You've told us. Hopefully you got it out of your system, and can keep your mouth shut with the families.
It does help that I've been able to get it out here. What was hard for me was, like I wrote in OP, I'd only told my friend who cheats. I wasn't surprised her advice was not to say anything. I was thinking people would say "What if it was YOUR marriage?! Wouldn't YOU want to know?" and that's what has been hard. I would absolutely want to know if my H was in love and physically cheating on me with my best friend for almost a year. All the MYOB's have helped solidify the right thing for me, though. I've kept my mouth shut this long...
Although this is true, technically your loyalty should lie with her and not her H, since she is your family and he is not.
Look at it this way. If you regret that she confided in you in the first place, then why would you purposefully stick yourself in the middle now?
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
Touche. I guess the difference for me is that my friend has never been in a serious relationship and this is a marriage, with kids (which, I know, I know, also makes the fallout worse).
You didn't tell when there was actually something to tell, so why tell now when you don't even know if there's something to tell? Don't talk about it, if she brings it up shut it down. Say " if you don't want me to tell anyone I know about the affair then please act like there is nothing to know. I want no part in this. ". Try not to think about it.
Thanks everyone for the advice. It's helped to just hear it straight. I know we hate when people DD but I'm going to JIC SIL could stumble on it somehow (paranoid, party of me).
Thanks everyone for the advice. It's helped to just hear it straight. I know we hate when people DD but I'm going to JIC SIL could stumble on it somehow (paranoid, party of me).