Help me lighten this evening up

[claralou]

Fact: If 9/11 hadn't happened, I'd be married to someone else right now. He'd be alive, and we'd probably have a couple of kids and live in DC, of all places. As happy as I am with my life, this fact still rocks me to my core every damn year. I suspect it always will. 

So I don't dwell in this dark place obsessively all night, let's play a game. Fill in the blank:

"If _____ hadn't happened, I'd be _____ right now." 

And, go!

[charlielove]

Clara, wow I had no idea. I'm so sorry. Hugs, friend.

[thedahliharpa]

Holy crap kid, I'm sorry. Hugs.

I need to think of my answer for the game.

[bigapple]

I'm so sorry.

[Deleted]

Big hugs Clara.

If meeting Dh hadn't happened, I'd be working on The Walking Dead right now. Seriously. True Fact. I chose love. And if that happened, I would have never met you guys.

I always say, everything happens for a reason. I have had some crappy things happen and each time... everything happens for a reason.

And big hugs clara.

[AndyCohen]

Clara, I'm so so sorry. Many hugs to you.

[creamsiclechica]

I've been thinking of you heavily today, honey, truly. I love you so much.

I wouldn't be married to Matt either if it hasn't, but that's in a different vein though. I'd be in a miserable hell, because I'd probably be married to the worst person ever, and I am often grateful that didn't pan out.

[creamsiclechica]

Let me think of a lighthearted one...

If Janie and Jack had never been founded, I'd be significantly richer, lol.

[thedahliharpa]

Sept 11, 2013 22:36:35 GMT -5 creamsiclechica said:

Let me think of a lighthearted one...

If Janie and Jack had never been founded, I'd be significantly richer, lol.

And Violet would be naked!
TrudyCampbell

[claralou]

you know when you're exhausted from a long day at work and a teething kiddo, emotionally drained in general and a couple of glasses of wine into your evening? And you're watching 9/11 coverage?

And then you find yourself creating a post of something insanely heavy because hey, this sucks, so you think to yourself "I know what will make me feel better: A game! No matter that I've already depressed the f&*% out of my friends, they'll totally think this is fun!"

And then you pour another glass of wine and come back to the laptop and think "you know, I totally shouldn't have posted that"

Thanks ladies. I still have flimsy coping mechanisms for this, so am just dwelling. H will be home soon with sushi. I just need to turn off the damn television and go to bed.

[creamsiclechica]

Sept 11, 2013 22:39:17 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

Sept 11, 2013 22:36:35 GMT -5 creamsiclechica said:

Let me think of a lighthearted one...

If Janie and Jack had never been founded, I'd be significantly richer, lol.

And Violet would be naked!
TrudyCampbell

This is kind of a shame actually, because naked Violet is probably the cutest thing on earth.

[shevacc]

Sept 11, 2013 22:39:17 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

Sept 11, 2013 22:36:35 GMT -5 creamsiclechica said:

Let me think of a lighthearted one...

If Janie and Jack had never been founded, I'd be significantly richer, lol.

And Violet would be naked!
TrudyCampbell

She'd still be cute, though! But...I think the law frowns on naked baby pictures. So TrudyCampbell might be in jail!

[skwcm80]

I'm so sorry.

[shevacc]

Sept 11, 2013 22:41:32 GMT -5 creamsiclechica said:

Sept 11, 2013 22:39:17 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

And Violet would be naked!
TrudyCampbell

This is kind of a shame actually, because naked Violet is probably the cutest thing on earth.

jinx!

[shevacc]

Sept 11, 2013 22:40:23 GMT -5 claralou said:

you know when you're exhausted from a long day at work and a teething kiddo, emotionally drained in general and a couple of glasses of wine into your evening? And you're watching 9/11 coverage?

And then you find yourself creating a post of something insanely heavy because hey, this sucks, so you think to yourself "I know what will make me feel better: A game! No matter that I've already depressed the f&*% out of my friends, they'll totally think this is fun!"

