so DHs cousin invited us to her summer place for a little get together.
So we get the evite and this is on the bottom under Message from the Host:
Everyone is welcome! Come bring the whole family and enjoy the day! The beach is 0.5 miles away and there's lots to do! We'll have fun! **Pray for good weather! ***Bring your favorite photo of one of our "dead" relatives! Let's have some healthy laughs or cries! haaaa... ****Share your favorite summer dish!
I am WTFing it on so many levels.
So why is dead in quotation marks..? Why are we bringing pictures of dead family? I don't want to drive 2 hours to go to a BBQ where I am going to leave wanting to jump off a cliff. I don't know... maybe its Me
I get that what they are doing is that they want to reminisce etc but can't we word this better? One last
the juxtaposition of "dead" relatives and potluck dish request. the overuse of stars. the shout out for good weather. the idea that an all-ages, non-funeral gathering where people laugh and/or cry at photos of "dead" people is in some form or fashion healthy. the fact that the beach is half a mile away.
everything is perfect. i love it. i wish i was invited. i have a lot of "dead" relatives.
meganew YESSSSSSSSSS that is what I said. Its like all normal you are reading along and hit that and are like "hmm what now?"
DH's family on that side is weird. When his uncle died they did a "crazy hat parade" through the church. DH's uncle was a priest and I sincerly don't think he would have thought that wearing silly hats in church was an appropriate tribute.
Maybe she thinks it will be nice for family members to "see" relatives they've never met, or haven't seen in a long time, to see pictures they've never seen of relatives long gone that they may or may not have known. Tell family stories that others haven't heard and relive memories of times everyone was together. Kind of like a family reunion and wake all rolled up into one.
Remember to bring alcohol. The best family reunions, and the best wakes, have lots of alcohol.
the juxtaposition of "dead" relatives and potluck dish request. the overuse of stars. the shout out for good weather. the idea that an all-ages, non-funeral gathering where people laugh and/or cry at photos of "dead" people is in some form or fashion healthy. the fact that the beach is half a mile away.
everything is perfect. i love it. i wish i was invited. i have a lot of "dead" relatives.
Aren't you the poster who has shitty friends too? I'm kind of WTFing what is wrong with you that you are surrounded by this kind of shit all the time.
Um this shit all of the time? I had three friends from High School that were shitty friends that I am done with, and this is my DH's cousin. hardly a pattern.
the juxtaposition of "dead" relatives and potluck dish request. the overuse of stars. the shout out for good weather. the idea that an all-ages, non-funeral gathering where people laugh and/or cry at photos of "dead" people is in some form or fashion healthy. the fact that the beach is half a mile away.
everything is perfect. i love it. i wish i was invited. i have a lot of "dead" relatives.
I will come get you. please.. please come Cville!
now now. i just said i wanted to be INVITED. not attend. ha.
Woah weird. Did a bunch of people recently die and this is an attempt to make a memorial be light-hearted? Or is this an otherwise-normal gathering that they are having depressing side-conversations about??
It reminds me of a party game. Like, "Make sure to bring dollar bills if you want to play Left-Center-Right!" or something.
I'm picturing the hostess being all "well now that we've finished eating, let's go over to the table, and everyone pick a dead relative and hold it up against your forehead. We'll start talking to you like you were that person, and you have to guess who you are!!"
Woah weird. Did a bunch of people recently die and this is an attempt to make a memorial be light-hearted? Or is this an otherwise-normal gathering that they are having depressing side-conversations about??
It reminds me of a party game. Like, "Make sure to bring dollar bills if you want to play Left-Center-Right!" or something.
I'm picturing the hostess being all "well now that we've finished eating, let's go over to the table, and everyone pick a dead relative and hold it up against your forehead. We'll start talking to you like you were that person, and you have to guess who you are!!"
No a bunch of people didn't die recently. The last death was almost 2 years ago
This is all from the first pages of posts you started.
Okay a shitty stranger you can take that off the list. People can be dicks.
I def used to let people walk all over me and be a people pleaser. The older I got I started standing my ground. Facebook got me back in touch with some friends from high school I never would have talked to otherwise and I had changed.