She has known an awful secret about her SIL for several years. She is now wondering if shesshould tell.
OP: take it to the grave. I wouldn't touch this situation with a 10 foot pole and I'd be pissed that SIL told me at all. That is such a heavy thing to tell someone and expect them not to spill.
She has known an awful secret about her SIL for several years. She is now wondering if shesshould tell.
OP: take it to the grave. I wouldn't touch this situation with a 10 foot pole and I'd be pissed that SIL told me at all. That is such a heavy thing to tell someone and expect them not to spill.
Post by VeryViolet on Oct 31, 2013 21:43:37 GMT -5
You need to stay as far away from this and out of it as possible. Do not tell anybody.
Telling your DH I am really torn on. It may cause marital issues for you if he is pissed you have been keeping this secret. Honestly, I probably wouldn't tell him either but I can see an argument for telling him too. Hopefully someone here will have better advice on that.
Seriously I cannot emphasize enough how much this isn't your business and you do not need to get into outting her to your ILs.
At this point, I'd probably say something to her about the "flirty" FB exchanges. In person. And then let it sit there. The "10 second pause" is a great interview technique, people usually get so weirded out they spill their guts. "Remember when you told me you and hotdudenotyourhusband had a hot and heavy flirtation? It looks like it's starting up again." And then pause.
I wouldn't even say anything because you are better off not getting any more involved.
I think your reasons for keeping the secret originally were valid, and since it ended shortly afterwards, it was probably best that you never told anyone. But if you were to pry now, you would involve yourself all over again, and your original excuse for not telling anyone would no longer hold.
So, yeah, MYOB. And even if she comes to you and admits that they are cheating again, ask her to leave you out of it because you won't be able to keep it a secret from your H this time.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
Lol, hold on, you went to another friend who cheats for advice??
I see the irony in this. But it wasn't for advice. I just needed to tell someone that I could trust to keep it to herself (this was back when I first found out) and I wasn't surprised by what she had to say (not to tell). All I'm saying is she wasn't so objective.
At this point, I'd probably say something to her about the "flirty" FB exchanges. In person. And then let it sit there. The "10 second pause" is a great interview technique, people usually get so weirded out they spill their guts. "Remember when you told me you and hotdudenotyourhusband had a hot and heavy flirtation? It looks like it's starting up again." And then pause.