Do you tell your H that he's the smartest man you know?

[fangoriagurkel]

SO is in the throes of his first semester back in school and is having a rough time getting excited about math. He has an upcoming test and I told him that I am very confident in his abilities since he's the smartest guy I know.

Is your H the smartest guy you know? And do you ever tell him?

[MWOS]

lol

[stephm0188]

Why would I lie to him?

Is he smart? Yes. Is he the smartest man I know? No...

[bonquiqui]

I would tell him in bitstrips "baby you are the smartest most awesome man ever"  ::kissy face::

[pantsparty]

This would be like H telling me I'm the hottest woman he knows.

I mean, I'm up there, but COME ON.

[noodleskooze]

No…because he's not.

[Deleted]

No. He probably is, or is in the upper echelons, but he'd feel weird if I said it and in no way lacks self esteem in that category.

Eta: this post is making me all hormonally in love with my husband. He's so intellectually curious, which I admire more than raw smarts. He reads everything and knows about all sorts of things. No lie, he's reading Plato for kicks right now. I think he's great.

[papie]

I have once told him that I think he is almost as smart as me, which is a pretty damn big compliment coming from me ;-)

[sharknado]

Yes and yes

[pantsparty]

Can't you just say something like you know how smart he is, how hard he's worked, and that he's got this? That would probably come across as more genuine.

[AmeliaBedelia]

I've told him he's smart, but he's certainly not the smartest man I know and I have no reason to tell him that he is.

[Deleted]

No and no

[koopa17]

Lol, no. I mean I tell him he's really smart, but I don't tell him he's THE smartest. I would totally believe him if he told me I was the smartest woman he knows, though.

[Deleted]

What? No.

[wambam]

He really is. He coasted through a mechanical engineering degree at a prestige university like it was no big thing.

[Jermys]

H is the smartest person I know. I don't really tell him that often though.

[Deleted]

No because he already tells me and himself that on a regular basis.

LOL.

[vampsterdam]

All the time!

I bow in his presence, too!

[lola]

My H really is the smartest man I know. He knows this and I know this. I don't really tell him frequently, because it would be like me pointing out that the sky is blue or something. lol.

[TrickyBob]

I tell him he is smart. I tell him that I have faith in him. I tell him that I am confidant he can do something.

But I have not and will not tell him he is the smartest man I know because A) he isn't and B) his ego would make his head too fat and he'd be stuck inside forever. Stuck inside with ME. No.

[pedanticwench]

I actually think he is the smartest guy I know, personally, but I don't think I've ever told him. I probably should.

[daisybuchannan]

Lol, no.

Is this something I'm supposed to do?

[Armadale]

Ha! No, he has zero self confidence issues. Plus, I'm not one to say stuff like that anyway so he'd wonder WTF was up with me.

[Deleted]

My H is smart, but he's not even close to the smartest man/person I know.

THAT would be my friend S, who had a PHD in neuropharmacology, a Masters is something similar, and 2 science degrees. He's also extremely well-versed in international and political affairs. If he wasn't gay, I would totally have fallen in love with him

[Deleted]

No, because I don't think it is true, even though he is probably ONE of the smartest men I know.

[snickers]

No, but it's never really come up in conversation.

[janegold]

No, lol. He is absolutely the best at what he does - I'd go as far to say that he is easily among the top 5 or 10 in his industry - but definitely not the smartest person I know overall. He's not very well-rounded as far as his skill-set goes, tbh.

[papie]

And while it makes sense that it would be true for some, wouldn't it weird if every woman out there was married to the smartest man she ever met?

I also once told a BF that he wasn't as smart as my dad. He was so insulted. But really, when I was 18, my dad was truly the smartest person I knew.

This also makes me realize that I surround myself with people who are as full of themselves and their brains as I am, lollolol

[MWOS]

I'm the smartest person that many people know and I don't like being told that before an exam

Being smart is completely useless if you're not prepared for the exam

ywia. sorry, but now that we've conversed, your husband has dropped to #2.

[game blouses]

I do, because he is, lol. He was valedictorian for his high school and graduated an Ivy League with honors. He says the same to me even though I know it's not true.