I am so pi$$ed at myself for saying yes to a temp foster. Our current foster dog is so stressed and this is not how I wanted his last few days with us to be. THREE active dogs is way too much. I could never deal with three dogs.
My brother and his wife are parents again - she went into labor last night and he called me early this morning to tell me their son was born at 5am. I'm so excited to meet him next week. Yay!
I skipped my workout this morning, but just ended up laying in bed awake.
DS #2 woke up and made me put off my work out this morning. Have to make it up tonight now.
I'm telling DH that I have a therapist appointment tonight. I am planning on telling him that I will want him to come to a session or two at some point, but that if he opts to not come I will take it as a sign that he doesn't want things to improve and act accordingly. He didn't come downstairs until 10 last night. I went upstairs once and he said "I know you're mad and that this is a problem for you." but he still didn't do anything about it--"but we're at war".
cuddlyevil - it's probably best to have a separate therapist for marriage counseling as any counselor you see on an individual basis will be bias towards you.
I feel like three dogs counts as a workout. Sorry it is stressful though!
I failed at mornings yesterday and woke up an hour and a half late. It put a rushed/stressful tone to the rest of my day and I hated it.
I feel really pathetic for feeling so crazy with the two new jobs and school. They're not that crazy I've just been doing nothing but sitting on my butt for a year. Now I'm working and schooling and the pace is so different. I need to adjust.
cuddlyevil - it's probably best to have a separate therapist for marriage counseling as any counselor you see on an individual basis will be bias towards you.
I know, but I don't know how else to get him to come. He really doesn't see it as a problem, no matter how much I tell him, but maybe if a professional says "I think you two would benefit from seeing a marriage counselor--here's a few recommendations" he might listen.
cuddlyevil-- I'm so glad you made an appt for yourself. Please let us know how it goes.
Poor Brad didn't leave work last night until 1 AM!! It's the suck, but we slept in this morning and that was nice. However, now he is messing with my scheduled poop time.
I'm losing my milk supply and it sucks. I've been trying everything under the sun and nothing is helping. I was so looking forward to being done soon, but I thought it would be on my own terms. Now it just feels like I'm failing and it sucks.
I'm losing my milk supply and it sucks. I've been trying everything under the sun and nothing is helping. I was so looking forward to being done soon, but I thought it would be on my own terms. Now it just feels like I'm failing and it sucks.
I bet that has to be so disappointing, but you are doing such a great job and are such a great mom.
Post by dixienormous on Jul 18, 2013 8:53:27 GMT -5
cuddlyevil - I'm so glad you're going for yourself. I hope he realizes what he's going to lose.
motzie - I struggled with my supply for the entire duration of nursing and I felt like the world's biggest failure. Nursing was the one thing I wanted/needed to work for us (and in hindsight it wasn't me but PF's disabilities that were then unknown). Don't beat yourself up. Remind yourself that you worked hard and gave A an amazing start. You fed your child. It doesn't matter if it came from you, a can, or a combination. You fed your child and will continue to do so. THAT makes you anything BUT a failure.
PF puked in two different intervals this morning. 5:30am woke me up and luckily wasn't a huge mess. 6:30am I was trying to get in the shower and she made a huge mess that resulted in her in the shower with me. She couldn't decide which was worse, the shower or the upset tummy.
My meal planning for this week has been an epic success. Dinners have been quick to throw together, really tasty and there are so many leftovers!
Motzie, my supply dwindled on its own as well. I had enough in the freezer to keep the kids going a little longer, but I just figured it was my body telling me it was time to wean and I listened. We switched to formula and the kids are fine. I was happier too because I could have wine again
Oh and I have a doctors appointment on Monday and they sent me a post card that says "plan on being here for 5 hours" WTF are we going to do for 5 hours?!?
Yay dl. I'm so happy for you and your fam! Congrats on the little one!
Last week I decided enough is enough and cut out the foods I shouldn't be eating, smaller meals every few hours, more water etc. Even with having a bit of ice cream and a drink last weekend, I'm down (holy shit) 5 pounds. Yaaaay!
