All you The Suit people are doing guys a favor by

[laurack]

(huh)

[laurack]

"Dude, check out that chick over there... the one NOT in a bikini"
"huh, she does look like she has a real god-loving personality! By golly I'm going over to talk to her even though I have no idea what her belly button looks like!"

[irishsara]

I saw that on FB. And then hid it.

Its the same reason the Duggars give those awkward side hugs. You don't want to tempt the boys by hugging them!

(I don't know why a lot of what I say comes back to the Duggars. I agree with none of them. They are just interesting to me. )

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Babysitting money? Save up for your Burkini, Suzie!

[cat19]

So bikini wearers are just big fat slores?

[katfco]

I can see where she's coming from. Ultimately, I think a person's thoughts are their own responsibility, but the guys I was friends with in college who tried hard not to lust after girls had a much easier time when girls didn't parade around in skimpy clothes.

[irishsara]

[Regina Philange]

May 30, 2013 14:40:46 GMT -5 irishsara said:

I saw that on FB. And then hid it.

Its the same reason the Duggars give those awkward side hugs. You don't want to tempt the boys by hugging them!

(I don't know why a lot of what I say comes back to the Duggars. I agree with none of them. They are just interesting to me. )

hahaa. I laughed way more then just a SALTS.

Duggar lover.

[laurack]

yeeeaaah she still seems to have attempted to make herself look very attractive indeed in the accompanying pictures which makes this post seem even more ridiculous!

And what if you have an unattractive belly from children and such, or you are just REALLY bloated. Should one then expose AS MUCH belly as possible in the hope it would have the effect of deterring a mans sexual interest?!

[Dorothy Zbornak]

yeeeaaah she still seems to have attempted to make herself look very attractive indeed in the accompanying pictures which makes this post seem even more ridiculous!

And what if you have an unattractive belly from children and such, or you are just REALLY bloated. Should one then expose AS MUCH belly as possible in the hope it would have the effect of deterring a mans sexual interest?!

Christian kids of both sexes should be forced to stare at my forever-deformed belly button ... the result of two pregnancies ... which were the result of SEX ... which was the result of my husband slinking around in a strapless, nautical-themed bikini!!!

[Deleted]

We better all wear water shoes too because I hear some men like feet.

[laurack]

the comments are killing me!

I was expecting a lot more "Ummm you are off your rocker missus" but I guess most people who follow her blog do so because they like what she writes/agree with her in general...

[laurack]

If my husband saw that gal on the beach he'd be sickened and not at ALL attracted to her, since her belly isn't exposed.

[irishsara]

"My husband doesn't control what I wear, but he shared with me how much he appreciates it when I save what I have for his eyes only. He feels loved, honored, and respected by my choice to save the choicest of views for him and I still have a put-together image for the rest of the world. "

[laurack]

May 30, 2013 15:00:30 GMT -5 irishsara said:

"My husband doesn't control what I wear, but he shared with me how much he appreciates it when I save what I have for his eyes only. He feels loved, honored, and respected by my choice to save the choicest of views for him and I still have a put-together image for the rest of the world. "

[laurack]

May 30, 2013 14:42:57 GMT -5 katfco said:

I can see where she's coming from. Ultimately, I think a person's thoughts are their own responsibility, but the guys I was friends with in college who tried hard not to lust after girls had a much easier time when girls didn't parade around in skimpy clothes.

Why try hard not to lust after girls? in college? prime time for some good lusting 

[laurack]

@tambcat were they preaching about how great porn is or how terrible?

[laurack]

Well lets hope your boss doesn't come up and want to show you something, start typing p in the browser.. and wait a moment.. hahaha

[katfco]

May 30, 2013 15:04:12 GMT -5 laurack said:

May 30, 2013 14:42:57 GMT -5 katfco said:

I can see where she's coming from. Ultimately, I think a person's thoughts are their own responsibility, but the guys I was friends with in college who tried hard not to lust after girls had a much easier time when girls didn't parade around in skimpy clothes.

Why try hard not to lust after girls? in college? prime time for some good lusting 

Not sure if you're being facetious or not, and I don't want to ignore the question if you're serious. I went to a Christian college, where most of the people were Christians, so  there's a different perspective than at most colleges.

[laurack]

May 30, 2013 15:09:37 GMT -5 katfco said:

May 30, 2013 15:04:12 GMT -5 laurack said:

Why try hard not to lust after girls? in college? prime time for some good lusting 

Not sure if you're being facetious or not, and I don't want to ignore the question if you're serious. I went to a Christian college, where most of the people were Christians, so  there's a different perspective than at most colleges.

Well I was being sort of serious. I guess I see where you are coming from if you mean they were trying to remain celibate?

I don't necessarily equate christian to celibate because I know many christians are ok with sex before marriage.

I do think though that if a guy is trying to curb his natural instinct as a man, a woman should not have to decide what she should wear because of this. If a man cannot control himself around attractive women, then this is a problem whether he is in college or not. I mean, what about when he is married and encounters attractive women? being married doesn't take away the biological urge to procreate/be attracted to other women. While my husband was "allowed" to have sex with women when he was in college, he is not now. If he sees an attractive woman obviously he is going to be like "wow! hot" etc. But he certainly isn't having a lot of trouble physically resisting the urge to run over and fondle her, even if she is scantily clad.

[laurack]

this argument really is way too close to saying stuff like "if you dress like that, its really not the mans fault he raped you"

I know its a jump, but the thinking is in the same vein. NOT acceptable.