And then you pour another glass of wine and come back to the laptop and think "you know, I totally shouldn't have posted that"

Thanks ladies. I still have flimsy coping mechanisms for this, so am just dwelling. H will be home soon with sushi. I just need to turn off the damn television and go to bed.

Oh sweetie, I can't imagine. I'm so sorry. It's ok to remember and to feel sad; we'll be here for you.

[creamsiclechica]

Sept 11, 2013 22:40:23 GMT -5 claralou said:

you know when you're exhausted from a long day at work and a teething kiddo, emotionally drained in general and a couple of glasses of wine into your evening? And you're watching 9/11 coverage?

And then you find yourself creating a post of something insanely heavy because hey, this sucks, so you think to yourself "I know what will make me feel better: A game! No matter that I've already depressed the f&*% out of my friends, they'll totally think this is fun!"

And then you pour another glass of wine and come back to the laptop and think "you know, I totally shouldn't have posted that"

Thanks ladies. I still have flimsy coping mechanisms for this, so am just dwelling. H will be home soon with sushi. I just need to turn off the damn television and go to bed.

Hush, you. We will make this into a game! And we will make you feel better. I'd probably have better responses if I could have wine, but I'll do my best.

[Deleted]

Sept 11, 2013 22:40:23 GMT -5 claralou said:

you know when you're exhausted from a long day at work and a teething kiddo, emotionally drained in general and a couple of glasses of wine into your evening? And you're watching 9/11 coverage?

And then you find yourself creating a post of something insanely heavy because hey, this sucks, so you think to yourself "I know what will make me feel better: A game! No matter that I've already depressed the f&*% out of my friends, they'll totally think this is fun!"

And then you pour another glass of wine and come back to the laptop and think "you know, I totally shouldn't have posted that"

Thanks ladies. I still have flimsy coping mechanisms for this, so am just dwelling. H will be home soon with sushi. I just need to turn off the damn television and go to bed.

Eat the sushi before going to bed! 

And if you dont turn off the TV, turn the channel to something ridiculous. Seriously.

xoxoxo 

[charlielove]

No, you understandably wanted to let it out, that's a good coping mechanism. Talking about it is important 2, 10, or 30 years later. I'm glad you did and I hope it helped a teensy bit.

I'm just too tired to think of a witty response to your game. possibly because I still can't drink red wine after the fly incident. Ugh.

[Deleted]

Sept 11, 2013 22:39:17 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

Sept 11, 2013 22:36:35 GMT -5 creamsiclechica said:

Let me think of a lighthearted one...

If Janie and Jack had never been founded, I'd be significantly richer, lol.

And Violet would be naked!
TrudyCampbell

lol!

Hugs Clara!!!

If my brother hadn't have gotten in trouble with drugs in high school, I wouldn't have met DH

[kkfeb04]

I'm sorry.

[creamsiclechica]

If it wasn't for Dorothy Zbornak I wouldn't know there was such a thing a German village aerobics.

[claralou]

Sept 11, 2013 22:46:01 GMT -5 charlielove said:

No, you understandably wanted to let it out, that's a good coping mechanism. Talking about it is important 2, 10, or 30 years later. I'm glad you did and I hope it helped a teensy bit.

I'm just too tired to think of a witty response to your game. possibly because I still can't drink red wine after the fly incident. Ugh.

Oh honey, flies aren't in ALL THE WINE! I promise.

:-)

[charlielove]

Sept 11, 2013 22:50:05 GMT -5 claralou said:

Sept 11, 2013 22:46:01 GMT -5 charlielove said:

No, you understandably wanted to let it out, that's a good coping mechanism. Talking about it is important 2, 10, or 30 years later. I'm glad you did and I hope it helped a teensy bit.

I'm just too tired to think of a witty response to your game. possibly because I still can't drink red wine after the fly incident. Ugh.

Oh honey, flies aren't in ALL THE WINE! I promise.

:-)

I'll get there, I will.

