I'm really sorry about everything, But I am also really confused. Mostly about the job interview and how you got lost, etc. I hope they called you back to reschedule and your day goes a little better...
They called me to confirm the interview, but I was driving so I didn't hear it. When I got to the building, I immediately called them back and explained how I was lost, how sorry I was, and was there an opportunity to reschedule for the afternoon so that I can pull up the correct directions. Haven't gotten a call back yet.
When you realized you were lost, you didn't think calling them immediately was a good idea? They couldve helped you find the office, or been more forgiving of your tardiness. Did you go inside when you got to the building? You're basically a complete no show since no one saw or spoke to you. If you were unfamiliar with the area you shouldve made sure you knew where you were going. This isn't just bad luck.
YES!!
Calling from the road would have been helpful. Going in once you actually got there (!!!) would have been helpful. Making atrial run the night before, (which I have to do all the time, because I can get lost in a paper bag) would have been helpful. There were so many ways to salvage the situation. I am seriously stunned that not one occurred to OP.
No Bluetooth and it's rather illegal to talk and drive on your cell. At least in this state. Plus, I didn't hear my phone ring as I was driving. But I was on that phone the minute I saw I missed call.
Yes, it seems like a lot of excuses. I really can't put my finger on as to how it got totally messed up. The directions literally took me 30 minutes away from the actual area, and made me go through the main roads. When I got to familiar territory, I realized that there was a faster way and MapQuest did not pick up on that. So if I'm able to go back, I definitely would know how to get to the area, but getting to the actual building will still be a task.
If getting lost/directions is an issue maybe you should try doing a dry-run before your interview, to make sure you know the location you need to be.
To give her the benefit of the doubt, I know that when we first moved here our house wasn't on any search engine and Google Maps *and* MapQuest would send people about two miles down the road as a "best guess." But everyone, once they realized they couldn't find our house, called to get directions. It's a simple remedy, really.
How did the directions take you 30 minutes away from the office location? Wouldn't that put you in like a totally different city?? And when you were apologizing and asking to reschedule, did you not tell them that you were in the building??
I don't know, something does not add up here. If you were running late for an interview AND lost why wouldn't you call form the car?
mmm...she said she left 45 minutes early and had the wrong directions. i understood it as she didnt' know she was lost until she followed the directions and found that they were to the wrong place. then she called. that's very different from running late and getting lost and not calling from teh car.
this. Once I was in familiar territory, I was able to relax more, until the streets didn't match up to the ones on the directions. Say the directions said "turn right on Olive Drive", I go up and down the street looking for Olive Dr. until I hit a dead end and the freeway, so I turn around. I catch the numbers on the building that match up to the ones on my directions, but the street name says "Lavender Road." See where my confusion is at?
Post by simplyinpenguin on Jun 25, 2013 14:27:40 GMT -5
That is definitely a lesson to take with me. Dry run the day before. Thank you. I no longer have any more excuses to make. I will do this from here on out.
Thankfully, I still have 3 more interviews lined up plus a friend put me in touch with her work. So, on to other options!
There is a lesson to be learned in this. Don't trust MapQuest. Use Google Maps instead. Not to mention, invest in a headless Bluetooth set.
I did go inside the building, of course, because it had the address on my directions. Instead I ran into the Water Board Dept. who has never heard of the company I'm interviewing for being in the building. That's when I knew I was completely fucked.
How does this happen? This is really strange. You were definitely physically at the address the company provided to you, yet it was not their building? Could it have been the building next door or across the street? What information did you have incorrect - the address or the driving directions to that address?
Have you googled it now that you're home?
THISMAKESNOSENSE.
No, it doesn't make sense to me either. That building was the only building around with those address numbers. I believe it was bad driving directions because when I google mapped it, it gave me entirely different directions, down to the quickest route. I wrote down the directions, I'm going to call them back again.
And I apologize for using the term "headless". This has not been my day.
Post by simplyinpenguin on Jun 25, 2013 14:38:52 GMT -5
I am sorry. It does seem like a bunch of excuses to the outside world. But if you had seen me run around last night, getting the information, the directions, the resume and then what happened this morning prior to the interview, my head was just too far up my ass to see more clearly.
I apologize to you all. Truly. I just don't know what to make of my life right now. It's such a mess. Even though we agreed on separation, I don't know what's going to happen. Who's moving out? What's going to happen? Where will I go? I have a couple of friends I can crash with for a couple weeks each, so that may give me enough time to sort out the fuckery that is my life, and why I always go to excuses when shit goes wrong.
Post by Bree Van de Kamp on Jun 25, 2013 14:46:36 GMT -5
Sounds like OP was superfucking frazzled, (although I will say that I have no knowledge of the other incidents some of you are referring to). I get it. I'm that asshole who just keeps driving in the same direction when I get lost, telling myself that there just HAS to be an entrance to the highway coming up. I suck at getting myself unlost.