[Dorothy Zbornak]

May 30, 2013 15:18:40 GMT -5 laurack said:

this argument really is way too close to saying stuff like "if you dress like that, its really not the mans fault he raped you"

I know its a jump, but the thinking is in the same vein. NOT acceptable.

I couldn't put my finger on what was pissing me off .... I think this is it.

[charlielove]

May 30, 2013 15:18:40 GMT -5 laurack said:

this argument really is way too close to saying stuff like "if you dress like that, its really not the mans fault he raped you"

I know its a jump, but the thinking is in the same vein. NOT acceptable.

Preach!

[Dorothy Zbornak]

May 30, 2013 15:22:08 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

May 30, 2013 15:16:49 GMT -5 laurack said:

Well I was being sort of serious. I guess I see where you are coming from if you mean they were trying to remain celibate?

I don't necessarily equate christian to celibate because I know many christians are ok with sex before marriage.

I do think though that if a guy is trying to curb his natural instinct as a man, a woman should not have to decide what she should wear because of this. If a man cannot control himself around attractive women, then this is a problem whether he is in college or not. I mean, what about when he is married and encounters attractive women? being married doesn't take away the biological urge to procreate/be attracted to other women. While my husband was "allowed" to have sex with women when he was in college, he is not now. If he sees an attractive woman obviously he is going to be like "wow! hot" etc. But he certainly isn't having a lot of trouble physically resisting the urge to run over and fondle her, even if she is scantily clad.

I think it's because just thinking about sinning is as bad as doing it.

And this is one of the many reasons I have a problem with some kinds of Christianity.

[Deleted]

May 30, 2013 15:18:40 GMT -5 laurack said:

this argument really is way too close to saying stuff like "if you dress like that, its really not the mans fault he raped you"

I know its a jump, but the thinking is in the same vein. NOT acceptable.

It reminds me of the Taliban and the full body vail requirement.

I don't think it is my job to keep other men from "sinning". If they think it is sinning then they can not look at me.

[laurack]

May 30, 2013 15:22:08 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

May 30, 2013 15:16:49 GMT -5 laurack said:

Well I was being sort of serious. I guess I see where you are coming from if you mean they were trying to remain celibate?

I don't necessarily equate christian to celibate because I know many christians are ok with sex before marriage.

I do think though that if a guy is trying to curb his natural instinct as a man, a woman should not have to decide what she should wear because of this. If a man cannot control himself around attractive women, then this is a problem whether he is in college or not. I mean, what about when he is married and encounters attractive women? being married doesn't take away the biological urge to procreate/be attracted to other women. While my husband was "allowed" to have sex with women when he was in college, he is not now. If he sees an attractive woman obviously he is going to be like "wow! hot" etc. But he certainly isn't having a lot of trouble physically resisting the urge to run over and fondle her, even if she is scantily clad.

I think it's because just thinking about sinning is as bad as doing it.

really? well that sucks. Because we are made the way we are with human wants, needs, urges. We can't control our thoughts about things, but we CAN control our actions. I don't think its very fair that I'd go to hell for thinking about murdering someone but I don't murder them. And then some other guy DOES murder people and he gets the same sentence in hell as me? not fair.

[Deleted]

May 30, 2013 15:18:40 GMT -5 laurack said:

this argument really is way too close to saying stuff like "if you dress like that, its really not the mans fault he raped you"

I know its a jump, but the thinking is in the same vein. NOT acceptable.

I don't think it is a jump at all. It is exactly the same.

[Deleted]

May 30, 2013 15:26:41 GMT -5 laurack said:

May 30, 2013 15:22:08 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I think it's because just thinking about sinning is as bad as doing it.

really? well that sucks. Because we are made the way we are with human wants, needs, urges. We can't control our thoughts about things, but we CAN control our actions. I don't think its very fair that I'd go to hell for thinking about murdering someone but I don't murder them. And then some other guy DOES murder people and he gets the same sentence in hell as me? not fair.

And technically I believe what is also taught is, I think I'm right with this, the murderer can ask for forgiveness from God and go to heaven.

[laurack]

May 30, 2013 15:28:56 GMT -5 @lindy said:

May 30, 2013 15:26:41 GMT -5 laurack said:

really? well that sucks. Because we are made the way we are with human wants, needs, urges. We can't control our thoughts about things, but we CAN control our actions. I don't think its very fair that I'd go to hell for thinking about murdering someone but I don't murder them. And then some other guy DOES murder people and he gets the same sentence in hell as me? not fair.

And technically I believe what is also taught is, I think I'm right with this, the murderer can ask for forgiveness from God and go to heaven.

Sweet.

"dude, I'm sorry, I really didn't mean to murder those twelve people. Forgive me?"
"Done!"

"ummm I'm not sorry for those thoughts, that guy was being a major douche and totally pissing me off! I STILL kind of want to hit him with a frying pan or a large lamp or perhaps throw him down a well and sort of forget he's down there forever!"
"hell for you then"
"But.. but.. I didn't do anything?!"
"HELL"

[katfco]

May 30, 2013 15:18:40 GMT -5 laurack said:

this argument really is way too close to saying stuff like "if you dress like that, its really not the mans fault he raped you"

I know its a jump, but the thinking is in the same vein. NOT acceptable.

I'm not trying to say that at all, and there is another way of looking at it: it's about respect. It's about the fact that I understood my guy friends were trying hard to keep not only their actions, but their thoughts pure. Knowing that, why do something that would make it more difficult for them?