Why were you flamed? That's dumb. If he didn't drive because of a crime he'd committed, then I could see why people would react that way. Other than that, not a big deal, IMO.
ETA - Now a REAL confession, and one that would have probably gotten you flamed was to say that it was not your H you were sexing last night. That's what you really came in here to say, isn't it?
I will confess I took a pregnancy test last night. But it was a just-in-case testing. I realized when I got my period last week, I only had light spotting for two days, and then nothing. I started to think about it and had an oh fuck moment. I have a zillion wondfo test strips so it was no biggie. I will be drinking Dark and Stormy's at the party Saturday.
Post by partiallysunny on Oct 17, 2013 10:18:28 GMT -5
IRL, he does get a lot of shit for it. Considering I drive, make the money, and manage the household, he gets a lot of "we know who wears the pants in your family".
I will confess I took a pregnancy test last night. But it was a just-in-case testing. I realized when I got my period last week, I only had light spotting for two days, and then nothing. I started to think about it and had an oh fuck moment. I have a zillion wondfo test strips so it was no biggie. I will be drinking Dark and Stormy's at the party Saturday.
After having kid, this is how my periods are. Short and light. I've taken a few "just in case tests" myself.
Why were you flamed? That's dumb. If he didn't drive because of a crime he'd committed, then I could see why people would react that way. Other than that, not a big deal, IMO.
ETA - Now a REAL confession, and one that would have probably gotten you flamed was to say that it was not your H you were sexing last night. That's what you really came in here to say, isn't it?
Honestly, PS, I think it's safer for some people NOT to drive. Sometimes it's for medical reasons, sometimes it's more mental, but really, if it's not safe for you to be on the road I'd rather you didn't.
My confession is that stbx said something last night that kind of got to me. I've gotten pretty good at just letting things "roll off my back", but this one kind of makes me want to do something I'll probably regret later just so I can say "HA! Fucker!!". Nothing will come of it because I have this thing called self control (most of the time), but it pissed me off. Which is probably why he said it.
Honestly, PS, I think it's safer for some people NOT to drive. Sometimes it's for medical reasons, sometimes it's more mental, but really, if it's not safe for you to be on the road I'd rather you didn't.
My confession is that stbx said something last night that kind of got to me. I've gotten pretty good at just letting things "roll off my back", but this one kind of makes me want to do something I'll probably regret later just so I can say "HA! Fucker!!". Nothing will come of it because I have this thing called self control (most of the time), but it pissed me off. Which is probably why he said it.
Honestly, PS, I think it's safer for some people NOT to drive. Sometimes it's for medical reasons, sometimes it's more mental, but really, if it's not safe for you to be on the road I'd rather you didn't.
My confession is that stbx said something last night that kind of got to me. I've gotten pretty good at just letting things "roll off my back", but this one kind of makes me want to do something I'll probably regret later just so I can say "HA! Fucker!!". Nothing will come of it because I have this thing called self control (most of the time), but it pissed me off. Which is probably why he said it.
Post by starrieskies on Oct 17, 2013 10:42:21 GMT -5
He was talking about a guy that he works with going out on a date, his first in like 15 years and said that he likes to think that "we had something to do with it." Apparently he told his co-worker that he was going to give him shit for the rest of his life if he didn't get laid before stbx because he's had a 15 year head start.
This makes me want to go find someone to have sex with just so I can say I did it first. I know this is irrational and would be detrimental to my healing process, but part of me just wants to be a bitch.
He was talking about a guy that he works with going out on a date, his first in like 15 years and said that he likes to think that "we had something to do with it." Apparently he told his co-worker that he was going to give him shit for the rest of his life if he didn't get laid before stbx because he's had a 15 year head start.
This makes me want to go find someone to have sex with just so I can say I did it first. I know this is irrational and would be detrimental to my healing process, but part of me just wants to be a bitch.
::douchechills::
And yes, you'll get there when you're ready. I get the urge to be a bitch, but don't sabotage yourself just to get back at him.
FTR, if he makes it a point to tell you when that event happens for him, I'll come over there myself and cut his balls off with a rusty spoon.
Post by starrieskies on Oct 17, 2013 10:50:49 GMT -5
I brushed it off at the time, but now that I've had time to process it a little bit more it just makes me mad. Like I said, I'm sure he said it to get a reaction out of me and it worked but I'm not going to let him know that.
To be clear, I meant that I get why you would feel that way about what he said. I was not saying I can relate to why he said it. Ew.
The two of you were together for a long time, so he knows how to push your buttons. I think the key is that you're not letting on that his comments are getting to you. I bet that's driving him bonkers!
My confession: I've been down in the dumps ever since BFF's wedding last weekend but I can't place a finger on why. I'm legit happy for her. I think she made a good choice (and was happy to see he was quite emotional to marry her). I keep thinking that maybe I'm getting caught back up in the comparison cycle (she was a gorgeous bride), but that's not ringing totally true either. I feel dumb admitting that I have the post-wedding blues after someone else's wedding.
My confession: I've been down in the dumps ever since BFF's wedding last weekend but I can't place a finger on why. I'm legit happy for her. I think she made a good choice (and was happy to see he was quite emotional to marry her). I keep thinking that maybe I'm getting caught back up in the comparison cycle (she was a gorgeous bride), but that's not ringing totally true either. I feel dumb admitting that I have the post-wedding blues after someone else's wedding.
Are you sure this isn't post-wedding blues after your own since it was pretty recently? I felt the same a few weeks after our honeymoon/vacation ended.
My confession: I've been down in the dumps ever since BFF's wedding last weekend but I can't place a finger on why. I'm legit happy for her. I think she made a good choice (and was happy to see he was quite emotional to marry her). I keep thinking that maybe I'm getting caught back up in the comparison cycle (she was a gorgeous bride), but that's not ringing totally true either. I feel dumb admitting that I have the post-wedding blues after someone else's wedding.
My confession: I've been down in the dumps ever since BFF's wedding last weekend but I can't place a finger on why. I'm legit happy for her. I think she made a good choice (and was happy to see he was quite emotional to marry her). I keep thinking that maybe I'm getting caught back up in the comparison cycle (she was a gorgeous bride), but that's not ringing totally true either. I feel dumb admitting that I have the post-wedding blues after someone else's wedding.
Are you sure this isn't post-wedding blues after your own since it was pretty recently? I felt the same a few weeks after our honeymoon/vacation ended.
My confession: I've been down in the dumps ever since BFF's wedding last weekend but I can't place a finger on why. I'm legit happy for her. I think she made a good choice (and was happy to see he was quite emotional to marry her). I keep thinking that maybe I'm getting caught back up in the comparison cycle (she was a gorgeous bride), but that's not ringing totally true either. I feel dumb admitting that I have the post-wedding blues after someone else's wedding.
Are you sure this isn't post-wedding blues after your own since it was pretty recently? I felt the same a few weeks after our honeymoon/vacation ended.
I don't *think* so. I was pretty relieved when it was over. I mean, I could totally go for another honeymoon, but I hope to never plan another wedding again. Maybe I'm getting caught in the "I wish I would have..." Like, I wish I had done my hair differently and lost more weight.
I thought you were pregnant too partiallysunny. TBH driving gives me terrible anxiety.
My period should be starting soon. I'll keep ya'll informed.
I do too DL. That's why it was hard for me to understand why he couldn't just "suck it up" and get his license. But I also thought for a long time his medication was unnecessary. Childhood baggage, party of me.