MIL Vent

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MIL stopped by Thursday night after my birthday dinner to check out the nursery. I've texted/emailed her pictures before, so aside from a few small decor items, it essentially looks the same.

She freaked, you guys. Apparently, she had NO IDEA about what we had, and ranted that we had more than she did when she had her first and that it was all ridiculous. She's pissed she doesn't have a twin bed in there (a detail she conveniently remembered from some of our initial nursery room conversations, my parents had offered H and I a spare twin that they have, but it ended up not fitting well in the space with everything else) 

Met a couple of H's cousins for dinner Saturday night, where they inform H and I that MIL emailed the family to tell them that we had absolutely everything we could ever need and not to get us anything for the shower at the end of the month. She also sent them pictures (which they'd already seen, it's not like we're hiding the nursery, people) so they're all confused like "WTF is MIL talking about? We can think of plenty of things they need on hand". 

We have two registries, they aren't even close to being completed. According to my SIL, MIL hasn't bought us anything, so it's not like she's upset because she made a big purchase and didn't realize we had the item. She's upset because she's not in the loop, but anything we've included her she is disinterested or just doesn't respond. 



I've got to be fucking up the communication lines somewhere, but I'm not sure where...or she might be a loon.  

[meggers5]

She's off her fucking rocker. She told people not to get you gifts, because you have everything ever in the world of baby things?

I can't believe she would tell people not to get you shower gifts.

[cheeseandcrackers]

She emailed the family to tell them not to get you anything for the shower?
Um. No.

[copperboom]

This has nothing to do with your communication skills. She is insane.

[Deleted]

I'm seriously flummoxed.

Dudes, she's the one that pushed for this family shower.

[leeann]

WTF- I would be PISSED. That is ridiculous.

She is a loon.

[fuckyourcouch]

does your MIL live down the street from TBC?

[firedancer49]

whatabitch

[nadasteph]

Can your H call her out on this crazy email? Who is hosting the shower?

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Oh, and she also flipped shit when H told her she couldn't smoke around the baby. SHE LITERALLY PICKED UP SMOKING WEEKS AGO. WEEKS. AGO. MIL said her mom smoked around MIL's oldest daughter even when MIL was pregnant, and H pointed out that his sister had severe asthma as a child and was born two months premature.

[Kit]

This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her.

I can't believe she told people not to get you guys anything for the shower. She sounds horrible.

[snickers]

She sounds crazy pants.

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Jun 3, 2013 14:41:31 GMT -5 nadasteph said:

Can your H call her out on this crazy email? Who is hosting the shower?

No, but only because after speaking with everyone else, it seems the group as a whole is on the same page that she's off her rocker about this. The last thing we want is a big drama right before the baby gets here, we've got enough stuff to do already. No one seems to be taking her seriously. 

H's cousin and aunt are hosting the shower. 

[meggers5]

Jun 3, 2013 14:41:54 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Oh, and she also flipped shit when H told her she couldn't smoke around the baby. SHE LITERALLY PICKED UP SMOKING WEEKS AGO. WEEKS. AGO. MIL said her mom smoked around MIL's oldest daughter even when MIL was pregnant, and H pointed out that his sister had severe asthma as a child and was born two months premature.

What in the what?

I know people always say this, but I wouldn't want her unsupervised around my kid.

[Deleted]

Another vote for loon. At least it sounds like the rest of the family is familiar with the looniness and you will still have a nice shower.

[shostakovich]

Jun 3, 2013 14:41:54 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Oh, and she also flipped shit when H told her she couldn't smoke around the baby. SHE LITERALLY PICKED UP SMOKING WEEKS AGO. WEEKS. AGO. MIL said her mom smoked around MIL's oldest daughter even when MIL was pregnant, and H pointed out that his sister had severe asthma as a child and was born two months premature.

This woman is straight up bananas.

[Deleted]

Well, shit. There went your gift basket of loofas for the nursery.

[speckledfrog]

Hoo boy. She is crazy.

[Muddled]

She's just crazy. Whatever is bothering her is her issue, not yours.

[mrsukyankee]

Is she suffering from dementia? Cause it doesn't sound too far off...Might be worth having your DH have another talk with her to see if there's even more off...

[Deleted]

She's crazy. Even if you literally had everything in the nursery a baby can't have enough books, sleepers and diapers.


The smoking update confirms she is crazy

[Deleted]

I don't even know if it's crazy or just really, really stupid.

[sparkythelawyer]

Yeah, she drank the crazy-aid...

[thinkofthesoldiers]

This all makes me think that there is something chemically/physiologically wrong with her. Unless she's been a weirdo the entire time you've known her, then she's nuts. But, the smoking thing especially make me wonder if she's had a stroke or something.

[snickers]

Jun 3, 2013 14:41:54 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Oh, and she also flipped shit when H told her she couldn't smoke around the baby. SHE LITERALLY PICKED UP SMOKING WEEKS AGO. WEEKS. AGO. MIL said her mom smoked around MIL's oldest daughter even when MIL was pregnant, and H pointed out that his sister had severe asthma as a child and was born two months premature.

Call me stupid but I honestly did not realize people were ignorant enough to smoke around babies.

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Jun 3, 2013 14:46:37 GMT -5 mrsukyankee said:

Is she suffering from dementia? Cause it doesn't sound too far off...Might be worth having your DH have another talk with her to see if there's even more off...

No, she's just really narcissistic, competitive and weird. Basically, she's irritated with us a lot because H is the only child that is financially secure and doesn't rely on her for money, and therefore she can't tell us what to do/force us to hang out with her like she does her other kids. It's a control thing. I'm sure she's irritated that any gift she gives us isn't a gift we need out of necessity, since at the end of the day we can just go and complete our registry ourselves after the shower. 

Fuck me for budgeting. 

[cheeseandcrackers]

Jun 3, 2013 14:48:13 GMT -5 snickers said:

Jun 3, 2013 14:41:54 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Oh, and she also flipped shit when H told her she couldn't smoke around the baby. SHE LITERALLY PICKED UP SMOKING WEEKS AGO. WEEKS. AGO. MIL said her mom smoked around MIL's oldest daughter even when MIL was pregnant, and H pointed out that his sister had severe asthma as a child and was born two months premature.

Call me stupid but I honestly did not realize people were ignorant enough to smoke around babies.

lol, i see this all the time, it's so crazy

[ering1115]

I am so sorry you have to deal with that. Ugh. Just ugh. At least you, H, and the rest of the family are on the same page. Can DH talk to his dad about it and make sure she doesn't have a brain tumor or something?

[Deleted]

She got weird with me after H and I got engaged. Things escalated when we moved about an hour away from her (the rest of H's family literally lives in the same neighborhood).

[snickers]

Jun 3, 2013 14:50:19 GMT -5 cheeseandcrackers said:

Jun 3, 2013 14:48:13 GMT -5 snickers said:

Call me stupid but I honestly did not realize people were ignorant enough to smoke around babies.

lol, i see this all the time, it's so crazy

^o) Oh my word.
If someone smoked around my baby, I would get all kinds of angry.