Motzie, my supply dwindled on its own as well. I had enough in the freezer to keep the kids going a little longer, but I just figured it was my body telling me it was time to wean and I listened. We switched to formula and the kids are fine. I was happier too because I could have wine again
I'm trying to come to terms since there doesn't seem to be a fix. I don't have much of a freezer stash, maybe enough to supplement another week or two. I've donated some and I've been dipping into it lately. A has her 9 month check up next Friday (9 months!!!) so I just want to make it until then so I can make a plan with her pedi.
I am so pi$$ed at myself for saying yes to a temp foster. Our current foster dog is so stressed and this is not how I wanted his last few days with us to be. THREE active dogs is way too much. I could never deal with three dogs.
Three dogs is a lot. It's exactly why we don't have any failed fosters. Can you run them together, or is it too hot? Ice cream treats or some other bonding activity maybe?
Don't beat yourself up. You were trying to help, and now you know for next time.
I am so pi$$ed at myself for saying yes to a temp foster. Our current foster dog is so stressed and this is not how I wanted his last few days with us to be. THREE active dogs is way too much. I could never deal with three dogs.
Three dogs is a lot. It's exactly why we don't have any failed fosters. Can you run them together, or is it too hot? Ice cream treats or some other bonding activity maybe?
Don't beat yourself up. You were trying to help, and now you know for next time.
They all get along just fine! I walked them last night and will do the same this evening. Our current foster is just very sensitive and any slight change stresses him out. I thought he was pretty settled with us though and when they sent the email - I thought we would be getting this temp guy later in the week. He's sweet, but he's a puppy and not house broken. We only have one crate, so our current foster is ousted from the crate - which is his safe haven.
This on top of the stress/anxiety I'm feeling about letting him go has just put me over the top. Thank god for DH this morning because I was about to have a serious meltdown.
I'm surprised they wouldn't send him over with his crate, knowing the situation.
Your little man is going to be fine. He is building confidence and he will get past this too. I am more worried about you and the stress you are putting on yourself.
Post by starrieskies on Jul 18, 2013 11:40:31 GMT -5
UGH! cuddlyevil! I just want to smack your H. I wouldn't have even made it through "I know you're mad and this is a problem FOR YOU". Seriously, it's about to become a problem for you too, bud!!! GAH!!! I'm so mad for you!
Congratulations DL! How fun to be an auntie!
Mel, you went from having no job to having 2 and school! That's a big adjustment! Cut yourself some slack!
Nephew goes home on Sunday and this morning DS told me he wanted to go home with him so he could see his "brother nephew's" house.
I was pretty sure H had forgotten our anniversary. He didn't and surprised me with flowers and my favorite homemade dinner of all time. UGH! Why can't he take this random thoughfulness and apply it to days that aren't "Holidays" or special events? I'll bet our marriage would be a whole lot different. I'm sure he only did it because he felt obligated to do something. I didn't even buy him a card.
I'm surprised they wouldn't send him over with his crate, knowing the situation.
Your little man is going to be fine. He is building confidence and he will get past this too. I am more worried about you and the stress you are putting on yourself.
Yeah we didn't have a lot of time to put this together so it was badly planned.
I am too - why do I do this to myself? We are taking a break after this temp foster leaves.
Post by cuddlyevil on Jul 18, 2013 11:46:13 GMT -5
Starries, I know. He came downstairs and was all "I know you're mad". I didn't even look at him and just said "It's fucking 10 o'clock". Then got kind of pouty when I told him I was going to bed.
Post by starrieskies on Jul 18, 2013 11:55:54 GMT -5
I don't get that... that has got to be one of the stupidest things I have ever heard... "I know you're mad." Well, then why the fuck did you do it??? It makes no sense! All that serves is to acknowledge your feelings, basically tell you that he is aware of them and he doesn't give a shit! It pisses me off!! (Ok, I may be projecting a bit here because H has said the same shit to me before, but it's still fucking ridiculous!)
Post by cuddlyevil on Jul 18, 2013 13:44:36 GMT -5
Vaguely, honestly even if I state them explicitly (which is going to be part of the "I'm going to see a therapist" discussion) he will probably still be totally taken aback if something precipitous happens.