Not looking forward to tonight's conversation, he's going to feel blindsided. Especially after he randomly called this afternoon to see how my day was going (yesterday was pretty craptacular), I wasn't expecting that.
One of the ladies I work with asked me if I was okay. She told me "Some people can hide their troubles. You aren't one of those people, you wear it--I've wanted to say something to you but I wasn't sure how." Then she told me I deserve love and happiness and gave me a huge hug. It made me feel a little better.
Saw doctor dude for a minute, just long enough to exchange pleasantries. Still wondering if I upset him by bolting on Saturday.
12 more minutes until I leave for the day, then I'll be back at it on Friday.
I have an appt scheduled for a good app I got for my foster pup on Sunday. I'm excited because it's a good app. I wish I wasn't working on Friday, but alas, I'll be here.
Post by partiallysunny on Jul 3, 2013 16:11:37 GMT -5
Good luck tonight. I'll be around Friday too, if you need me.
Start with "I really appreciated the call today..." And go from there. Try to tell him what he's done right and what he needs to do more off instead of just focusing on what he's doing wrong.
You are strong and impressive cuddlyevil. I will be around tonight for any support you need. You are right to have this conversation with him and we will all be here no matter what his reaction is.
I'll be around too cuddlyevil. I like PS's idea for how to start the conversation. Let him know how the call today ti check on you made you feel (important, valued, visible, etc.). You've got this, you really do.
It's done. Well, not done but we had a long talk. I started off with thanking.him for calling me today. We talked about the game, how much it is affecting us and how I am being pushed away.
I said "can't you see how this is putting us on a path like your parents?" .I don't know that he gets it yet but he wants to try.
He kept saying how when he gets home his tank is empty and he just wants to sit there. He told me he'd be fine if we were in one part of the room doing our thing and he is on the other side daydreaming. I get that his job is hard but we have young kids.
The conversation isn't over, he.has to work tomorrow so it's suspended for now.
I didn't put out an ultimatum. I told him that I would hold him to what he said. I.am hopeful but not holding my breath.
No; we were covering why he's so fascinated with the game and how it is affecting me. The idea that he'd be happy with us.hanging out elsewhere while he does whatever he wants stinks out loud. He did admit to laziness, he said.he works hard to get it right the first time so he can go back to being lazy.
That's up to you. But you deserve a two-sided marriage either way. I'm sorry. I feel like you have done all the trying and communicating here and it's not even your fucking issue to work on.
It seems inevitable if he can't even care after all of this.
I told Boyfriend about the phone charger comment last night and he said if I ever felt unlinked because of his gaming I could take the computer and put it in a safety deposit box for as long as I wanted. You deserve that kind of reaction.
He asked me about when I'm in the room toying with FB or here. But the thing is, I don't do it for long and I put my phone down if someone wants my attention. And it's certainly not every night for two hours or more.
His stock answer tends to be but you're better at it than me".if I bring up the zone out stuff.
He won't even come down if he hears me stressing out. Maybe if there is a lot of screaming and I tell him I need his help. But in general, he just leaves me to it.
Doglove, sometimes but it is hard with kids and his work. More often than not, it's us in front of the tv not talking or him pretending to listen to me or telling me he doesn't care about the people I'm talking about.
He doesn't think we need to talk about anything other than the kids.