This just seems like one of those things that makes a marriage totally tedious.
I mean, I just can't get worked up about a corn dog coupon. And I would assume the best (he was helping clean up your car, not trying to be a passive aggressive asshole).
110% agree with Jenny. I'm surprised so many people are on Team corn dog sticks.
its about the bigger picture though - not the sticks. i do think this specific example is a bit funny, and not worth the battle. however, my DH is slightly similar except he puts my stuff away. the thing is, if i leave something out, its for a reason. and when he puts it somewhere, i have to look for it. and sometimes, somewhere is the trash. so i get it. its annoying.
Post by dr.girlfriend on Jun 13, 2012 9:57:03 GMT -5
I am thinking it is not a coincidence that the thing left in the place of the corn dog sticks was contact info for someone who details/waxes cars. I think I know what your DH wants for Father's Day.
I think this is a "straw that broke the camel's back" moment.
Husband is always throwing out her stuff. She specifically asks him not to throw out the sticks. She's out, she has no money, she's hungry. She wants to use the sticks, her DH has thrown them out.
The planets have aligned to create a corn dog stick meltdown.
I have also had moments where I've lost it over seemingly insignificant things that have just brought me to my breaking point.
As one of my college professors said "It's not the big things that break up a marriage, like 'You sold our son to buy Budweiser,' it's the little things. Like 'I've told you a hundred times to clean the crap out of your pants pockets before you put them in the wash' sort of thing."
Team miso. I can't believe this is three pages about STICKS. I would have probably tossed them too. Even if you told him, he probably saw them, thought "oh, garbage" and threw them out, completely forgetting what you said. Because they are, in fact, you know, garbage. :-|
Team miso. I can't believe this is three pages about STICKS. I would have probably tossed them too. Even if you told him, he probably saw them, thought "oh, garbage" and threw them out, completely forgetting what you said. Because they are, in fact, you know, garbage.
It's not about sticks. It's about a pattern of him showing disrespect for her things.
Team miso. I can't believe this is three pages about STICKS. I would have probably tossed them too. Even if you told him, he probably saw them, thought "oh, garbage" and threw them out, completely forgetting what you said. Because they are, in fact, you know, garbage.
It's not about sticks. It's about a pattern of him showing disrespect for her things.
I still think it is a very relevant fact that in this situation, her "things" were just garbage.
Post by mrsjuleshs on Jun 13, 2012 11:06:19 GMT -5
yes his attitude was a bit much but I would act the same if DH called me all in a huff over a stick for a 99cent corndog or something I perceived as trash. I am known to clean out his truck and I throw stuff like that away. Receipts or things that are clearly not trash don't get thrown away.
He saw a piece of garbage and picked it up. I'd be thrilled if my H cleaned my car.
No, he saw something that she had previously told him she was saving, and he threw it out anyway.
But instead of just assuming her H is an asshole, can we focus on the possibility that he forgot about the stupid sticks being important and trhew them out? Because that's exactly what I would have done.
No, he saw something that she had previously told him she was saving, and he threw it out anyway.
But instead of just assuming her H is an asshole, can we focus on the possibility that he forgot about the stupid sticks being important and trhew them out? Because that's exactly what I would have done.
Then when she called him he should have just said I'm sorry I forgot not given her attitude about it
only MM could get a 4 pager out of corn dog sticks.
fwiw, i'm team dvlish. i also get irrationally annoyed when my husband doesn't seem to listen to what i've told him or has genuinely forgotten. ::shrugs:: whattagonnado?
My DH is the same, I get it. My stuff is garbage, his is gold. He knocked my Bare Escentuals face wash in te garbage, um, where is it now? Land fill. Still had like half left too. He just doesn't care. I get it.
Post by CallingAllAngels on Jun 13, 2012 11:23:54 GMT -5
This thread inspired me to clean out my car today. I am team dvlish. It sounds like you H was acting like an ass. I don't think leaving sticks around is that gross either. Maybe If they were everywhere, but in one place in an otherwise clean car - no biggie to me.
I'd be ecstatic if H would even take the initiative to clean up, but in OP's situation I'd be pissed too....not so much about the corn dog sticks, but all of it. I also get very irritable if I'm even slightly hungry so something stupid like this would set me off too.
No, he saw something that she had previously told him she was saving, and he threw it out anyway.
But instead of just assuming her H is an asshole, can we focus on the possibility that he forgot about the stupid sticks being important and trhew them out? Because that's exactly what I would have done.
I would give him the benefit of the doubt had she not said this is a pattern with him, and that he would flip out if she did the same thing to him.
I think this is a "straw that broke the camel's back" moment.
Husband is always throwing out her stuff. She specifically asks him not to throw out the sticks. She's out, she has no money, she's hungry. She wants to use the sticks, her DH has thrown them out.
The planets have aligned to create a corn dog stick meltdown.
I have also had moments where I've lost it over seemingly insignificant things that have just brought me to my breaking point.
As one of my college professors said "It's not the big things that break up a marriage, like 'You sold our son to buy Budweiser,' it's the little things. Like 'I've told you a hundred times to clean the crap out of your pants pockets before you put them in the wash' sort of thing."
As one of my college professors said "It's not the big things that break up a marriage, like 'You sold our son to buy Budweiser,' it's the little things. Like 'I've told you a hundred times to clean the crap out of your pants pockets before you put them in the wash' sort of thing."
That's pretty sad. Personally, I think if most people would be willing to just overlook all those little things, there would be a lot of happy marriages.
I think most people give men a lot more credit than they deserve. Sometimes they just do stupid stuff and it really means nothing and doesn't imply anything.
If I told my husband not to throw out a stick worth 99 cents and he threw it out, I would not take that to mean he does not respect me or my shit. I would take it to mean that he really can't deal with a dirty stick in my car or he truly just forgot and he knows that I can afford a 99 cent corn dog anyway. Even if it was a case of him blatantly ignoring my request...at the end of the day it's still a dirty stick worth less than $1.