Post by Jalapeñomel on Jun 23, 2013 15:00:03 GMT -5
single Dad? Would it be any different then letting your child sleep over at the house of a single mom?
DH is reading a Dear Abby type column, and the single dad said that he wasn't sure if people would allow their child to sleep at his house if there wasn't another adult (specifically female) over.
Yes. My best friend growing up had divorced parents, and I stayed the night at her dad's house all the time. As far as I know, my mom never thought twice about it and I certainly didn't think of it as any different than staying the night at her mom's house.
I'm less concerned about single parenthood than I am about whether or not I know the family. If I knew him, yes.
This. My DD accepts/declines sleepover invitations based on how well I know the parent(s). If I knew a single parent well enough to say it was ok, it would be irrelevant if that parent was male or female.
Yes. Unless I had a reason to suspect I shouldn't, which would also go for a situation where the child has a mom and a dad at home, or a single mom, etc.
I see zero difference between a single mom or a single dad. Both are working their asses off for their kids and I tip my hat to all of them. One of our best friends on our street is a single dad with two girls DS's age. I would absolutely, completely trust him with DS.
I don't have kids, but I think I would want to know any parents well and would be fine male or female. I definitely have male friends that I would be fine with my kids hanging out with for an overnight.
Post by pantsparty on Jun 23, 2013 16:18:40 GMT -5
Aw, this makes me sad There are a lot of great dads out there. Guess what, a married dad could be a creep, too. This isn't about single/married, it should be about a parent's judgement.
Aw, this makes me sad There are a lot of great dads out there. Guess what, a married dad could be a creep, too. This isn't about single/married, it should be about a parent's judgement.
Yea, this makes me sad too. So single dads send out a pedo vibe? I'm not understanding that.
Of course. My aunt died when her girls were 4 and 7, and it makes me so sad to think there may have been people who wouldn't let their kids play with my cousins or go to their sleepovers because they were being raised by my (totally awesome) uncle.
Post by jojoandleo on Jun 23, 2013 16:59:10 GMT -5
Gotta watch out for those single dads. I mean look at Sandusky! Oh wait, he was married. Relationship status has nothing to do with creep status, so the people who said no I find gross.
My younger son does often, and in all honesty, I never thought twice about it. But, he is the nicest guy, and a good dad, so there was no reason to think about it. If he was creepy, then I guess I would have thought about it in the context of him being creepy, not because he's a single dad.
Now there's a single mom a couple of blocks over from us, and I wouldn't let my oldest sleep there. Every time I see her she is either well on her way or hung over. Her kid comes to our house.
Post by peachdragon on Jun 23, 2013 17:57:13 GMT -5
My parents divorced when I was 10. I lived with my father for awhile. I had a slumber party for my entire class (girls only of course), and most of the kids' parents wouldn't let their girls stay the night. Wtf. Nice way to insinuate my father is a child molester. Only my close friends stayed.
Friend of my niece is not allowed to go to a house where a Dad is there alone - so not just a single father, but also applies if my BIL is home alone without my sister. My sister is not as offended by this as I think she should be (LOL!) - told me that it was just their family's rule and that maybe there was a reason. I don't know how I would respond if someone told me this (and really is saying that my BIL, her husband, is suspect). Nothing like thinking all men, if left alone with children, would do something. Growing up, I couldn't tell you who was home - Mom, Dad or both - just that someone was there - when we visited someone's house.
Post by Jalapeñomel on Jun 23, 2013 18:33:58 GMT -5
DH says that the columnist stated that it would be weirder for the single dad to have a strange woman in the house to just have another adult there. And that any child who is staying at his house should know him well enough to know that he is not a pedophile/untrustworthy/weird.
Post by EmilieMadison on Jun 23, 2013 21:21:11 GMT -5
Some of the people I trust more than anyone in the world with my kids are men. Married or single, I would happily dump my kids on them anytime they were willing!
Post by saraandmichael on Jun 23, 2013 21:25:11 GMT -5
when i was growing up, my mom hardly ever let me have friends stay the night at her house but my dad always encouraged me to invite my friends over. i would have been heartbroken if their parents said no just because he was a he.
and farmvillelover why do you feel that way about sleepovers?