?!?!?!?!
I LOVE Fruit!! and nuts......................and Chocolate................ I LOVE EATING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe I have an UO? I totally don't understand adults getting themselves everything they want all the time. The thread about what's your "splurge" and some people said "everything" has been bothering me for weeks (or at least since it happened -- I can't remember exactly when). I feel like prioritizing and consciously making choices about your spending is part of being a grown up.
well it depends a lot on how much money you have!
If I had a ton of disposable income why WOULDN'T I buy everything I want? i buy the things I want within reason because we don't have enough money to buy everything we want.
My dream in life is to have so much money that I can just buy whatever I want all the time...
really though, few people live like that. And people can be flip about things, like oh EVERYTHING is my splurge but unless you are going into massive debt then you aren't truly splurging a ton relative to your income.
I do think its silly to go into huge debt for material/non necessity items. Living vastly beyond your means for this reason (Because you want to buy a lot of stuff) seems immature to me. But if you have the money leftover from paying bills and such, then wahoo!
Maybe I have an UO? I totally don't understand adults getting themselves everything they want all the time. The thread about what's your "splurge" and some people said "everything" has been bothering me for weeks (or at least since it happened -- I can't remember exactly when). I feel like prioritizing and consciously making choices about your spending is part of being a grown up.
I feel this way but I think I have a tinge of jealousy because I can't splurge on everything (not at all saying you are jealous). I also feel like if they can afford to splurge one everything good for them. It is the people that can't afford to and yet they still do. Those are the people that need to learn how to consciously make choices about how they spend their money.
But but.......blueberries!?!?!?!?!? Mango!?!?!?!?!
I LOVE Fruit!! and nuts......................and Chocolate................ I LOVE EATING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well i do get an assortment of chocolate covered fruits for Greek Easter from my mom, and every single one is delicious.
Maybe I have an UO? I totally don't understand adults getting themselves everything they want all the time. The thread about what's your "splurge" and some people said "everything" has been bothering me for weeks (or at least since it happened -- I can't remember exactly when). I feel like prioritizing and consciously making choices about your spending is part of being a grown up.
well it depends a lot on how much money you have!
If I had a ton of disposable income why WOULDN'T I buy everything I want? i buy the things I want within reason because we don't have enough money to buy everything we want.
My dream in life is to have so much money that I can just buy whatever I want all the time...
really though, few people live like that. And people can be flip about things, like oh EVERYTHING is my splurge but unless you are going into massive debt then you aren't truly splurging a ton relative to your income.
I do think its silly to go into huge debt for material/non necessity items. Living vastly beyond your means for this reason (Because you want to buy a lot of stuff) seems immature to me. But if you have the money leftover from paying bills and such, then wahoo!
I can understand and appreciate that. But like you said, I really don't know of many (any?) people that have so much money that they can have everything they want. It mainly bugs me in the context of buying every little thing but then moaning about how large purchases (nice homes, fancy vacations, whatever) are so out of reach.
And I totally get that some of the answers weren't exactly serious.
But but.......blueberries!?!?!?!?!? Mango!?!?!?!?!
I LOVE Fruit!! and nuts......................and Chocolate................ I LOVE EATING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maybe I have an UO? I totally don't understand adults getting themselves everything they want all the time. The thread about what's your "splurge" and some people said "everything" has been bothering me for weeks (or at least since it happened -- I can't remember exactly when). I feel like prioritizing and consciously making choices about your spending is part of being a grown up.
I feel this way but I think I have a tinge of jealousy because I can't splurge on everything (not at all saying you are jealous). I also feel like if they can afford to splurge one everything good for them. It is the people that can't afford to and yet they still do. Those are the people that need to learn how to consciously make choices about how they spend their money.
I agree that this is the biggest problem. OTOH, I don't think it's right to "cry poor" (oh, I could NEVER afford XYZ big purchase) when you're not actually struggling to meet basic needs. No, you choose not to afford XYZ bc you choose to spend your money on little wants every day. That's a choice, not something deserving of sympathy.
I wasn't impressed by The Album (well, I only listened to the title song, so I can't really say the WHOLE album). Don't get me wrong, I LOVE Steve Martin, but his music isn't really my style, and I don't know if it was more the folksy part to it or Edie Brickell, but I wasn't a fan. I really tried to like it, don't kill me, Dorothy!
Agree.
I'll also say though, that I don't have the most, should we say, upscale taste in music...
Maybe I have an UO? I totally don't understand adults getting themselves everything they want all the time. The thread about what's your "splurge" and some people said "everything" has been bothering me for weeks (or at least since it happened -- I can't remember exactly when). I feel like prioritizing and consciously making choices about your spending is part of being a grown up.
I couldn't even open that thread because splurging to me us buying myself a soda in the afternoon when I have a headache. I am much poorer/worse at managing money than most of the people on thus board.
I feel this way but I think I have a tinge of jealousy because I can't splurge on everything (not at all saying you are jealous). I also feel like if they can afford to splurge one everything good for them. It is the people that can't afford to and yet they still do. Those are the people that need to learn how to consciously make choices about how they spend their money.