I'm side eyeing the shit out of your husband for saying that he too thought you guys needed "some time apart." What the fuck was so horrendous on his end? The fact that his wife wasn't down with having incestual orgies or....?
Post by simplyinpenguin on Jun 25, 2013 14:51:37 GMT -5
The fact I wasn't cleaning the grease off the stove. Oh and that I left Gatorade bottles around. Here's the difference though: I clean up my shit. I may not clean it right then and there, but I usually clean it, and the rest of the house the next day. Then it's the same thing 4 days later. I'm just so exhausted from the cycles. I even told him this too. "We just keep cycling and it's been like this since year one of our marriage. We're great when we're dating, but we don't mesh as a married couple."
Just got a phone call from the place I was to interview at. They rescheduled me for tomorrow. I'm going for a dry run tonight.
I am sorry. It does seem like a bunch of excuses to the outside world. But if you had seen me run around last night, getting the information, the directions, the resume and then what happened this morning prior to the interview, my head was just too far up my ass to see more clearly.
I apologize to you all. Truly. I just don't know what to make of my life right now. It's such a mess. Even though we agreed on separation, I don't know what's going to happen. Who's moving out? What's going to happen? Where will I go? I have a couple of friends I can crash with for a couple weeks each, so that may give me enough time to sort out the fuckery that is my life, and why I always go to excuses when shit goes wrong.
Honey, you don't need to apologize to us, but you need some tough love right about now
Is it possible that you typed the incorrect address into Mapquest? If this was a real problem, then I would imagine the receptionist would be aware of it. Like, you can't possibly be the first person in the history of the world to use Mapquest to locate this business and end up 45 minutes away at the Water Dept.
Post by simplyinpenguin on Jun 25, 2013 15:19:57 GMT -5
I typed the same address into two different map sites and got two completely different sets of directions. One (MapQuest) continues to take me 30 minutes out of the way while the other (Google) gave the quickest route.
i feel frustrated for you. but you have to sack up and do better next time. glad to hear you got a rescheduled interview, but for the other 3(?) interviews you have coming up, PLAN AHEAD. print out directions and drive there before the day of the interview. print out resume(s) (yes, plural because with your luck..just do it.) lay out fully ironed interview attire the night before. NO MORE EXCUSES. get yourself a job and get the fuck outta that house.
I am engaging in pulling my head out of my ass. I do plan on doing a dry run tonight for tomorrow. If I nail it, awesome, I won't need the directions tomorrow. Once I get there, I remember how to get there from there on out. My interview clothes are ready and out of reach of the cats. My resumes are all printed out. I am done with excuses. I am. If you see me make one, tell me to shut the fuck up.
i feel frustrated for you. but you have to sack up and do better next time. glad to hear you got a rescheduled interview, but for the other 3(?) interviews you have coming up, PLAN AHEAD. print out directions and drive there before the day of the interview. print out resume(s) (yes, plural because with your luck..just do it.) lay out fully ironed interview attire the night before. NO MORE EXCUSES. get yourself a job and get the fuck outta that house.
I am engaging in pulling my head out of my ass. I do plan on doing a dry run tonight for tomorrow. If I nail it, awesome, I won't need the directions tomorrow. Once I get there, I remember how to get there from there on out. My interview clothes are ready and out of reach of the cats. My resumes are all printed out. I am done with excuses. I am. If you see me make one, tell me to shut the fuck up.
Please, for the love, take the directions with you. Do not get overconfident here.
You said that the directions took you 30 minutes out of the way, but you planned on a 20 minute drive. This honestly makes no sense. When you look at directions in whatever program you are using, you need to actually look at the map to see if the route looks logical. Then print the big map out and take it with you in case you get lost. Print out the close-up map showing how to get to your destination from the nearest big street that you know.
Good luck with your dry run and at the interview tomorrow.
I don't want to be mean here. But, interviewing is not this hard. At all. You always post these things as if you have bad luck and omg, this happened TO ME, blah blah. No. I just refuse to believe that month after month, weird shit happens to you every time you have an interview. You are an adult - get it together and act like one. My god.
I am taking full responsibility in this fuck up. I am considering myself extremely lucky that I was able to reschedule. You are all are right (except Jezebel). No more excuses. No more blindly going in. I need to take my life back. And I will do this. If I got up enough confidence to tell H I wanted a separation, I can get a job.
i feel frustrated for you. but you have to sack up and do better next time. glad to hear you got a rescheduled interview, but for the other 3(?) interviews you have coming up, PLAN AHEAD. print out directions and drive there before the day of the interview. print out resume(s) (yes, plural because with your luck..just do it.) lay out fully ironed interview attire the night before. NO MORE EXCUSES. get yourself a job and get the fuck outta that house.
I am engaging in pulling my head out of my ass. I do plan on doing a dry run tonight for tomorrow. If I nail it, awesome, I won't need the directions tomorrow.
For the love of god, YOU NEED THE DIRECTIONS TOMORROW.