Since it seems to be taking a life of it's own in the other thread, I figured I should start it's own thread to discuss it. And I'm curious, by nature!
What are you thoughts on porn? Are there things you enjoy or things you hate? How often do you watch porn (with or without a SO)? Are your views on porn based on movies or does it also include magazines, books, etc?
I have an issue from the exploitation aspect as well as "If he's attracted to me, why bring porn into our lives?" kind of POV.
The farthest I got into sensual whatever would be the second love scene from "The Notebook".....and that was some years ago when I was feeling really neglected by my ExH in the bedroom department, and I kept watching it and thinking "I wish that he was as crazy about me as Noah and Allie are for each other."
I like porn, provided everyone is of age, human and giving consent. As long as everyone's clear on the fact that it's fantasy and doesn't get too wrapped up, I don't see the harm.
I like porn, provided everyone is of age, human and giving consent. As long as everyone's clear on the fact that it's fantasy and doesn't get too wrapped up, I don't see the harm.
I have an issue from the exploitation aspect as well as "If he's attracted to me, why bring porn into our lives?" kind of POV.
The farthest I got into sensual whatever would be the second love scene from "The Notebook".....and that was some years ago when I was feeling really neglected by my ExH in the bedroom department, and I kept watching it and thinking "I wish that he was as crazy about me as Noah and Allie are for each other."
This is an honest question, but what do you think about when you're getting yourself off?
I'm of the mindset that it is fine until it starts replacing me in the bedroom (the whole moderation = good, obsession = bad). My XH had a collection. It never bothered me. He was more bothered that I wanted to watch it with him (I would watch it with my XBF when we were together and that led to some good times ;-) ) How much I watch depends on how much I am visited by FWB. If I see him often, I don't watch it much. If it's been awhile, I'm headed to it. Preference wise... I prefer books for solo, but enjoy the videos too. Hell, I've even written a few pieces! I guess the whole "If he really likes me, he won't need it" reason just never agreed with me. There were times XH's sex drive was way more than mine or I just wasn't in the mood. There were times when my sex drive was off the charts or he just wasn't feeling it. The porn helped.
Reading some of the replies I noticed a few things.... if you are against porn, are you also one who will not have a FWB? In general, not directed at anyone.
I've never been into it, never really liked it, but I hated it after the ex opened his trap and ask me, "Gawd, why can't you look like that? That would be awesome. And they do ___ all the time, I don't see why you can't. You're such a bitch."
Safe to say after that, porn was outlawed in my house and we didn't have sex anymore after that.
I like porn, provided everyone is of age, human and giving consent. As long as everyone's clear on the fact that it's fantasy and doesn't get too wrapped up, I don't see the harm.
This likely doesnt surprise anyone.
This is where I stand as well.
Yep. I've made porn with H, too, but it was deleted immediately after we watched it. No Kardashian fame for me.
It sucks that some people are such assholes. I hope this doesn't come off as totally bitchy and insensitive, or condescending, but porn doesn't ruin relationships. People do. And it sucks that people are assholes with regard to porn. Or gambling. Or booze. Or any of the other things that folks can get out of control about.
I've never been into it, never really liked it, but I hated it after the ex opened his trap and ask me, "Gawd, why can't you look like that? That would be awesome. And they do ___ all the time, I don't see why you can't. You're such a bitch."
Because, darling, your dick is nowhere near as big as his. ;D
Dude! That was close to my reply!! I'll look like that when you add another couple of inches at least. And don't forget the six-pack, and I don't mean beer.
It sucks that some people are such assholes. I hope this doesn't come off as totally bitchy and insensitive, or condescending, but porn doesn't ruin relationships. People do. And it sucks that people are assholes with regard to porn. Or gambling. Or booze. Or any of the other things that folks can get out of control about.
Yep. I've made porn with H, too, but it was deleted immediately after we watched it. No Kardashian fame for me.
I'm debating a confession....
Dooooo ittttt!!!!
I've made a porn....and it just so happens the tape got stuck in my camera and I still can't get it out!! It has been deleted but it still makes me nervous since I can't pry it out!
I love porn and I don't think I could be with someone who didn't like it. Obviously they must be of age, human, and consenting. It's not all the time or anything, but I like seeing it and would hope my SO/H could get on board with it. I also get ideas for things to try from it and would want someone willing to... explore a little. For "tamer" porn, I found a porn blog I like a lot if anyone is interested lol.
It sucks that some people are such assholes. I hope this doesn't come off as totally bitchy and insensitive, or condescending, but porn doesn't ruin relationships. People do. And it sucks that people are assholes with regard to porn. Or gambling. Or booze. Or any of the other things that folks can get out of control about.
I agree with you. People who are just assholes are going to be asshole no matter what.
My ex was an asshole before and his comments just added to an even bigger picture to what he was.
I've made a porn....and it just so happens the tape got stuck in my camera and I still can't get it out!! It has been deleted but it still makes me nervous since I can't pry it out!
And yeah, I've made some too. Several... with two different people lol. To my knowledge nothing has been released, that'd be unfortunate.
I love porn and I don't think I could be with someone who didn't like it. Obviously they must be of age, human, and consenting. It's not all the time or anything, but I like seeing it and would hope my SO/H could get on board with it. I also get ideas for things to try from it and would want someone willing to... explore a little. For "tamer" porn, I found a porn blog I like a lot if anyone is interested lol.
I love porn and I don't think I could be with someone who didn't like it. Obviously they must be of age, human, and consenting. It's not all the time or anything, but I like seeing it and would hope my SO/H could get on board with it. I also get ideas for things to try from it and would want someone willing to... explore a little. For "tamer" porn, I found a porn blog I like a lot if anyone is interested lol.
I have an issue from the exploitation aspect as well as "If he's attracted to me, why bring porn into our lives?" kind of POV.
The farthest I got into sensual whatever would be the second love scene from "The Notebook".....and that was some years ago when I was feeling really neglected by my ExH in the bedroom department, and I kept watching it and thinking "I wish that he was as crazy about me as Noah and Allie are for each other."
This is an honest question, but what do you think about when you're getting yourself off?
Seriously? "Wow....that feels good....okay....that feels even better." I get off on the sensations. When I was in a relationship, I thought about the guy I was with at that time.
This is an honest question, but what do you think about when you're getting yourself off?
Seriously? "Wow....that feels good....okay....that feels even better." I get off on the sensations. When I was in a relationship, I thought about the guy I was with at that time.
Wow. So, no fantasizing, really? Huh.
I'm not gonna pretend to know enough to tell people what they should think about while they masturbate. But, might I suggest taking your screen name to heart? Get crazy!