I agree that this is the biggest problem. OTOH, I don't think it's right to "cry poor" (oh, I could NEVER afford XYZ big purchase) when you're not actually struggling to meet basic needs. No, you choose not to afford XYZ bc you choose to spend your money on little wants every day. That's a choice, not something deserving of sympathy.
Meh. Its one of those gray area things though. I mean, where is the line? And who decides whether something is important enough or not you know.
For example I say things about how I'd love a bigger house (I would) but we can't afford it right now (we can't). But maybe if we did things like- -never went out at ALL -no more organic groceries or high quality groceries, everyone eats beans and rice and noodles and bananas -nobody gets new clothes, ever. If clothes form holes all over them, sew that shiz up with a needle and thread -no more trips to Ireland, I just don't see my family (this is a big expense because a single return ticket is a thousand dollars) -no activities like skiing/snowboarding/hiking/ trips. No unnecessary trips that involve driving (using gas)
etc.
you see? So even with these changes, maybe we could afford a slightly bigger house in a year or two or more. But ... who wants to live like that? I don't. I don't want to make those changes, but I still feel its acceptable to complain about the cost of real estate and other things and yearn for more stuff and money. Just human nature.
I wasn't impressed by The Album (well, I only listened to the title song, so I can't really say the WHOLE album). Don't get me wrong, I LOVE Steve Martin, but his music isn't really my style, and I don't know if it was more the folksy part to it or Edie Brickell, but I wasn't a fan. I really tried to like it, don't kill me, Dorothy!
Agree.
I'll also say though, that I don't have the most, should we say, upscale taste in music...
I fart on you!
I love banjo music. This album is just so perfect for my taste.
I agree that this is the biggest problem. OTOH, I don't think it's right to "cry poor" (oh, I could NEVER afford XYZ big purchase) when you're not actually struggling to meet basic needs. No, you choose not to afford XYZ bc you choose to spend your money on little wants every day. That's a choice, not something deserving of sympathy.
Meh. Its one of those gray area things though. I mean, where is the line? And who decides whether something is important enough or not you know.
For example I say things about how I'd love a bigger house (I would) but we can't afford it right now (we can't). But maybe if we did things like- -never went out at ALL -no more organic groceries or high quality groceries, everyone eats beans and rice and noodles and bananas -nobody gets new clothes, ever. If clothes form holes all over them, sew that shiz up with a needle and thread -no more trips to Ireland, I just don't see my family (this is a big expense because a single return ticket is a thousand dollars) -no activities like skiing/snowboarding/hiking/ trips. No unnecessary trips that involve driving (using gas)
etc.
you see? So even with these changes, maybe we could afford a slightly bigger house in a year or two or more. But ... who wants to live like that? I don't. I don't want to make those changes, but I still feel its acceptable to complain about the cost of real estate and other things and yearn for more stuff and money. Just human nature.
I think to me it's an awareness thing. You realize that you're making tradeoffs. And that other people make different tradeoffs. That's cool -- it would be awfully boring if we all bought the exact same things all the time .
I give you your complaining. I do my own complaining and sometimes enjoy it. But after the complaining, in my mind you don't "really" want the bigger house (which is perfectly fine and ok). BC if you really wanted the bigger house, some of those tradeoffs would seem reasonable. It's also perfectly reasonable to want to see your family and want to do fun things that cost money rather than sit around hoarding all your coupons and cooking beans again in your holey underwear.
But I DO want the bigger house. And everything else. So really, what I need is for some sort of anonymous eccentric billionaire who trolls proboards for funsies to jump in here and offer to start sending me checks
I bedshare. I think banjo music is awesome. I SAH. I'm typing this while a baby is on my boob. I have the suit, the lipstick, the candle and I am a sheep. BAAAA bitches. BAAAA.
I also think that fruit in chicken salad is nasty. Chicken salad should have chicken (obvs, pickles, onions, eggs, mayo, and paprika. Pickle and onion haters, I feel sorry for you.
Agreed!! Also, I hate celery in chicken salad! WTF? Why would someone think celery belongs in chicken salad?! Celery should be served next to chicken wings, that's it!
I bedshare. I think banjo music is awesome. I SAH. I'm typing this while a baby is on my boob. I have the suit, the lipstick, the candle and I am a sheep. BAAAA bitches. BAAAA.
I like sheep; lamb is quite tasty! And we make a lot of farm animal sounds around here lately. With a BAA BAA here and a MOO MOO there, here a QUACK, there a GOBBLE
I love the casserole and could eat it 3 times a week (in fact I've made it 3 out of the last 4 weeks). I still hate most scented things especially candles and don't wear lipstick. I'm interested in the shorts but spent my clothing budget on dresses so no go there. And I'm afraid the suit's extra fabric may be annoying while swimming laps. I bedshare, BF, work full time from home, and love banjo music (though not as much as I love fiddle music). I think I'm a spotted sheep.
Maybe I have an UO? I totally don't understand adults getting themselves everything they want all the time. The thread about what's your "splurge" and some people said "everything" has been bothering me for weeks (or at least since it happened -- I can't remember exactly when). I feel like prioritizing and consciously making choices about your spending is part of being a grown up.
I don't necessarily disagree with you, but I equate this statement to the one of the girl that told us we can all stay home and raise our children if we really want to. But, because we want crate and barrel silverware, we must not really want to.