[claralou]

Sept 11, 2013 22:45:04 GMT -5 creamsiclechica said:

Sept 11, 2013 22:40:23 GMT -5 claralou said:

Hush, you. We will make this into a game! And we will make you feel better. I'd probably have better responses if I could have wine, but I'll do my best.

I have been thinking of you all day too, my dear. YOU should not be concerning yourself with silly games. We should be cheering you up and turning off your tv and and sending your sweet, pregnant self to bed. Love you. 

[lolaburns]

Clara I'm so sorry. I think however you need to process your emotions no matter how much time has lapsed, you should.

If Charlie had not posted about drinking a fly in her adult beverage, I'd be enjoying an adult beverage right now. All I can think of is swallowing a praying mantis.

[monkeybabe]

I had no idea, claralou, I'm so sorry. *big, gigantic hugs*

If I had never dated my ex, and gotten into playing video games with him, I never would have met/married Patsy, made Zoe, and made friends with all of you.

Sorry, Ryan, you were just a stepping stone.

[monkeybabe]

Oh, and another fun tidbit along my if, then. When said ex found out I e-liked Patsy, he got super bent out of shape and sent me an angry email about how Patsy could be my dad and I was disgusting. FYI, if any of your sons are making babies at 12, you ladies need to step up your parenting. Just fartin'. I was sad when my hotmail was inactive too long and it ate that email. I was keeping it for absurdities sake.

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Sept 11, 2013 22:16:24 GMT -5 claralou said:

Fact: If 9/11 hadn't happened, I'd be married to someone else right now. He'd be alive, and we'd probably have a couple of kids and live in DC, of all places. As happy as I am with my life, this fact still rocks me to my core every damn year. I suspect it always will. 

So I don't dwell in this dark place obsessively all night, let's play a game. Fill in the blank:

"If _____ hadn't happened, I'd be _____ right now." 

And, go!

Oh man, look at me, all teary at work, like a regular Joe asshole. I'm so sorry.

If my douchebag boyfriend in college hadn't dumped me, I would probably be working at a lame small-town newspaper, covering the annual chicken show or some shit.

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Sept 11, 2013 22:40:23 GMT -5 claralou said:

you know when you're exhausted from a long day at work and a teething kiddo, emotionally drained in general and a couple of glasses of wine into your evening? And you're watching 9/11 coverage?

And then you find yourself creating a post of something insanely heavy because hey, this sucks, so you think to yourself "I know what will make me feel better: A game! No matter that I've already depressed the f&*% out of my friends, they'll totally think this is fun!"

And then you pour another glass of wine and come back to the laptop and think "you know, I totally shouldn't have posted that"

Thanks ladies. I still have flimsy coping mechanisms for this, so am just dwelling. H will be home soon with sushi. I just need to turn off the damn television and go to bed.

Oh, fuck that! You post all you want. This day is hard enough for those of us who just watched it all go down on TV from thousands of miles away. I can't even begin to imagine what it's like for someone who lost a loved one.

[monkeybabe]

Sept 11, 2013 23:43:55 GMT -5 Dorothy Zbornak said:

Sept 11, 2013 22:40:23 GMT -5 claralou said:

you know when you're exhausted from a long day at work and a teething kiddo, emotionally drained in general and a couple of glasses of wine into your evening? And you're watching 9/11 coverage?

And then you find yourself creating a post of something insanely heavy because hey, this sucks, so you think to yourself "I know what will make me feel better: A game! No matter that I've already depressed the f&*% out of my friends, they'll totally think this is fun!"

And then you pour another glass of wine and come back to the laptop and think "you know, I totally shouldn't have posted that"

Thanks ladies. I still have flimsy coping mechanisms for this, so am just dwelling. H will be home soon with sushi. I just need to turn off the damn television and go to bed.

Oh, fuck that! You post all you want. This day is hard enough for those of us who just watched it all go down on TV from thousands of miles away. I can't even begin to imagine what it's like for someone who lost a loved one.

Seriously. This. We're here for you, always.