If my husband texted me during the workday and insisted we have a phone conversation about .99 (I'm ignoring the dirty stick issue for now) I would also give him attitude if not plain hang up on him.
The fact that the coupons looked like trash and were food remains just adds to it.
And he would rather her pay for corn dogs than have the sticks lying around.
Team DH. dvlish, tell him he can throw away all the sticks he wants as long as he leaves $1 in your car for each one. You get your corndogs, he gets to not hear you bitch about ants in your car later this summer. It's a win-win.
You girls are awesome...lol at the pic but they were clean, i washed them. i am not one to leave dirty food trash lying around either. Im more miffed b/c its just another thing with him tossing stuff that isnt his or that he doesnt think is worth keeping. he knows better with coupons but this for whatever reason did not register as a coupon even though it said right one it 1 free corndog. i like the leave me a dollar next time. when he brings it up again (which he will when he gets home) thats what ill tell him:)...see you ladies always make the situation better b/c at least now i can smile about it:)
I can't get past the fact that you eat corn dogs frequently enough to save dirty sticks. Sorry. I understand your larger issue, but picking this instance will not help your cause. Laugh at yourself when your DH comes home and deal with the larger issue later.
oh and i did not text to ask for a phone conversation. he could have simply replied yes or no to the text and i would not have taken it further...he called me and then played dumb...again, if you did it, then own it b/c i know you and i know you did it. i love him but he kills me...
i ate them in the house, washed the winning sticks and tossed them in my purse (didnt want dirty sticks in my purse) to leave in my car since i dont always carry my purse and sometimes just grab my wallet. they were in my car, i figured they would be safe but DH drove it over the weekend and tossed them. in their place he left a business card for a guy he met at his moms that he wants to come detail and wax the cars so i know exactly when he did this:).
im not messy, im actually quite organized but Dh has a habit of randomly going through the fridge and tossing stuff he shouldn't, seeing something in the garage, a pot with a bag of broken pottery inside it to make a project out of and he will toss it. i am not in the habit of storing trash so why do that? why not ask, "hey what is this?" before tossing it when its not yours. I always ask him, even before tossing his boxers with holes i ask, "hey are you done with these, can i toss them?" the same courtesy would be nice.
FWIW he does this at his mom's too and it pisses her off as well.
I love, love, love that this thread was about corn dogs. Well, corn dog sticks. And corn dogs!
Um, yeah he's kind of a dick for throwing those away. It's not like he didn't know what they were or they were in his way. And this may go down in the history of your relationship as your best fight ever. Congrats!
I would request an Edible Arrangements style boquet of corn dogs as apology.
Post by curmudgeon on Jun 12, 2012 20:17:59 GMT -5
Yes, I'm lurking. But it seriously pisses me off to no end when someone throws away things in my car, or rearranges things in my space etc. I know what I left where and I will never find it again (but have been know to spend hours looking) if you mess with it. Also, she told him why she wanted to keep them, her H is acting like an OCD child.
Edit: love the idea of him leaving a dollar in their place.
Post by SpicedApplePie on Jun 12, 2012 20:19:18 GMT -5
dvlish, for the leftover situation, I suggest dating the boxes a few days in the future (2? 3?) and ask him to only throw them away if that date has passed. My husband does this as well and it makes me crazy, but I think he assumes that food sitting in the fridge has been abandoned. Even if you just put it in that day, it might not occur to him that it isn't the same leftovers from three days ago.
I think setting up some clear expectations is in order. FWIW, if I had expected to get 2 free corn-dogs and my sticks were not where I left them, I would probably be annoyed too.
And he would rather her pay for corn dogs than have the sticks lying around.
Team DH. dvlish, tell him he can throw away all the sticks he wants as long as he leaves $1 in your car for each one. You get your corndogs, he gets to not hear you bitch about ants in your car later this summer. It's a win-win.
Agree 100%. If I was hungry and looking forward to something specific and DH caused me not to be able to get that I would be pissed. One time I went out to eat with my girlfriends and brought left over pizza home for lunch the next day. I got all ready to sit down and eat my lunch and he had taken the pizza to work. I freaked out and he will never do that again lol.
I'm just like wow that there is a second post on corndogs in on week. Really? Anyway, yes, it is grossing me out a little that there were two corndog sticks in someone's console (even washed lol), but that's not the point. I wish someone would get in my car and throw out something I asked them not to. Nag? Please. This is not about corndogs, it's the principle. Respect my space and my stuff. It's not even a shared car? That is so rude.
Also, I would totally call or text my husband at work about this. There are game consoles and air hockey tables at his job. He's not in the west wing. Like 75% of people I know spend at least 30-60+ minutes a day on FB, Twitter or some other site during the workday. Now everyone is so busy? Stop it lol.
