That is such a bullshit law. I would not have expected that for PA. Cross the border to NY maybe? I'm sorry Chirp. You (no one) should have to deal with that shit on top of what you're already going through.
Fuck those protesters too. I always flip them off when I drive down the road the clinic is on. It's ALWAYS old guys. Always.
Ugh. So annoying and so completely unnecessary. Also, WTF at them requiring you look at anything that you are expected to procure for yourself- not that I wouldn't be happy to skip it. Will you say what state this is?
I think you might be glad that you are doing the D&E over the pill. It should be less painful physically for you and it's more efficient, so you can just get it over with.
I hate that you have to drag this out over so many weeks when I'm sure you are ready now.
ITA, the D&E shouldn't take more than 5-10 minutes. If you're only 3 weeks past your LMP you may want to wait until you're closer to 6 weeks. It's a bit safer to get the D&E at that point because there's a reduced risk of tissue being left behind and such. I know around me most doctors don't like to do them prior to 6 weeks and the ones that do charge extra
Chirp, I am so sorry that a bunch of assholes are trying to turn a personal decision for you and your family into their business. That bullshit makes me see red.
Chirp, I am so sorry that a bunch of assholes are trying to turn a personal decision for you and your family into their business. That bullshit makes me see red.
This is exactly what I came to say. Well said smock.
Sorry to hear that you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation. It sounds very scary and stressful. I do want to gently ask, why do you consider an abortion the right thing for your family at this time? If it is, and you are resolved on this choice and feel it's necessary, then that's your call. You don't have to answer...I just encourage you to examine the possibility of keeping the pregnancy. I understand that financially it might not be the best time, due to a variety of factors – employment, saving for a house, etc. Perhaps a second child interferes with major life plans or would complicate existing health issues. Why do you believe that an abortion is your only option at this point?
Everyone here is very supportive when people post about making such a serious decision, and I just want to say that sometimes having an abortion is NOT the best decision and does NOT have the best outcome despite the fact that many people offer anecdotal evidence that it was “right for them”. The fact that your husband finds this decision morally distressing could come back to haunt you later. Of course it is YOUR body, but your husband’s feelings on this matter are important as well. Years from now, if your son were to find out about your abortion, would you be able to explain to him why you did it with the same conviction that you have today?
I do not mean to offend you and only hope to help. I understand this is a very complex and emotional decision to make.
Cortana, I do not think the answers to these questions are any of our business. The only two people who get to have any voice in those questions are OP and her husband. She has made a decision. It is not our place to question it, if we believe she is an adult capable of making decisions in her own best interest.
OP, I wish you peace. I hope all works out for you, and I know better days await you.