Anyone have experience with

[omgomgae]

Having a schmashmortion? Obviously I'm an ae, but I'm a freaked out reg.

I took 2 pink dye tests both were +. My last af was 21 days ago and I have a call in to the gyn.

[partiallysunny]

You can say "abortion".

I have no experience, but good luck.

Isn't 21 days a pretty short cycle? Or do I have a long cycle at about 31 days?

[margarita]

I don't have experience with it myself, but good luck.

Are you okay?

[omgomgae]

Yeah, I know. Just using the line from knocked up.

My cycle has always been short. I get AF every 18-21 days. Yay...

[omgomgae]

Jul 29, 2013 11:58:19 GMT -5 margarita said:

I don't have experience with it myself, but good luck.

Are you okay?

Yeah, I'm good. H is ok too. He's a tiny bit religious, so he's reconciling that in his head, but we're doing what's best for us and DS.

[tiramisu]

I don't have any experience with it myself either, but I have been there for friends who've had abortions. Different situations, none were married. Was there info you were looking for?

I wish you good luck, and am sending hugs your way.

[omgomgae]

Jul 29, 2013 12:15:57 GMT -5 tiramisu said:

I don't have any experience with it myself either, but I have been there for friends who've had abortions. Different situations, none were married. Was there info you were looking for?

I wish you good luck, and am sending hugs your way.

Not really. Just sifting through the crap online. Looks like I'm early enough for non-surgical, so I think I'll be taking a few days off work here soon.

[Muddled]

What are freaked out about? Are you second guessing your decision?

[motzie]

I'll second Muddled. Which part is freaking you out? Or just all of it?

[gault]

Good luck and I'm sorry. Hugs.

The closest I've come is taking plan b. But I wouldn't blame you for taking a few days off. Do what you need to do.

[omgomgae]

Definitely not second guessing. Just more of a shitshitshitshitshit moment. I may have reenacted the cussing scene from The Kings Speech. In the bathroom. At work ('cause I had to know RIGHT NOW).

The freakout part is over now that I/we have a plan. Until then I'm staring at my phone, willing it to ring.

[motzie]

If you are secure in your plan, then everything will be ok. Sorry you are dealing with this. I hope everything goes smoothly.

[Muddled]

What made you even think to take a test? It doesn't sound like you are late yet.

What are you looking for here? Hair pets? Information? I'm not sure what you want.

[omgomgae]

Jul 29, 2013 13:27:24 GMT -5 Muddled said:

What made you even think to take a test? It doesn't sound like you are late yet.

What are you looking for here? Hair pets? Information? I'm not sure what you want.

I had some spotting late last week. That's nothing out of the ordinary, I usually have about 4 days of spotting then then AF right away. Thursday/Friday was normal, but then nothing on Sunday or today. And today I felt like complete and utter crap. My stomach hurts, my back hurts, basically, blah. If I didn't know my cycle like the back of my hand, I probably wouldn't have noticed. But, I could tell something was/is up.

On the first one, the PG line came up before the control line. Same as when I was PG with S. I went home, told H what was going on, and took another test. Another + test.


I'm not sure what I was looking for either. Momentary freakout. Don't mind me.

[Muddled]

I just wasn't sure what we could do to help you. If you need a space to freak out, go for it.

You've made a decision though, and that should help.

[Wrath0fKuus]

@cse1960 is very open about having had an abortion, and not regretting it at all.

[sangria]

I'll be honest and admit that I've had one. It was non surgical. I took the pill and the misoprostol. Do you have specific questions?

[neonpink]

You've got to make the right decision for you and your family.

[omgomgae]

Thanks everyone.

suesue and sangria - From what I read, the first pill doesn't really cause much but the second brings on the ugly stuff. Is there anything I need to know? I gather I should stock up on overnight pads, black yoga pants and work from home for a few days? I've had one vaginal birth so I'm familiar with the post partum bleeding.

[Muddled]

If you do the pill, you are going to want pain killers. Whatever works for you.

[omgomgae]

My ob called back and got me in on Thursday morning. They had an opening tomorrow, but H wants to go with and he has an appt at the same time. So now to wait...

[partiallysunny]

I'm sure everything will be fine. You are doing what is best for your family. I'm glad your h is going with you.

[captainmel]

You are making the right decision for you and your family. I am glad you H is supportive.

[Deleted]

I have nothing to add except hugs.

[gault]

Jul 30, 2013 18:52:24 GMT -5 @moonbeam said:

Hello,

Sorry to hear that you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation. It sounds very scary and stressful. I do want to gently ask, why do you consider an abortion the right thing for your family at this time? If it is, and you are resolved on this choice and feel it's necessary, then that's your call. You don't have to answer...I just encourage you to examine the possibility of keeping the pregnancy. I understand that financially it might not be the best time, due to a variety of factors – employment, saving for a house, etc. Perhaps a second child interferes with major life plans or would complicate existing health issues. Why do you believe that an abortion is your only option at this point?

Everyone here is very supportive when people post about making such a serious decision, and I just want to say that sometimes having an abortion is NOT the best decision and does NOT have the best outcome despite the fact that many people offer anecdotal evidence that it was “right for them”. The fact that your husband finds this decision morally distressing could come back to haunt you later. Of course it is YOUR body, but your husband’s feelings on this matter are important as well. Years from now, if your son were to find out about your abortion, would you be able to explain to him why you did it with the same conviction that you have today?

I do not mean to offend you and only hope to help. I understand this is a very complex and emotional decision to make.

Oh honey, gtfo.

[justduckydancer]

Jul 30, 2013 20:36:36 GMT -5 @moonbeam said:

I have a close relative who had an abortion, albeit early, and deeply regretted it. I shared my views in a respectful way. I in no way insulted the original poster. I get that the OP has made her choice and wants support from the board. You may think I'm ignorant or lack empathy for someone in the OP's shoes, but you are very much mistaken. Thank you for responding in such a welcoming way to me.

^o)

[wrathofkuus]

From now on, when people post that they're pregnant, I'm going to tell them about the people I know who have regretted having kids, ask them to justify why they're going through with this pregnancy, and urge them to consider abortion instead. That's appropriate, right, Cortana?

[wrathofkuus]

Really? So you think that my suggestion would be well-received?

Why is it that the antediluvian always fall back on lamenting "political correctness" instead of having an actual valid point?

[wrathofkuus]

Why do the antediluvian always lament "political correctness" instead of having a valid point?

The fact is, she IS informed. She MADE the decision. And unless you would suggest what I proposed, telling pregnant women that many people regret having kids and that they're uninformed if they haven't considered having an abortion, then your point is nonsense.

[Muddled]

WTF @moonbeam. Of course you are offensive. Her mind is made up. Period.