You are one of my favorites. You frequently say the "wtf" things I'm thinking but can't express nearly as well as you.
I love that so many people are indignant about being interrupted at work, but post stupid crap on here all day while they are so busy working.
OP I'd be annoyed too. It isn't the sticks, it is the fact that your DH doesn't respect your stuff/opinion/whatever you want to call it and just does what he wants because it suits him.
Post by Balki.Bartokomous on Jun 12, 2012 22:28:43 GMT -5
Lol. I <3 the internets.
As you all could probably guess, I would be annoyed. Not because he threw away 2 sticks, but a) because it's habitual & b) then he turned it all around & put it on OP.
Post by phunluvin82 on Jun 12, 2012 22:44:31 GMT -5
Rearranging, cleaning, tossing stuff, or just doing anything involving going through my stuff pisses me off. If it's in the house and you are trying to straighten up, fine, but I wish you'd have asked me about it before throwing it out. If it's in my car, it's my shit and leave it alone and don't worry about the state of MY car. To me, it's like if I were to take DH's work bag briefcase thing and start indiscriminately throwing out stuff that I *think* is trash. He would be livid.
It's not about the corndogs...though, really, are so many MMers really such germaphobes that some cleaned off wooden sticks that used to hold food gross them out THAT badly? Most doorknobs are probably 'grosser' in terms of germ transmission. But, I digress...team dvlish!
Sunday night I found one of Mr. Insom's socks under the sofa. I accidentally vacuumed it up and it got stuck in my dyson. I was so annoyed that I threw it away, but not before I used the sock to clean out the kitchen drain. Of course Mr. Insom then found said sock in the trash, covered with bits of raspberry, ground turkey, and god knows what else. He was pissed. Lol I had to apologize. But frankly, if he gave a shit about his sock it wouldnt have been under the couch.
So I'm on team mr. clean car.
Besides, it's not like we're talking about waffle fries.
This just seems like one of those things that makes a marriage totally tedious.
I mean, I just can't get worked up about a corn dog coupon. And I would assume the best (he was helping clean up your car, not trying to be a passive aggressive asshole).
This just seems like one of those things that makes a marriage totally tedious.
I mean, I just can't get worked up about a corn dog coupon. And I would assume the best (he was helping clean up your car, not trying to be a passive aggressive asshole).
110% agree with Jenny. I'm surprised so many people are on Team corn dog sticks.
1. I can't imagine leaving my house without at least some cash. 2. I get being worked up occasionally over things that otherwise trivial in nature. But to actually call someone out on it is being a bit harsh. 3. Sounds like this isn't really about your H tossing some sticks from your car. 4. Corn dogs on a stick. Fuck yeah.
This just seems like one of those things that makes a marriage totally tedious.
I mean, I just can't get worked up about a corn dog coupon. And I would assume the best (he was helping clean up your car, not trying to be a passive aggressive asshole).
I would assume the best too EXCEPT she specifically told him not to throw them out and his reaction to it would have pissed me off more. Team sticks! I hate it when my DH touches my shit.
I think this is a "straw that broke the camel's back" moment.
Husband is always throwing out her stuff. She specifically asks him not to throw out the sticks. She's out, she has no money, she's hungry. She wants to use the sticks, her DH has thrown them out.
The planets have aligned to create a corn dog stick meltdown.
I have also had moments where I've lost it over seemingly insignificant things that have just brought me to my breaking point.
As one of my college professors said "It's not the big things that break up a marriage, like 'You sold our son to buy Budweiser,' it's the little things. Like 'I've told you a hundred times to clean the crap out of your pants pockets before you put them in the wash' sort of thing."
First post of mine that Pro-Boards has eaten. Ugh. Anyway, Team Dvlish. I am ALL ABOUT free shit, and I don't give an F if it comes in the form of an eaten-off-of corn dog stick or a piece of (ok, unused) toilet paper.
Agree w/ PPs that it's not really about the corn dog sticks, but the fact that her H throws her shit away, despite being asked 1000Xs to NOT DO SO. And from HER car? WTF? Dude, clean out your OWN car if you feel the need, the need for clean.
Might I also add: it's officially official: Miso and I will never agree on anything.
Sounds like you are being a bit of a nag to your husband. Lay off bitching at him about corn dog sticks and the like. Seriously.
Really? Asking him to NOT throw something away she wanted is not being a nag. It sounds like her DH doesn't value & respect her belongings. She specifically asked him to not throw these out.
He should have at least been thoughtful enough to leave $1.98 in place of the dirty sticks. That's what I would have done. Because the sticks would have grossed me out, but I would have felt bad about leaving H hungry.