WDMLT about dating age difference

[flex]

It'll be fun but be prepared for a lot of immature insecurity.

[runforrest]

Do it! I don't see the big deal.

[eb777888]

I could not do that. No way. 21 seems so young to me (I'm 35).

[Deleted]

Non stop sex.


I'd feel a little pervy, through. Lol.

[Deleted]

I'd find it hard to believe that the two would have much in common. I am 33 and I can't fathom finding a 21 year old I would be interested in for more than (possibly) sex. Even the sex is a maybe because I think I might feel too creepy.

[TrickyBob]

Does he still live at home with his parent's? Does he have a stable job? Does he own his own car? Does he have his own place?

If the answers are; no, yes, yes, and yes then sure give it a shot. The worst that happens is you never see him again.

[sergey]

Ehhh, I'd try it out and see where it goes but I wouldn't be anticipating it going or ending particularly well.

[joshlyman]

For fun and sexy times? Sure!
For a relationship? No

[CurlyQ284]

I wouldn't judge someone else for the age difference but that sounds like a pain in the ass. I didn't even like 21 year old guys when I WAS 21.

Bro.

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[Deleted]

21 is a kid to me. I would think 31 and 43 would be a lot less of an issue that 21 and 33. None of the 21 year olds I knew when I was 21 were good dating material, so I definitely don't want to date them now that I am older!

That said, depends on the individual. I am sure there are exceptions, just don't be surprised when he acts his age.

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[VeryViolet]

Serious dating no just because that sounds annoying, 21yo guys are generally immature idiots. Fun/casual dating (and lots of sex) sounds like a good time though.

[eb777888]

Jul 17, 2013 10:05:47 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I'd think that a 33 yo man who dated a 21 yo woman was a cradle robber who was only in it for sex. Which is fine, but keep in mind the 21 yo is more likely to be emotionally vulnerable and immature than the 33 yo, and may thus have more drama happening in the arrangement and in ending the arrangement than another 33 yo.

This was my initial thought. I side-eye a 33 y/o man dating a 21 y/o woman as well. It goes both ways for me.

[leancuisine]

Yeah, 21 screams immature college kid to me.

[MWOS]

honestly, sleeping with a 21 year old is a waste of 8 minutes and a condom.

25+ only need apply

[shoeless]

For a relationship, no. For non-stop sex, maybe. I feel like 21 may be a little young (for me personally).. I think he'd have to be 23 so I wouldn't feel like a pervert.

[Deleted]

well, the sex would be fun.

but otherwise? remember that episode of sex and the city when carrie sleeps with the 24 year old and then the next morning is all "omg, i'm waking up in a 24 year old's apartment" and there isn't any toilet paper or coffee? yeah.

[bonquiqui]

I couldn't do it.

[EmilieMadison]

For some fun times and lots of sex? I guess. But a relationship? Probably not. I'm 33 and my brother is 21. I have almost zero in common with him or any of his friends. Most of them haven't even gotten their first real jobs yet because they are still in college or just graduated.
I dont really see a 21 year old as my peer.

[FastHands]

I'm sure there are exceptions, but I can't see a 21yo holding any long-term interest for a 33yo woman. Short-term? Sure. I wouldn't NOT do it in your "friend's" shoes, but I would temper my expectations.

[iamgrace]

Pip.

Lol

[So_Fetch]

Depends on what you're looking for. and if the 21 year old is kind of a nerd with little experience or a hot college guy.

[speckledfrog]

I'm 33 and would not want a relationship with a 21 year old. Those 10ish years are big ones.

[Deleted]

The age difference alone doesn't bother me at all. I've got a 9 year difference in my relationship after all, but I cannot imagine dating a 21 year old broseph. Hit it and quit it is acceptable.

[Kit]

I couldn't do it.

[bluelily]

It breaks the "half your age plus seven" rule, which generally does a pretty good job of determining skeevy.

[lilybug]

IDK, there's a 6 year difference between xh and I, and I always felt far more mature than him. At 25, I would date someone in their late 30s, no prob.

So, I wouldn't side-eye it on principle. But whether it would work depends on their specific maturity levels and personalities.

[pantsparty]

Date? Maybe. Relationship? No.

[eb777888]

I wouldn't even count on the sex being that great. Does a 21 y.o. have enough experience to know what he's doing?

[FastHands]

Jul 17, 2013 10:18:56 GMT -5 lilybug said:

IDK, there's a 6 year difference between xh and I, and I always felt far more mature than him. At 25, I would date someone in their late 30s, no prob.

So, I wouldn't side-eye it on principle. But whether it would work depends on their specific maturity levels and personalities.

Yeah, I was about to say that I could see a window for success with a 21yo FEMALE and 33yo male just because of relative maturities. It's a loooooot less likely to work when the guy is younger, IMO.